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CappyLove
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posted February 18, 2014 04:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Guys,

I am new enough to this. I have been learning for the past few months but this is a rather complex one!! I have been told various things and when I was at a private astro chart I got into a heated argument with the astrologer who told me to run and get him out of my life to find out later she has made several mistakes with predictions as such. She didn't explain anything just handed out accusations for free.

I will make an anniversary with my man next month, we get on very well and it is a long distance in which we try to visit each other regularly and after next year I will move to Spain to work and be with him, first must finish uni. When we are together we feel so comfortable and loving and warm and he is so intelligent we can stay up all day and night discussing various interesting topics. We get on very well but from time to time my emotions are a bit unstable due to missing him and sometimes I feel that he doesn't give show me enough emotion but he really does love me and asks me everyday how I am and if there is something he is always there to listen and support me. I am enchanted with this man! Never met a man I would like to actually share a life with to that extent. Please let me know what you guys think

http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi ?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_02_01_elizabeth_gonza.77137.21627.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

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posted February 18, 2014 06:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thoughts anyone??

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posted February 18, 2014 06:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm still very new to this, but I'll try my best to give you an interpretation.

Synastry:
Your Venus is in his first house along with your Pluto. This indicates that he has a very passionate physical attraction to you. The attraction is quite possibly obsessive and even dark to an extent due to Pluto being in Scorpio.
You have your Ascendants Conjunct one another's Descendants, which is always nice. You are opposites, at least in the way you present yourself. But opposites attract, and that is the case with the two of you. You are attracted to one another, or were initially, because you could sense that both of you "complete" each other per se.
Pluto seems to be very important here even though it is an outer planet. Your Pluto is Conjunct his Asc and his Pluto is Conjunct your Dsc making for a lot of attraction, even feelings of wanting to be partners for life.
His Sun, Mercury, and Jupiter are in your 5th house, which indicates that he loves to spend time with you and to love you.
He has his Moon in your 8th house, which shows that he has a deep, emotional attachment to you. The 8th house is not only the house of death, but also of marriage and committed relationships, and he really wants that from you. Honestly, from house overlays alone, I think he loves you more than even you love him.
Your Mars is Trine his Venus, which seems like a great synastry aspect to have because it makes for a lot of attraction, knowing how to love the other, knowing what the other wants, and thinking each other pretty ideal.
Your Suns are Trine, which is nice because your outer personalities are very much in tune with one another. You both like who the other person is and respect each other.

The aspects I think that are bad and major are:
Moon Square Sun- This is a very complex aspect because it could be one that causes a lot of attraction. But over time, it could prove to be detrimental to the relationship unless the two of you consciously work out your differences and keep each other comfortable. You might feel as though he is being self-centered or egocentric even when he isn't, that he isn't listening to your perspective. And he may start to become distant to your emotions, finding you to be too sensitive or too emotional. There could be a lot of small arguments that over time just become plain frustrating.

Moon Square Moon- This aspect is one that requires growth and acceptance on both your parts. It can actually strengthen your relationship when worked around. I wouldn't say this one is detrimental. Your timings will be off. "When one is up, the other will be down..." and so on. A lot of your habits don't match. If he's a night person, you're a morning person. You'll find yourselves out of sync with each other basically.

Composite:
There really isn't a lot for me to comment on here. I'm very sure that I'm missing something, but there doesn't seem to be any major aspects except Sun Conjunct Mars. Just because all of your planets fall in the Southern part of the chart, I'd say that your relationship will be a very extroverted one. You'll have a lot of mutual friends and be very social. What's unfortunate about this chart is that there is a lack of planets in the fifth and eighth house, which is probably why a lot of astrologers have told you this is a bad composite. The 5th house is the house of romance and creativity, which could end up being lacking in your relationship. The eighth house is the house of death and marriage, and that is empty as well, possibly indicating a lack of commitment. From looking at the synastry, I'd think that that lack will come from your part. You have a very active 12th house, which may indicate that you will keep secrets from each other. This is further indicated by Mercury Square Saturn/Moon, which shows a lack of communication, especially on the emotional level.

Sun Conjunct Mars- This makes for a very passionate, intense, exciting relationship. There is possibility for anger on both your parts, but this energy can be channeled positively. You are both very energetic around each other and can even be competitive towards one another.

I hope this helps

EDIT: Reading this over, I just realized that I came off as possibly accusing you of cheating on him. Sorry about that. I was typing very objectively.

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posted February 18, 2014 06:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi!

Thank you for your interpretation Don't worry I haven't yet cheated on anyone in my life I doubt I would do that to the love of my life
That was quite a bit more optimistic than anyone has had ever made it

All these planets in the 12th house in the composite freak me out so much though! I was reading on it and so far nothing of good fortune and the moon conj saturn in the composite, hard to remain positive with that but for the sake of my love with him I will give him my very most

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posted February 18, 2014 06:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JennsenS2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Cappy,

I'll give a try but remember I'm a beginner at Astrology xD. I'm not saying this relationship is bad nor good, just what I see .

In your synastry chart, Sun opposite Moon and Venus square Pluto explain why you guys are really attracted to each other. Moon square moon shows that your emotion needs are not the same. Moon in Pisces needs more closeness while Moon in Sagittarius is more detached.

In your composite chart, Venus is in the 9th house but also the ruler of that house which could explain the long distance relationship. Love is also expressed more intellectually than emotionally.
Venus square Uranus is a difficult aspect which can separate you guys but you also have Moon tightly conjunct Saturn which offsets that separating aspect and works like glue. I would say the most difficult aspect in your composite chart is composite Venus tightly square Neptune. This aspect makes you believe that you have met the ideal of your life. Everything may seem perfect and ideal but you may realize later that it is quite different from what you had imagined. Neptune is the planet of both of illusion and the ideal.

I would say take your time to think before deciding to move to Spain .

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posted February 18, 2014 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jennsen thank you for your reading!
Interesting that you say that! Yes I have been told not to put my hopes up too high and expect too much, just go with the flow
Funny thing is that I also went to a psychic who warned me that I should go to Spain to him once I know that I truly love him! But he also said we are strong together and we will have a new beginning by the I am 27. Now what does he mean by new beginning not too sure.

And yes it es very intellectual though I bring in emotions in there too and protest if he doesn't respond with my intensity. But apart from that, a year gone and not many other problems.

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posted February 18, 2014 07:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am actually really confused about what you should do with this. I think that if you get married, the marriage might not go so well, but the two of you obviously love each other a lot. I know that this sounds strange, but is it possible for the two of you to just not get married?

My aunt went out with someone for 7 years, and they finally decided to get married. A little over a year later, they had a son. A few months later, he started cheating on her, and she ended up divorcing him… It's unbelievable how 7 years of commitment without commitment ended up leading to one year of infidelity in commitment. Basically what I'm saying is that you might find that one of you is afraid of the concept of commitment but is actually loyal without committing. I hope this makes sense.

I know that this may not be possible. But it's just something I feel should be considered.

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posted February 18, 2014 07:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Now that is so interesting!!!! See it wouldn't be me having fears it would definitely be him! He knows my goal is marriage and kids and a home which will be interesting and ever changing in a good way and for us to work on balanced terms by which I mean that I don't want a man who will work all day and come home late at night and then leave in the morning. I wanna see him and spend valuable time with him and talk and share all we know and feel. I am this man's first girlfriend yet I have never felt so comfortable with another human being! with my ex I had war!!! he stripped me from my identity over 2 years and left me in ruins. My current man has healed my wounds but yes I am afraid that he might become sexually experimental one day with other woman so he feels like he has known what other women feel like if you get me...

Here is me and my ex so u get a better idea
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posted February 18, 2014 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What shocks me even more is if you look at my ex (the links above this comment) u will see similarities and by that striking ones between me and my ex and my current boyfriend....is this some sort of Karma?????? :O

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posted February 18, 2014 08:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think it's karma so much as you liking the same qualities in a relationship. That's not to say that you didn't grow to like other things, but the base qualities are the same. That said, the one with your ex seems like it would be emotionally draining for you since you were emotionally committed (Moon in his eighth), while his commitment was erratic (Uranus) and blurry (Neptune).

Going back to your current guy, I'm rethinking the cheating part, but there will be secrets at the very least and tension because your styles will be different. As in, the way in which you approach things, the way you behave, the way you operate will differ. You'll both have to be very flexible and accommodating

Will edit later. I started typing and needed to stop partway. Sorry.

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posted February 18, 2014 08:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I will admit that I LOVE intensity!! Swing it at me! Emotional intensity is great as long as it is loving and fun. I NEED intellectual stimulation to be happy, a partner who will challenge my mind, I can communicate with freely and debate but anything and everything! I also like calm partners who will never lift a finger at me and will not abuse me emotionally (my ex used to blackmail me (if u don't change and grow up by 5 years we will not work....sorry Liz I know it has been 2 years but I dunno why I just don't love you but I try but all I see are your flaws....you need to change this, that, the other...EVERYTHING) so ya that left me on my knees. But getting back to the point I also look for romantic men who will spend time with me and shower me with love and patience and be my wall of security. And lastly but not least I DESIRE passion! I need passion in the bedroom! I like being addicted to the man, even his skin smell, to look at his eyes and fall madly in love with the person they are....
Maybe that makes some sense??

And don't worry! You can tell me later. It is 2 am where I live so I will be back in a few hours after a bit of sleep

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posted February 18, 2014 10:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I forgot where exactly I was going with what I was saying earlier... so, I'll just reply to the post you did after instead.

That actually makes perfect sense. I want a lot of that in a girl and can understand the other desires as well.

Also, I am very happy that you broke up with that guy. I honestly hope you did it in as verbally aggressive a way as possible. (And I have Retrograde Libra Mars Opposite Saturn in Aries, so I am usually very against aggression.) Wow, I really shouldn't be advising that. I'm sorry he was so manipulative though. I really hate situations like that; it's the one thing that gets me really angry.

Oh! Now I remember where I was going with it. From the synastry alone, I really don't think your current boyfriend will do anything to intentionally hurt you. He seems to be very committed to you, and he seems to really want to make you happy. As I said earlier, is there any way you can marry without marrying? I honestly think that some kind of very weird situation is possible if you "commit" to each other but can be avoided if you truly commit from your hearts instead of on paper.

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posted February 19, 2014 05:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Actually it is funny that you say that. I was soft on the guy because I truly loved him and couldn't hurt him the way he had done so for a year when we started living together abroad. In a way I thank him for teaching me so much bout life and forcing me to acquire new skills. We are still friends and we occasionally meet at the uni. There was after all 5 years difference between us I was 19 when we started going out and he 24...I guess despite being mature I couldn't match up to that.

Now in regards to my current man u think it is unwise to marry. That is really strange!! But I know he is nowhere near ready for something like that just yet which is fine....hmmmmmmm well I guess I will either have to sacrifice that or be patient. By sacrifice I mean my idea of marriage. I guess only time will tell how the cards will unfold and how our existence together would work. He is a genuinely great guy and really sweet and despite the distance always looking out for me. I am very happy with him but I strongly believe that I will not know him so well until I move to Spain and we live together a bit. It'll either make us or break us.

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posted February 19, 2014 12:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I realized after typing that that your relationship with the first guy had to have something special to it since it went on for over two years.
It's nice that you took it positively. There's probably a lot more to it than I can gather from a couple sentences.

I am actually confused about whether you should marry him. On one hand, I feel as though it shouldn't matter, that the relationship should be the same either way. But on the other hand, there is just something that says you two would be great together and you shouldn't take the chance by marrying.

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posted February 19, 2014 12:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I guess it was special in a way I feel there was a purpose for iTto happen like living abroad and growing up and being challenged to get out of my comfort zones and simply learn bout life and emotions and how these things work in a more realistic setting.

Have you ever seen a chart similar to this?? I think I can tackle most problems after my last relationship and learning so so so much bout family and how to work with another person. As long as we love each other and don't cheat and don't kill each other verbally or physically and doesn't do drugs or alcohol then it shouldn't be too bad haha or so I hope. I try to be realistic with my expectations and I know nothing good comes easily

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posted February 19, 2014 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would love it If it was possible to get a few more viewpoints, everyone reads these charts in a different way
Just wondering if anyone has a similar synastry and composite or know of anyone in a similar situation

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posted February 19, 2014 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
OMG :O Kings of Cups u gotta see this!!
Remember when I told u that my psychic told me that when I am 27 things will change and me and my man will have a new beginning?? Well a solar return chart says the same!!! Though not sure of what to think of it!!! OMG :O
http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_32gw_02_elizabeth_2019110.304.36896.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

And I think this chart will clear up the final outcome.
http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_32gw_02_elizabeth_2020110.713.4825.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

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posted February 19, 2014 08:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That sounds really interesting. But Idk what I'm supposed to be looking for. And even if I did, I think I'd need your natal chart as well. Could you tell me why you think your solar return symbolizes a new beginning? I'm very interested in learning.

Also, your final outcome has Mars, which I'm thinking symbolizes your current boyfriend, in the 12th house, so... again, I'm seeing some sort of secret-keeping. I'm not saying that there he'll cheat on you or something. I actually really don't think he will. He seems loyal to you. But something will be kept foggy. Although, I've never done a solar return before, so don't go by me on this one.

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posted February 19, 2014 08:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JennsenS2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can see Uranus in the 4th house of your second solar return chart. The 4th house is the house of family and home, your roots. Uranus also trine Jupiter. Jupiter rules long distance travel. It could mean you'll move out to another country or at least there will be changes in that area of your life.

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posted February 20, 2014 12:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by JennsenS2:
I can see Uranus in the 4th house of your second solar return chart. The 4th house is the house of family and home, your roots. Uranus also trine Jupiter. Jupiter rules long distance travel. It could mean you'll move out to another country or at least there will be changes in that area of your life.

The long distance travel thing make sense, since she'll have to go to Spain to be with him. But I have a question about Uranus in the 4th. Why is that a good thing? Uranus is rebellious and erratic (even if revolutionary to an extent). Wouldn't that make for a very inconsistent, albeit exciting, home life?

Again, Idk too much about these types of charts. But I'm really curious about the thought process.

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posted February 20, 2014 01:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for JennsenS2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by KingofCups:
The long distance travel thing make sense, since she'll have to go to Spain to be with him. But I have a question about Uranus in the 4th. Why is that a good thing? Uranus is rebellious and erratic (even if revolutionary to an extent). Wouldn't that make for a very inconsistent, albeit exciting, home life?

Again, Idk too much about these types of charts. But I'm really curious about the thought process.


I didn't say it is a good or bad thing. Nothing is entirely black or white, especially in astrology. You're right having Uranus in the 4th house in your solar return chart is usually seen like a big change even forced. However, since Jupiter is also the planet of luck and there is a soft aspect between Jupiter and Uranus, I think the outcome will probably be positive. And I'm a beginner at astrology lol ! Just don't take too seriously what I say .

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posted February 20, 2014 02:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a beginner as well. I wasn't trying to criticize what you were saying. I seriously wanted to know why you thought what you did so that I could learn from it.

And your explanation makes sense actually. It's possible that the erratic energy of Uranus is channeled into keeping the home life exciting and "spicy" as opposed to bland. The reason I picked up on that immediately, however, is because we've been discussing the possibility of conflict in the future because one of the two is or will keep something from the other (or will cheat on the other, which a "bolt of Uranian lightning" could actually bring about; but I still doubt it, maybe if it were in the 5th).

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posted February 20, 2014 06:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey guys, well actually again the psychic told me that I will move place at the age of 17, where I will find a better paid job and settle down :O :O This is why I was questioning that uranus in there and been reading bout it. You asked for my natal so I will send u both, perhaps it'll make things a little clearer

This is me: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_02_elizabeth.39863.22280.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

My man: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_01_gonza.39939.27601.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

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posted February 20, 2014 12:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KingofCups     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted February 20, 2014 03:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CappyLove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh sorry bout that? Do you need just the natals or everything?

Here is mine again: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_02_elizabeth.73408.22632.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

My man's : http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_01_gonza.73500.28848.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

Synastry: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_01_02_gonza_elizabeth.73608.4307.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

Composite: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_621gw_01_02_gonza_elizabeth.73697.10766.gif&res=100&va=&cid=3gifilecZKUhE-u1326847304

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