posted July 04, 2014 10:14 PM            

I think is great she is going to therapy and it shows she is serious about turning her life around and healing. After all she has a tight conjunction between venus and chiron.

posted July 04, 2014 10:20 PM            

But there is a small a chance that old patterns with your mother maybe repeated with her.....

posted July 04, 2014 10:25 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
Its possible the two of you want to break past patterns and create new patterns with each other and this relationship may offer this opportunity...

But there is a small a chance that old patterns with your mother maybe repeated with her.....

I am leaning more towards this been a chance for both of you to create new patterns and heal old wounds..

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posted July 04, 2014 10:26 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Okay, she's in therapy.

You're good.

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posted July 04, 2014 10:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
I truly hope so xD but I would like your honest opinion. I appreciate honest opinion much more than sugar white lies
do you honestly lean towards the new patterns theory?

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To be honest is a tough call. It could go either way I feel but my heart tells me to go for it and that this would be therapeutic for both..

posted July 04, 2014 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
To be honest is a tough call. It could go either way I feel but my heart tells me to go for it and that this would be therapeutic for both..

Just take it slow and be delicate with each other...you both have lots of wounds. I think she has wounds with her dad as well, has she spoken to you about her relationship with her dad? I feel he was at least very absent and this affected a lot her self esteem and how she sees herself...

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Yeah she told me her dad never spent any time with her
Wow.. astrology is scary accurate

posted July 04, 2014 10:43 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Okay, she's in therapy.

You're good.

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posted July 05, 2014 03:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
I just would like to thank Amelia and everyone else who was kind enough to help me out
Thank you guys, and bless you all

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posted July 28, 2014 01:20 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
It was my pleasure. Thanks for sharing with us!

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Hey Amelia, situation has gotten much worse
This time I REALLY need help

So between past 2 weeks me and her had a lot of arguments, because she kept dishonouring her words. Like she would tell me that she would be free on certain days, and back off last seconds multiple times.
So because of that, I called on it on in a diplomatic manner but it became very hostile due to her anger problems (hostility only came from her, I was fairly calm about it)

So I guess in a sense, I ended up becoming somewhat clingy because I actually liked her. I should have just walked away and let it be but I tried to force it a little

I told her I don't want it to end like this, and we ended up making up for it
She showed a lot of efforts to be nicer to me and all and things seemed great

Just yesterday, I told her I loved her at the heat of the moment (She showed a lot of efforts to make me feel more comfortable for a while and this really turned me on) and she seemed to be really happy about it, like it was all over her body language (perhaps she faked it i m not sure)

On the same day, after we went home, like literally 2 hours after we met, she told me that she doesn't want to lead me on anymore
I tried to talk to her about it, and its gotten to a point where she told me she doesn't want to hear from me anymore
(It's really strange because, I didn't bother her that much)

posted July 28, 2014 07:42 PM            

I am really sorry to be telling you this, I know you care about her and you have feelings for her, but it's time to be a little selfish and ask yourself what it means for you to be part of that relationship - what are the benefits? Do they actually outweigh the negatives? It seems to me that the ship is already sinking. You can choose to stay there for a while, sure. But I wouldn't have many expecations of a happy ever after...

This isn't astrology territory anymore, at least for me. This is about you, your happiness, and the love you think you deserve.

Take time to think about it, alright? Try to see the big picture.

posted July 28, 2014 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Sweetheart, ask yourself if you really want to put up with that girl and her crappy behavior for say, a year? Two years? Five? Can you see that happening? If not, then I'd urge you to think about your next move very carefully.
The girl obviously has issues that aren't going to randomly go away overnight.

I am really sorry to be telling you this, I know you care about her and you have feelings for her, but it's time to be a little selfish and ask yourself what it means for you to be part of that relationship - what are the benefits? Do they actually outweigh the negatives? It seems to me that the ship is already sinking. You can choose to stay there for a while, sure. But I wouldn't have many expecations of a happy ever after...

This isn't astrology territory anymore, at least for me. This is about you, your happiness, and the love you think you deserve.

Take time to think about it, alright? Try to see the big picture.

Stay strong.

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Well, the synastric MARS conjunct PLUTO with which I'm familiar was one of many aspects indicating a previous life ended by homicide -- one which I'm still karmically mulling over.

You don't have the dangerous degrees, though. But I'd be interested to see if they're in your progressions -- or coming up.

An abuse survivor with natal MARS-PLUTO affliction AND a close synastric conjunction -- who's already showing aggression?

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To illustrate your point, here's a composite between my brother and I:

posted July 28, 2014 09:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:

This isn't astrology territory anymore, at least for me. This is about you, your happiness, and the love you think you deserve.

Take time to think about it, alright? Try to see the big picture.

Stay strong.

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posted July 29, 2014 07:29 PM            

In this synastry, who has more pluto energy?
I was told that its the pluto person who ends up with more power

posted August 04, 2014 04:10 PM            

I called her a week later, to end it on a good note at least
And I got ignored
Looks like I was rationalizing after all

posted August 05, 2014 06:51 PM            

wow this is all over the place