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Topic: It still Stings...
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Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 5084
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 27, 2014 03:46 AM
  
This is my first real crush, I've never had such a strong connection to someone before. although he is protective and nurturing of me, when it comes to expressing feelings he is very cold and unresponsive which makes me question his intentions. I know he has been hurt in the past, and with that in mind I decided to step back and allowed him to heal with led a year without communication until recently. I'm trying to move on, but I can't. What makes me hold on to this connection so tightly?I'm blue, he's red
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LeeLoo2014
Knowflake Posts: 16636
From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted July 27, 2014 07:16 AM
Ahhh...woman's Mars on man's Venus. You "chased" him and he didn't like it. An aspect that brings "unrequited" for women, because the guy feels "chased" and gets the feeling the woman is very much into him (although it's not necessarily true) and his interest fades away, especially a fixed guy.A classical scenario in my files. It can work if you can "refrain" your Mars  But usually, the woman doesn't even realize how pushy she is. ------------------
I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... IP: Logged |
Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 5084
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 27, 2014 11:15 AM
Wow interesting, I would of never guessed that aspect but it makes sense  I do feel more "aggressive" towards him than other guys I've liked in the past.
Thank you for the insight LeeLoo IP: Logged |
starrynight
Knowflake Posts: 322
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Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 31, 2014 03:55 PM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Why do I still like him so much? I also wonder, did he ever really like me in the first place?
I see at least two classic attraction markersyour Mars in symbolic conjunction to his Sun, as in, in the same sign and his Venus does the same to your Sun except I think there is an actual conjunction This is like, basic attraction. Especially since all that bunch concerns 5th and 8th houses. DW Moon-Jupiter, too! I'm more curious why it didn't work out, looks like an excellent synastry to me.
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IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 4120
From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 31, 2014 04:06 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Ahhh...woman's Mars on man's Venus. You "chased" him and he didn't like it. An aspect that brings "unrequited" for women, because the guy feels "chased" and gets the feeling the woman is very much into him (although it's not necessarily true) and his interest fades away, especially a fixed guy.A classical scenario in my files. It can work if you can "refrain" your Mars But usually, the woman doesn't even realize how pushy she is.
I noticed that right off the bat, too, Lee. The exception is when he's submissive. Then he's HOOKED. You'd just better hope he's not ambivalent about his 'orientation' -- or there can be major issues resulting. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 5084
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 31, 2014 10:48 PM
@starrynight
My apologizes, I forgot to mention I don't know his birth time. All his planets are in my 8th house but idk where my planet sit in his houses.We do have some pretty bad aspects. Me on the left.
ASC square Uranus (2)
ASC square Chiron (0)
Moon square Saturn (0)
Dejanria square Nessus (1) However, on a good note, I can tell he was very protective/fatherly towards me.
His Sun/Pluto/Ceres stellium trine my Moon no more than (2) @IndigoDirae
So there's still a chance that he likes me? Lol I shouldn't even be asking that, I should try to move on. Though I must admit he is physically my ideal looking man IP: Logged |
Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 6868
From:
Registered: Mar 2010
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posted July 31, 2014 11:39 PM
quote:
Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Ahhh...woman's Mars on man's Venus. You "chased" him and he didn't like it. An aspect that brings "unrequited" for women, because the guy feels "chased" and gets the feeling the woman is very much into him (although it's not necessarily true) and his interest fades away, especially a fixed guy.A classical scenario in my files. It can work if you can "refrain" your Mars But usually, the woman doesn't even realize how pushy she is.
My mars was conjunct my husbands Venus, I never once chased him.. He chased me for year.. I didn't like him at all in the beginning.
I even dated his friend, so he would leave me alone, it didn't work... Lol.
(He has an Aries moon) doh!
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Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 5084
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 31, 2014 11:44 PM
@Lioness
Interesting
Does his mars or Pluto aspect any of your personal planets?IP: Logged |
Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 6868
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 01, 2014 12:05 AM
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Originally posted by Moonfish:
@Lioness
Interesting
Does his mars or Pluto aspect any of your personal planets?
No to both,
Only his Pluto sq my Saturn
His mars in early Leo just trines my Neptune.
We have been separated 5 years, and he still wants to get back together, but I don't. IP: Logged |
viiv28
Knowflake Posts: 123
From: kaspichan
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted August 01, 2014 12:29 PM
I can totally relate for the man's venus woman's mars conjunction. The same happened to me, although the conjunction was like 4 degrees, not an exact one. In the beginning when I did not like him he pursued me, and then I became all passion for him and started the pursuing he withdrew. Now when I ignore him I see him reappearing in my life. But I now date someone else.
I am doing an experiment, if you want you can join. I have a theory that guys sense when you are over them. So my theory is to completely get over this dude by 100% lack of contact whenever possible (we work together) and also enriching my life to the best of my abilities. And see what happens.
To be honest, he had disappointed me in several ways, that have nothing to do with romance, just as a human being so this makes things easier for me.IP: Logged |
HappyLoewe
Knowflake Posts: 267
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Registered: Jan 2014
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posted August 01, 2014 01:35 PM
I had the trine with my ex and to get things going I had to initiate most things. I am an Aries and he is a Virgo. He complained that I was pushy and too forward for him sometimes - basically we played out role reversal. We were together for 7 years and we have been apart for 15 months now and I made the mistake of following on social media at the beginning of July, a fact which he totally ignored and he is now following several gorgeous girls (one of whom is a model and their moons conjunct !!!). However, I have read that contacts between Mars and Venus are likely to last a lifetime but I also realise even though I still fancy him, I don't like him as a person as much I used too. He wants to play games but I am more direct. I am the type to become obsessive about things but I can feel the change in our situation. The message he is sending me is clear. I don't particularly like it but I have received it and will be going my own way now. I know it will kill him if he ever saw with another guy but he does the whole "I am ok and calm" on the surface but underneath he is liquid pool of hot emotions. I have accepted that we may always feel tied in some way (my Saturn square his Venus) but also that I have to make my life happen as well. I am hot, fantastic and fabulous (and, on, occasion, humble !) and I will eject this man from my mind (not overnight but eventually) and trigger some other hot guy's chart and wham bam the future will ignite. I do feel for you though. I know how painful longing is but you do owe it to yourself to put yourself first (as he is doing). I wish you well.
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