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melodiemelodie
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posted August 09, 2014 12:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for melodiemelodie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello lovelies!

I just wanted to hear some advice from someone who knows how to interpret charts. I am at my early beginnings and I just don't want to misinterpret and basically live a life of fear.

Here is a chart for my lover/friend.. He has a bit of a dark past, there is a thread with more info about the nature of our relationship for the curious:

Otherwise, if you could have a look at our synastry and tell me if you see abuse in any form (more specifically coming from him towards me?)

Thank you!

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Bluejay
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posted August 09, 2014 05:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bluejay     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
With the two of you being born so close together, a lot of your outer planets are conjunct, and the oppositions in synastry are in both of your charts. This means that you both have a lot of the same planetary energy. You also have a lot of trines and sextiles, which tend to be more harmonious, so I'm sure there is a chemistry which comes naturally between both of you. The Venus trine Venus is nice too because you probably have similar tastes, and the way you both show affection is compatible.

Your Mars squaring his Sun would be an aspect of attraction, but it might also bring out your aggressive side. You won't necessarily be aggressive towards him, but he might perceive it that way. He might just bring out your feisty and assertive side, which in a sexual relationship is fine, but a long term partnership would probably be difficult because you would get on each other's nerves, or challenge one another a lot. Also, your Mercury square his Mercury could result in misunderstandings, or just seeing things from two completely different points of view. This is because the way that you think and communicate is different from his, and so sometimes you might have trouble seeing things from his perspective, and vice versa. His Moon might be square to your Mercury also(not for sure since you don't know his birth time), but this could mean that he is very sensitive to what you say. He might get his feelings hurt even if that's not what your intention is.

You have a possible Sun/Moon double whammy with the trine and sextile, you can't be sure without knowing his exact birth time. Either way, it looks like his Moon will still be in Sagittarius, so your Leo Sun is compatible with his Moon. His Sun too, even though they aren't aspecting one another, because the two fire Suns get each other. Your Aquarius Moon is compatible with both his Sun and Moon in Sagittarius. This is very good for any type of relationship, because you feel a natural understanding of one another, with the air and fire elements blending well. Your Sun is quincunx his Venus, which is often considered a challenging aspect, but also causes a mutual attraction. The quincunx is said to create a fascination with one another because of your differences. Maybe you are not the type of woman that he usually dates, but he finds himself very attracted to you.

If your birth time is correct, I'm surprised that you don't see him as serious relationship material, because so many of his planets fall in your 7th and 8th houses. Although it's his outer planets in your 8th, which you have in your natal also, so maybe they aren't felt as strongly. Especially with both his Sun and Moon in your 7th house, I would expect you to see him as your ideal partner. Usually another person's Sun on your DC would feel like marriage material. With his Moon there too, you would feel that he meets your emotional needs from a partner. The 7th house typically rules partnerships, but can also rule open enemies. Well, a lot of times people can start out as a great partner, but end up an enemy if things don't go so well.

His Mars/Pluto is also near your Pluto, that could just mean really great sex. It just wouldn't be a good idea for either of you to try to dominate or control one another, unless of course it was part of a sexual fantasy situation. Also, your Sun in Leo and Moon in Aquarius is not really compatible with his Mars/Pluto in Scorpio for a long term relationship. Even though they aren't aspecting one another within orb, the signs are still square. Although squares do create a lot of energy between two people, it's not really a harmonious energy, and it can cause tension.

I think the aspects to really look out for are your Mars square his Sun, and your Mercuries square one another, because these can lead to arguments. If you were to get into a serious argument, it's possible that you could bring out an aggressive side of each other, and react very harshly. Especially the Mars/Sun aspect, because neither of you would want to back down. It's important to try to openly communicate with each other to avoid any misunderstandings, because it would probably be difficult for the two of you to resolve an issue without getting angry at each other.

His Sagittarius personal planets will probably lighten up his Mars/Pluto energy, and make him more easy going, but I think he would probably get very possessive of you if he started developing feelings. I think Scorpio energy tends to be possessive regardless of whether they are in love or not. So if you were to see other people, I think he would have an issue with that and become very jealous, and possibly attempt to control or manipulate you.

I think though, that abusive tendencies are most likely to show up in the natal chart, and his Mars/Pluto is definitely a challenging aspect. Although it is possible for him to rise above, and use that aspect in a positive way.


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