posted August 12, 2014 05:45 PM            

I'd love to hear some opinions on how this relationship can be resolved as smoothly as possible. It's something that's pretty intense and for the life of me I can't figure out how to quit it and mean it. Any advice would be very greatly appreciated.
Thank you!

posted August 12, 2014 05:58 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
A little off-topic but what has your experience been with his Saturn and Pluto in his 7th house? Intensity from his end? Resistance to forming a bond? Is there a large age gap between you?

My partner has these planets in his 7th house as well so I always like to hear from those who've experienced it

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
HUGE gap. He's at least 30 years her senior. Wow.

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posted August 13, 2014 11:06 AM            

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Originally posted by libran_dream:

Thanks for responding!
There is a large age gap, yep. That's one of the problems. And from his part, re: the Pluto and Saturn - both intensity and resistance. That's what drives me nuts. I can feel the intensity very strongly, and yet I can't break through. He can own up to it sometimes, be honest with me, and still keep himself at a distance.
What has your experience been like?

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Pretty similar, though he is only 4 years older than me. I know he has an affinity and a respect for older women though (which I think is part of the Saturn in 7th - "mature" partner), and I have asked him in the past why he never pursued a relationship with one but I think deep down he wants the tradition of having a "normal" family. Like your partner I can sense his intensity and I know he wants it so badly for himself but there's just some...barrier there, like an inner-voice telling him BEWARE BEWARE which causes him to over-think and second-guess, almost like it's not even really "the other" that is the problem but the whole idea of marriage to begin with. I can see the wheels turning in his head when we watch movies with relationship-heavy themes or have discussions with others on the subject, and I know he takes it much more seriously than the average person would. Everyone SHOULD take marriage seriously but there's just something different about the way he processes it.

posted August 13, 2014 12:54 PM            

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Originally posted by libran_dream:
I know. Makes zero sense, right?

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Hey, soul connexions are soul connexions. I was just definitely floored. Granted, getting a chance to get to 'know' you, I realise my gut-reaction was societal-based, and really off the mark. In other words, you have a wisdom and maturity that's far beyond your years. So maybe this is something different from what it appears.

posted August 13, 2014 12:57 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
Pretty similar, though he is only 4 years older than me. I know he has an affinity and a respect for older women though (which I think is part of the Saturn in 7th - "mature" partner), and I have asked him in the past why he never pursued a relationship with one but I think deep down he wants the tradition of having a "normal" family. Like your partner I can sense his intensity and I know he wants it so badly for himself but there's just some...barrier there, like an inner-voice telling him BEWARE BEWARE which causes him to over-think and second-guess, almost like it's not even really "the other" that is the problem but the whole idea of marriage to begin with. I can see the wheels turning in his head when we watch movies with relationship-heavy themes or have discussions with others on the subject, and I know he takes it much more seriously than the average person would. Everyone SHOULD take marriage seriously but there's just something different about the way he processes it.

I believe he will get married someday (whether that is to me has yet to be determined) but if it is to me I feel I will have to wait until he has worked out these hang-ups and feels comfortable with the idea.

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posted August 13, 2014 02:09 PM            

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
4 years is nothin'. What do you think the barrier might be in your relationship, though?

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Oh of course, 30 years is quite significant and in no way was I trying to compare that part.

posted August 13, 2014 03:49 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
Pretty similar, though he is only 4 years older than me. I know he has an affinity and a respect for older women though (which I think is part of the Saturn in 7th - "mature" partner), and I have asked him in the past why he never pursued a relationship with one but I think deep down he wants the tradition of having a "normal" family. Like your partner I can sense his intensity and I know he wants it so badly for himself but there's just some...barrier there, like an inner-voice telling him BEWARE BEWARE which causes him to over-think and second-guess, almost like it's not even really "the other" that is the problem but the whole idea of marriage to begin with. I can see the wheels turning in his head when we watch movies with relationship-heavy themes or have discussions with others on the subject, and I know he takes it much more seriously than the average person would. Everyone SHOULD take marriage seriously but there's just something different about the way he processes it.

I believe he will get married someday (whether that is to me has yet to be determined) but if it is to me I feel I will have to wait until he has worked out these hang-ups and feels comfortable with the idea.

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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Hey, soul connexions are soul connexions. I was just definitely floored. Granted, getting a chance to get to 'know' you, I realise my gut-reaction was societal-based, and really off the mark. In other words, you have a wisdom and maturity that's far beyond your years. So maybe this is something different from what it appears.

What is the nature of this relationship? How long has it been going on? How do you think he feels about it?

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