posted August 14, 2014 08:35 AM            

I've always had a hard time being objective looking at his chart and our chart together. We were together for approx 2 years total, married only 6mons and we have one child. He deceived me (short story) and we are stuck together now because of our child. He has stalked me, tried to humiliate me and I have been physically agressive towards him and I have always said he brings out the WORST in me. I've never felt more angry or irritated by anyone. We were obsessed with each other at first. To say the least, it's a draining relationship even still and has a major psychological impact on both of us.

I've had a hard time being objective because of what we've been thru so I am posting these charts to see what stands out to you all?
Thank you

his natal

synastry

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posted August 14, 2014 11:17 AM            

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posted August 14, 2014 01:16 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
The aggressiveness comes from your own Mars/Pluto square, it's a personal issue; and he triggered that with his Sun/Saturn square. Were you by any chance most irritated by his manner of thinking/speaking/perhaps mannerisms? And perhaps how he behaved in public?

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it's ironic bc when I read about that aspect in my chart it seems nothing like me. Most people describe me as very chill, diplomatic and polite but YES, he definitely irritated me beyond belief. He mostly irritated me one on one...not in public. I often said I didn't feel like myself with him.
that aspect is one I have studied a bit more than others and besides having it expressed in this particular relationship, I could feel myself feel suspicious or scared a lot. Ever since childhood I've been afraid of burglary or being attacked.

posted August 14, 2014 01:32 PM            

It's interesting what you say about fear of burglary and attacks - it's a passive aggressive thing, just like when we are violent inside, we have accumulated aggressiveness and we dream about being attacked by someone. I hope you didn't understand it in a judgmental way, about Mars/Pluto, it's not like it's your fault or something to have this aspect It's a great aspect, but it requires for you to be "aggressive" somehow, in a controlled way: like a sport or martial arts etc. I think it's an aspect that gives a lot of physical stamina and an imperious need to practice some intense physical activities. It gives physical strength above average.

posted August 16, 2014 06:22 PM            

I have a mars/pluto conjunction with my mom. I'm the pluto, her the mars.

I don't know why, but for some reason she becomes really angry with me. Sometimes I don't understand what I do to make her angry.

It must be the same with you two.

His pluto makes your mars really angry with that square.

He makes you angry from the core. He may not realize that.

I have a lot of pluto/mars and jupiter/pluto aspect with my celebrity crush, it's double whammy and that's why I'm obsessed with him like crazy.

It's a very special relationship, those with pluto aspects.

There is obsession, fear of letting go of each other, bring out things in each other from the core. It's so special.

If you've read/seen the movie/book wuthering heights, you'll understand pluto/moon/venus in it.

Heathcliff can't let go of Kathy, neither can she. It was an obsessive love, that was about the real heart (moon).

That movie still makes me cry every time I watch it. My favourite version is the 1998 version of the movie.

Pluto is real love. It's the most profound planet in our solar system.

He may really annoy you, but if he goes away, you'll miss everything about each other, even the bad things.

Pluto never forgets. It clings with the other person for life, it can't let go. It's obsession/love/care/etc.

It's once in a lifetime.

xx

posted August 16, 2014 07:26 PM            

Tough stuff.

posted August 17, 2014 06:12 AM            

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Originally posted by MiaPluto:
The reason he pushes your buttons is because of your mars square his pluto.

I have a mars/pluto conjunction with my mom. I'm the pluto, her the mars.

I don't know why, but for some reason she becomes really angry with me. Sometimes I don't understand what I do to make her angry.

It must be the same with you two.

His pluto makes your mars really angry with that square.

He makes you angry from the core. He may not realize that.

I have a lot of pluto/mars and jupiter/pluto aspect with my celebrity crush, it's double whammy and that's why I'm obsessed with him like crazy.

It's a very special relationship, those with pluto aspects.

There is obsession, fear of letting go of each other, bring out things in each other from the core. It's so special.

If you've read/seen the movie/book wuthering heights, you'll understand pluto/moon/venus in it.

Heathcliff can't let go of Kathy, neither can she. It was an obsessive love, that was about the real heart (moon).

That movie still makes me cry every time I watch it. My favourite version is the 1998 version of the movie.

Pluto is real love. It's the most profound planet in our solar system.

He may really annoy you, but if he goes away, you'll miss everything about each other, even the bad things.

Pluto never forgets. It clings with the other person for life, it can't let go. It's obsession/love/care/etc.

It's once in a lifetime.

xx

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Would you like to make a thread with your synastry (you and your mother's)? Perhaps you'll get some guidance from the astrologers here.