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Dancing Maenad
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posted August 27, 2014 01:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dancing Maenad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The synastry is pretty horrific IMO. Just look at ALL those unaspected planets. It feels like we don't have much in common as individuals, and I felt like I am working for an alien more than once (wth is this person all about?!!). I don't agree with his life and the way he chose to live it, and I especially don't like that I know all about that. I would have rather keep it cold, professional but he's a Cancer and wanted me to think we're all a family (thanks, but I have a disturbed one already, don't need an even weirder one). The Sun-Mercury square DOUBLE WHAMMY speaks volumes. We argue a lot. A LOT. And all that Uranus hard aspects both ways.. OMG, combined with the unaspected Saturns both ways?? HELL. I honestly don't know what is going to happen the next second and the lack of any sort of structure has had me up the wall more than once. The only way to work with this man is to be on your toes the whole time and have killer quick reflexes (thank you, Universe, for making me the fastest of them all, an Aries - PHEW!! Saved my arse more than once). So yeah, looking at just the synastry.. you can understand why I am fed up with him and his up in the air methods of teaching me surgery (basically it was a DIY most of the time, sometimes without any sorts of instructions).


The composite, on the other hand, is good-ish. Now I don't know his time of birth though I am 90% sure he's Taurus rising based on what I know about him, his looks and his relationship with his mistress who's Tau Moon (I told you I know too much). There are good parts to working with him, I am very independent and can deal with a lot of curved balls this profession throws at me. I had to learn how to wing it or I wouldn't have survived. He's been a GREAT influence financially, as well as a lucky charm (we're both Jup-conj-Uranus types and I do think this is a lucky aspect). When we actually set aside our differences and try to work as a team, we make a pretty good one, if I can say so.


But to what extent can a good composite save a bad synastry? I am a pretty assertive and egotistical person, I don't know how I could just put that aside indefinitely to make this work - and is it worth it? For the last couple of years all I could think of was getting away from him, ASAP. He drives me nuts. Now that I may have a job opportunity that I have always, always wanted in medical research, but at the cost of working for him longer, I need to ponder: do I stay or do I go?..

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IndigoDirae
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posted August 27, 2014 01:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IndigoDirae     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Waaaaait.

Someone on here awhile back was having a difficult quandary in their professional career, especially some difficulty with their boss, which, if I recall, had to do with academia.

Was it you?

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Dancing Maenad
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posted August 27, 2014 01:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dancing Maenad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No idea. I've complained about it here and there but I don't think I actually posted the charts before. It might not have been me.

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Dancing Maenad
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posted August 29, 2014 03:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dancing Maenad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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LeeLoo2014
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posted August 29, 2014 05:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Synastry:

Your mutual Moon/Jupiter/Uranus and Venus/Jupiter/Uranus are not that bad for "team" and "surgery". And I like your mutual POF aspects on "medical and research" planets. It's not such a bad synastry for what you describe. There's a lot of energy action and tension there, but also "team spirit"with those DW.

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posted August 29, 2014 06:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So you're an MD with that Venus/Chiron on your IC, that's why it's there

He's making very good aspects to this Chiron of yours, actually your Chiron is on his Sun/NN trine mdp, so the whole thing makes a Kite with his Neptune, with you the beneficiary (the Kite apex)!


That's why the composite is good, because the synastry is not that bad for a medical team In the comp, I like all those aspects between planets at around 4: Sun Mercury Saturn Jupiter Uranus and of course, Chiron conjunct NN, and if you got his ASC right, 6th house could even be ruled by the Sun. Chiron semisextile Venus is also nice.

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posted August 30, 2014 06:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It would be interesting if you posted the synastry with some medical and scientific asteroids

Medical Asteroids:

2060 Chiron
1862 Apollo (Greek)
10 Hygeia (Greek)
212 Medea (Greek)
2878 Panacea (Greek)
1027 Aescualpia (Asklepios or Askalaphus) (Greek)
3063 Makhaon (Greek)
4086 Podalerios (Greek)
5239 Reiki

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Dancing Maenad
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posted August 30, 2014 03:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dancing Maenad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're killing me, LeeLoo! You're saying the synastry is actually GOOD?? Honestly, though I suppose I am somewhat fond of him in a very NON-romantic way, I fantasize about hitting him with a blunt object quite often. He's really obnoxious and quite the source for anxiety in my life because of how unpredictable working with him is. He is notorious for overloading his team - myself and others, another source of stress and frustration in my life. And it's not that he does that, but that he completely denies that he is doing it and is totally oblivious of how hard he makes our working life. There were times when I was denied a lunch break or went to the bathroom for the first time at 6 PM. He can be quite the tyrant though you initially think he's the nicest man out there, very not true! (something I notice it's often my experience with Taurus Saturns, my mom is one too) These are things I can't sweep under the cover just because it gives me an ego boost to see him fighting to keep me in his team (my contract expires soon). Oh, and did I mention how much I dislike his Cancer Mercury and how spineless it makes him, utterly unable to tell it how it is and such an arse kisser. My Ariesness is appalled by this and I got burned several times when I supported him but he backed out and left me out in the open. I seriously find it very hard to collaborate with Cancer and Libra influenced people, even though they theoretically smooth the things I brush against but I cannot respect them. There, I said it. They don't have balls and I don't respect them for that. I don't respect him and it shows during our arguments. I crossed the line several times, which is pretty unacceptable for a junior dr I guess my rebellious Uranus in the 10th showed his ugly head there.
There a few things that might lean the decision towards staying though. One would be the money, though I think I'd make more abroad. the other is that he is such a skilled surgeon. And though he is a coward in interpersonal relationships, he's brave in the OR and takes on difficult cases nobody else does. There's literally nothing he can't do in our specialty even though he's not perfect at everything. I really love this about him, it shows his Sag Mars really well.

Here's the synastry with the asteroids you requested. The one thing that stood out to me was my Apollo conj his Mercury (that Mercury I loathe lol).

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LeeLoo2014
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posted August 31, 2014 07:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It looks like an action-oriented synastry, perhaps not the best for a personal relationship, but not bad for an action team

You have very strong medicine markers in your chart, DM: Aesculap on ASC, a cross with Panacea, Venus/Medea on IC, Reiki Hygeia conjuncts your ASC and MC ruler WOW! And Apollo in the 6th...Apollo on his Merc perhaps ruling his 6th could feel his authority is undermined - Apollo shines a lot.


How does the composite look with these asteroids?

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Dancing Maenad
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posted September 10, 2014 06:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dancing Maenad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am sorry that I took so long to thank you for taking a look, LeeLoo! After posting all this, I've come to be a little more forgiving of his defects and we've been getting along a lot better, he's been really supportive and he is very actively involved in helping me have a smashing career. We've done this one surgery together, I took the lead for the first time and it was amazing. That has never happened before, he never handed me the scalpel and the control over the surgery, all my solo surgeries have been unsupervised. Even then, he still got impatient and wanted to take it back. I wouldn't let him, lol and he apologized for it. So, apparently, it isn't as hopeless as I thought. I know he appreciated my fieriness even though I am sure I p!ss him off equally. And he sure does annoy the **** out of me, too.

Funny thing though, the man I am currently, suddenly, interested in romantically, makes the same annoying Sun-Mercury double-whammy squares to my chart, but from the opposite sign from my boss. I suppose it's a good thing I am already trained into handling it with absolutely no grace! lmao

Oh, and thank you for what you said about medical asteroids in my chart! Yes, I have a lot of indications for medicine, it was as if it chose me rather than the other way around! I wanted to be a hairstylist when I was little, lmao. And I still regret not taking advantage of that Actor conj Asc and sextile MC, too! But that's not why I am here, apparently..

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LeeLoo2014
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posted September 10, 2014 06:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am happy for you, DM I think things are starting to move very well for you, I can feel it

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