posted September 09, 2014 03:22 PM            

I started dating this guy in very difficult circumstances....he was basically a stranger who was around the moment i got the news about my twinsoul getting killed....so i collapsed into his arms....and we got together...

in the beginning our relationship was beautiful and we were very connected

but he slowly started to withdraw become less and less emotionally and physically available until it has turned into a cold torture...as if we re a miserable married couple who ve been together by 30 yrs and bound together by law or sthg...

He denies all of this..says we're doing fine...but refuses to touch me or express love verbally anymore..... also crticizes me a lot and guilt trips me a lot

sometimes i think its because of the stresses in his own life,,,,,but they existed before...sometimes i think he got too scared once we got too close?

the thing is he wont let me break up with him, and i m too weak to enforce it... i m not happy anymore but he s become like heroine.....

I FEEL TRAPPED AND CHAINED

attached r our charts any advice appreciated

M(female)
born on 10 March 1986 local time: 12:30 am
in Alexandria, EGYPT U.T.: 22-30
29e54, 31n12 sid. time: 11:38:51

PLANETARY POSITIONS
planet sign degree
Sun Pisces 19°03'25 in house 3
Moon Pisces 10°51'20 in house 3
Mercury Aries 0°51'29 in house 4
Venus Aries 0°59'04 in house 4
Mars Sagittarius 20°23'12 in house 1
Jupiter Pisces 4°07'27 in house 3
Saturn Sagittarius 9°37'43 end of house 12
Uranus Sagittarius 22°14'13 in house 1
Neptune Capricorn 5°35'00 in house 1
Pluto Scorpio 7°07'11 in house 11
True Node Taurus 0°34'56 in house 5
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

HOUSE POSITIONS (Placidus)
Ascendant Sagittarius 11°53'57
2nd House Capricorn 13°43'48
3rd House Aquarius 19°09'30
Imum Coeli Pisces 24°14'26
5th House Aries 24°35'00
6th House Taurus 19°44'38
Descendant Gemini 11°53'57
8th House Cancer 13°43'48
9th House Leo 19°09'30
Medium Coeli Virgo 24°14'26
11th House Libra 24°35'00
12th House Scorpio 19°44'38

and Atttttttty A (male)
born on 15 November 1984 local time: 5:00 am
in Al-Kuwayt, KWT U.T.: 02:00
47e59, 29n20 sid. time: 08:49:19

PLANETARY POSITIONS
planet sign degree
Sun Scorpio 22°53'09 in house 1
Moon Leo 7°32'17 end of house 9
Mercury Sagittarius 12°12'52 in house 2
Venus Capricorn 1°18'34 in house 2
Mars Capricorn 29°29'49 in house 3
Jupiter Capricorn 11°21'04 in house 3
Saturn Scorpio 19°31'28 in house 1
Uranus Sagittarius 12°32'45 in house 2
Neptune Sagittarius 29°47'20 in house 2
Pluto Scorpio 2°53'47 in house 12
True Node Taurus 27°26'33 in house 7
Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

posted September 09, 2014 04:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Fiery_Water:

the thing is he wont let me break up with him, and i m too weak to enforce it... i m not happy anymore but he s become like heroine.....

I FEEL TRAPPED AND CHAINED

attached r our charts any advice appreciated

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So what's the question here? Do you want to discuss this relationship here for a few pages then continue to stay in it? Because that's what it sounds like. You've already described your problem with the guy, the correct choice (leaving), and your inability to follow through with it. It's not easy to breakup when you're addicted to someone. I know It sucks. It's a very difficult thing to do. You have to summon all your strength and make it happen. The only choice you have in any unhappy situation that continues to disintegrate is to exit from it.

posted September 09, 2014 05:14 PM            

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Originally posted by carm76:

KWT- King Williams Town, Africa?

Where are you living now?
Can you legally leave him?
What are your rights as a woman in this situation?

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posted September 09, 2014 05:54 PM            

This is why they won't leave unless or until they want to.

posted September 09, 2014 05:56 PM            

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Originally posted by sag_stellium:
So what's the question here? Do you want to discuss this relationship here for a few pages then continue to stay in it? Because that's what it sounds like. You've already described your problem with the guy, the correct choice (leaving), and your inability to follow through with it. It's not easy to breakup when you're addicted to someone. I know It sucks. It's a very difficult thing to do. You have to summon all your strength and make it happen. The only choice you have in any unhappy situation that continues to disintegrate is to exit from it.

You'll probably run around and have this discussion in circles with others and with yourself for a while before you follow through with it. That's usually how most of us do it. I sympathize with you because I have been there. I hope you do what's right for you. If you don't though, you are responsible for whatever emotional difficulty follows.

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'Addiction' is habituation; it can often be mistaken for love, as the brain becomes 'programmed' to expect certain responses, stimuli, and experiences.

posted September 10, 2014 05:31 AM            

Thankyou guys

Exactly it does feel like habituation..... and I do feel programmed.... his responses and voice (even the cold ones) have become so familiar that I am in this loop of I ll take anything I can get to soothe the pain of withdrawal...

HE is also a lot like my dad in his emotional abuse and I guess that s a familiarity...

and yes it s a trauma bond...but i wasnt with my twinflame when he died...we had already had a relationship and ended it...and moved on to be..,,friends or whatever.... but we were still pretty close.... i figured he s my twin flame because we feel the sibling soul thing....born 6 days apart.... have a v wierd psychic connection n wierd things happening around us..and felt like we re the only two people in the world who fully understood each other, but we were v ungrounded escaping the world together, this is why it didnt work....

I actually dont wanna be with someone like my twin flame.. Earlier this year I even prayed that I am done with unstable magical passionate flings and i want stability at any cost.... i have stability now but the cost is high...

The other thing other than habituation is that 3 months ago he used to be different...much more caring and expressive...so there s this wish that he ll just come back to that when he is less stressed at work, or trusts me more or whatever...all kinds of excuses...hence the CIRCLES OF DISCUSSION SAG... and ur spot on... i ve been going round talking about breaking up for 2 months...but when i decide to do it I either get a panic attack...or the moment he just kisses my hand and says thats stupid ur imagining things, we are good together, i just shut up...