posted September 22, 2014 10:12 PM            

I was feeling really bad and confused about us.. I went to him and talked to him. I told him how I was feeling, that I felt like I just couldn't do this or remain friends anymore, that it's just to much for me..

He said why, I said , you know how I feel about you, I know you don't want to be with me, and it makes me feel like a prisoner. I feel trapped, it keeps me from moving forward.. You don't want to be with me, but you won't let me go either, and it just doesn't make sense. When you don't want to be with someone, you leave and walk away.. But you won't leave me...

He said what can I do to make you feel better, I don't want you to fel bad..

I said talk to me, just tell me, you don't want to be with me, just go ahead and break my heart, and get it over and done with...
He said no, I'm not going to do that.
Which frustrated me even more..
I said just tell me how you feel, get it over and done with, just do it!!
He said, no!!!
I insisted again and again, just do it, just do it!!!
Get it over and done with..
Then he said, I'm head over heels for you, I don't want to loose you.. He said I WANT to be with you, but I can't, being with you will cause me drama, I just can't deal with... (Work, family, different nationality)
He said, you will always be my girl, and I'll always want to be with you, but I can't..

I said can't, won't, don't want to be with me, it's all the same thing, it's the same outcome regardless..
If you can't/won't be with me, then you have no choice but to walk away...
He said no, I'm not walking away.. If having you is wrong, then I don't want to be right!!

The convo ended sound this point...
I sat on this a few days and thought about it... The more I thought about it, the more upset I got..
He's saying he wants to be with me, but he won't, but he won't let me go either...
How confusing is that...
My frustration over this built up... I kept it inside..
It bothered me so much...

Then a few days later, he said something that ****** me off, nothing major, but I had all that anger built up, it turned into an emotional breakdown.

I told him, he needs to stop being selfish and let me go, stop hanging on to me..
I said when your on your death bed, and you think back about me, if you have no regrets then that's when you know you did the right thing, this is your life to live, the way you want to, not what makes everyone else happy.

You can't tell someone, that you want yo be with them, but won't, and not let them to.. You won't b with me, fine, that's not my problem, I'm upset cause you won't let me go!!! I yelled walk away,. He said no!!
I said your being selfish, stop doing this!!! Let me move forward... As long as you live with no regrets, than everything is fine.
He finally said FINE!!!! He hung up..
I haven't talked to him since...

Honestly I feel good about this... I'm not missing him like before, and I'm not going crazy thinking about him.. I know it was the right thing to do.
At least now I know his true feelings, which does make me feel better, at least I know I'm not going crazy here..

The only thing I want is a fresh start w/o him.. I just moved and I'm starting a new era...

Phew that was one hell of a karmic relationship!!!!!

posted September 23, 2014 02:24 AM            

Have - I - been - THERE.

posted September 23, 2014 07:49 AM            

Why would he let you go if he can have you in his own conditions?
Lioness, stand up for yourself and you let him go, if you don't like his conditions. You don't need his approval, it's your life and your heart.

posted September 23, 2014 10:18 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Lioness, you're gonna hate me for this and this is just what I feel when reading your thread: telling someone "I love you, but I can't be with you, because of your nationality and your family or my family" is totally uncool, insulting (if it's your nationality, not to mention the family thing, on both sides: so his family doesn't accept you? or he doesn't like your family?) and a lie (guys don't care about these things when they are in love). What is this?? The 17th century? Do you two live in a cast-system society? What a player!

Why would he let you go if he can have you in his own conditions?
Lioness, stand up for yourself and you let him go, if you don't like his conditions. You don't need his approval, it's your life and your heart.

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posted September 23, 2014 01:14 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Lioness, you're gonna hate me for this and this is just what I feel when reading your thread: telling someone "I love you, but I can't be with you, because of your nationality and your family or my family" is totally uncool, insulting (if it's your nationality, not to mention the family thing, on both sides: so his family doesn't accept you? or he doesn't like your family?) and a lie (guys don't care about these things when they are in love). What is this?? The 17th century? Do you two live in a cast-system society? What a player!

Why would he let you go if he can have you in his own conditions?
Lioness, stand up for yourself and you let him go, if you don't like his conditions. You don't need his approval, it's your life and your heart.

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posted September 23, 2014 01:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Lotis White:
Hi Lioness,

Do you guys still work together. If so I hope it doesn't dredge up old issues again. I hope you find someone who you can love straightforwardly, who will you love back straightforwardly.

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posted September 23, 2014 01:18 PM            

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Originally posted by tgem:
Lioness! Good for you for being so strong! I agree with LeeLoo's thoughts..if they love you that much, nothing will stop them from being with you. You deserve a man who will move mountains to be with you because he loves you so much. I ended my marriage because mine didnt love me that much. I applaud you after what you have gone through with him. Stay strong..you do deserve better. Bye Bye Fishy!!

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posted September 23, 2014 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
I did let him go!!!
He's crazy! He's making up excuses, so in the process he lost me...

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Good for you! It's his loss anyway. He'll soon figure that out