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mollywu
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posted January 24, 2015 09:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When I look at the relationship/romances I have had, I found except the first bf is half a year younger than me, the rest are older than me. Most are 6 years older than me, and more than half of them are 10 years older than me. I don¡¯t know why I tend to attract much older men. Any indicator in placements for this? Or anyone shared similar experiences? Thank you!

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posted January 24, 2015 09:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ann7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Heavy Aquarius / uranus in the chart, venus in cap, Cap placements in a woman chart.

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posted January 24, 2015 09:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have no Capricorn platement except vertex in Capricorn in 5th house.11th house has Cancer Mars, no Aquarius planet either...

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posted January 24, 2015 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ann7:
Heavy Aquarius / uranus in the chart, venus in cap, Cap placements in a woman chart.

MY Venus is in Virgo..only one placement u mentioned is moon conjuct uranus but in Scorpio in 3r house.

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posted January 24, 2015 10:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbiegirl19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wondered the same thing but have noticed it in all signs with charts that were unalike.

So in regards to what I shared above, my answer is simply human nature.

This is a very complex issue.

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posted January 24, 2015 10:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
I wondered the same thing but have noticed it in all signs with charts that were unalike.

So in regards to what I shared above, my answer is simply human nature.

This is a very complex issue.


Maybe ,wonder how astrong says about it ...

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posted January 24, 2015 10:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LucieLemonade     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've read this about people with Saturn in the 7th.

But although I like older men, I've never dated anyone older than about 6,7 years older, which I don't think is unusual for women.

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posted January 24, 2015 10:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LucieLemonade:
I've read this about people with Saturn in the 7th.

But although I like older men, I've never dated anyone older than about 6,7 years older, which I don't think is unusual for women.


My Saturn is in 1st house .I attrack them and i am attracted to older men too.

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posted January 24, 2015 10:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbiegirl19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by mollywu:
Maybe ,wonder how astrong says about it ...

Well people have listed several aspects and you had none of them. That's one sign lol.

If anything I'd blame it on air since relationships are ruled by all 3.

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posted January 24, 2015 11:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
Well people have listed several aspects and you had none of them. That's one sign lol.

Yes i searched online and it said Venus aspecting Saturn tend to be attracted to older men...my Venus is conjuct Saturn but too wide(10 degrees ). I had a few friends who were a few days later than me .their Venus is closer to Saturn, but their husband r not much older than them.

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posted January 24, 2015 02:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mollywu,

Do you have any 10th house planets? Since that is Caps traditional house, many astrologers have said a 10th house stellium can be an indicator of attracting older and/or mature partners.

I think Moon-Uranus in your chart is definitely part of it. Attraction to something different and unique, and well age could be a difference.

Your ASC must aspect your Saturn since it is in the first house. Having Saturn in 1st house is a big indicator of attracting older men, because you project a more serious and mature side they appreciate. I have Saturn in 1st and attract men ~10 years older than me or above, and the younger ones I think are too scared too approach me lol.

Is Saturn strongly aspected as well? This could explain things.

Do you have Saturn-Moon? That is another indication.

What is your ASC in? Is it Virgo?

We could also look at Juno placement too. And NN node as well. And Cap vertex too, maybe it hits several of your planets.

Sorry for all of the questions, just want to help you find an answer. Saturn in 1st might be it.

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posted January 24, 2015 04:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
[B]Mollywu,

Do you have any 10th house planets? Since that is Caps traditional house, many astrologers have said a 10th house stellium can be an indicator of attracting older and/or mature partners.

Do you have Saturn-Moon? That is another indication.

What is your ASC in? Is it Virgo? .....


lots of thanks for trying to help me, Bella .
My 10th house has No planets except gemini Juno. It starts with very Late Taurus and large but intercepted Mecury.

asc has No aspect to Saturn... Yes,moon sexile Saturn about 5-6 degrees.

When I was on dating/social networking sites, mostly only much older men wrote to me(i did not break Ice first at all, always they dropped me messages first, then I replied politely, so I never intend to choose much older men).....so I wonder why I attract them..

OK this is my chart, Maybe u can have a look .Thank u.

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posted January 24, 2015 04:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted January 24, 2015 10:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Haplesschild*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Men in general try their luck with most women online. They msg younger women for the physical aspects. I remember when I was 20 and was on an online site for a 2 weeks, lots of men in their 40's and 50's messaged me besides people my age. It's creepy but it's common.
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Originally posted by mollywu:
lots of thanks for trying to help me, Bella .
My 10th house has No planets except gemini Juno. It starts with very Late Taurus and large but intercepted Mecury.

asc has No aspect to Saturn... Yes,moon sexile Saturn about 5-6 degrees.

When I was on dating/social networking sites, mostly only much older men wrote to me(i did not break Ice first at all, always they dropped me messages first, then I replied politely, so I never intend to choose much older men).....so I wonder why I attract them..

OK this is my chart, Maybe u can have a look .Thank u.


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posted January 24, 2015 11:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hapless makes a good point, that older men can behave like that and take advantage of younger women.

Ok, so firstly Saturn in 1st is a huge indicator of attracting older men. Themes of maturity, having a strong sense and obligation to responsibility, and taking life at times in a serious manner will attract older men at times. Saturn in 1st house have a old soul so to speak and carry themselves with a great aura of seriousness and ambition.

Mars trine Saturn can relate because Mars is often used as one of planets used to describe what a women wants in a partner. Mars also opposes the vertex in the opposite sign of Cancer, which may explain why you attract people that are more Capricorn in nature due to attraction from oppositions. Moon trine Saturn would create attraction as well. Add in your Uranus aspects and it is a formulation of a traditionally different attraction.

Saturn trine Vertex: you have life lessons involving limitations both internally and in the outside world, which means that whenever Cap energy hits your vertex in synastry, that person can help to develop skills to overcome challenges and any lack of confidence you feel. Because your Vertex is in the 5th house, your transformative experiences are going to be in love and romance, where relationships can teach you profound lessons. Being in Cap increases the probably of an older, mature partner.

Ruler of 10th in 1st house (29 MC Taurus)

This means the way you present yourself is very professional and I would imagine your career is very important to you. And this magnifies the Saturn energy in 1st, because your energy comes off as career-driven, hardworking, and focused on your goals. Especially since your house starts at a critical degree.

Have you ever examined your 7th house NN in Virgo? This isn't necessarily related to dating older men specifically, but it shows you have lessons to learn in love, and perhaps the men you attract are a part of it.

Also, I would be interested in the synastry between the older men and you. Perhaps with tPluto in Cap transiting your 5th house there are strong Saturn and Plutonian energy that you attract as part of your Pluto transit.

We could also look at midpoints in your chart, but I would have to get back to you tomorrow on that. Tarot is more of my speciality, charts I am still trying to hone in on.

More ideas, but lets start here and see what you think.

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posted January 25, 2015 06:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Men in general try their luck with most women online. They msg younger women for the physical aspects. I remember when I was 20 and was on an online site for a 2 weeks, lots of men in their 40's and 50's messaged me besides people my age. It's creepy but it's common.

Yes, that is really true. But I think there are more young men on social networking sites, however, I still attract older men more.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
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Have you ever examined your 7th house NN in Virgo? This isn't necessarily related to dating older men specifically, but it shows you have lessons to learn in love, and perhaps the men you attract are a part of it................


Thanks for further explanation. My NN is in 1st house instead of 7th house. I have Pisces DSC.

I tend to tend to attract Capricorn men at the beginning, but deeply hurt. Now I attract men more who have placements in Taurus, Cancer and Gemini.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coffeetime     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do heavy Uranus/Aquarius really affect this issue? In what ways? I'm highly curious about that, because I have the very same thing in my life. I'm attracted and I attract always older men than me. One is 7 years older than me and he has a serious relationship, but I'm going crazy about him...
I have Virgo asc, stellium in 11th house and other indicators.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by coffeetime:
Do heavy Uranus/Aquarius really affect this issue? In what ways? I'm highly curious about that, because I have the very same thing in my life. I'm attracted and I attract always older men than me. One is 7 years older than me and he has a serious relationship, but I'm going crazy about him...
I have Virgo asc, stellium in 11th house and other indicators.

Oh, 11th house stellium has similiar effect as Moon conjunct Uranus, I guess. You have the same ASC too.always attract unvavaible men.....

I am waiting for more insights or experiences..

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posted January 25, 2015 07:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coffeetime     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey, soul sister.
I have another past story, in which the guy is living in another country. We still have letter based relationship, but it kills me, that he's another one, whom I can't have nor physically nor personally.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
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Also, I would be interested in the synastry between the older men and you. Perhaps with tPluto in Cap transiting your 5th house there are strong Saturn and Plutonian energy that you attract as part of your Pluto transit....

I don't have very good career, I did well in school, but I have problem with double-faced colleagues/bosses, so I changed job often. But I do work like a serious Capricorn, working very hard even sometimes I hated those jobs but I know it is my responsibility to do my job well.

I put on synastries with 3 guys who are 10 years older than me(I am the blue one, they are the red one) . Only Guy 1's TOB is unknown.

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posted January 25, 2015 07:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mollywu     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by coffeetime:
Hey, soul sister.
I have another past story, in which the guy is living in another country. We still have letter based relationship, but it kills me, that he's another one, whom I can't have nor physically nor personally.

Oh, dear, you have the similar problem. I met someone unexpected and we were attracted to each other deeply. We are unavaible and he is in another country too..... So I know how you feel.

Send hugs to you.

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posted January 25, 2015 11:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coffeetime     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah Hugs to you too.
At least we are not the only ones...

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posted January 25, 2015 12:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gabby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have this issue but I don't have any of the aspects that have been mentioned.
BUT, I do have Eros/Valentine/Lust conjunct in capricorn sitting on my IC, these square my libra Pluto/AC and my aries DC/Jupiter.

Might also check aspects like this....they seem trivial because they are JUST asteroids but this has proven to be a very powerful place in my chart.

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posted January 25, 2015 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by mollywu:
Thanks for further explanation. My NN is in 1st house instead of 7th house. I have Pisces DSC.

I tend to tend to attract Capricorn men at the beginning, but deeply hurt. Now I attract men more who have placements in Taurus, Cancer and Gemini.


Oh, sorry major typo!!!! I was talking about Pisces 8 SN in your 7th house. So with SN I was referring to karmic qualities of our previous life and what we attract based on the lessons learned. Most people act out their SN until their Saturn Return, which may explain why you used to attract Cap men and after the SR different energy is attracted to you.

I'll be back later to look at the synastry, and I'm sure some of the chart pros here can help you too.

Gabby makes a really good point too about asteroids, I have also heard eros is a big player in who you attract. I would look at your eros, psyche, and karma as a few good asteroids to start.

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