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la_mer
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posted February 18, 2015 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
just a short introduction: we've known each other over a year over work, saturn is like one degree away from its return in my natal, lol and a certain guy still makes me weak in the knees although we've pretty much agree that we don't agree what this relationship is about.. not that he would ever admit that, he's a mega-virgooo you know, with neptune in the 1st house. which seems to me as if he doesn't see himself very clearly. or at least makes him try to brush a lot of things off. I mean neptune has been dancing tango with my dsc for over a year now, so my vision is probably very cloudy too at the moment and the dude in the charts seems 100% like a symptom of the transit, but since there is also some saturn (for example square sun in composite) in the synastry, maybe there's a bigger lesson to learn here.

my question is this: any idea how I can handle the supervirgo guy?

this would be the synastry:

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la_mer
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posted February 18, 2015 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
and this would be the composite plus davison, just for good measure

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Aubyanne
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posted February 18, 2015 10:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow ... complementary resonance!

His MARS on your VENUS (1°) with his PSYCHE conjunct your OSIRIS and ISIS conjunct EROS. That's very cool, gotta admit. Not to mention your NNODE on his MOON. Great aspect.

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la_mer
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posted February 19, 2015 03:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Wow ... complementary resonance!

His MARS on your VENUS (1°) with his PSYCHE conjunct your OSIRIS and ISIS conjunct EROS. That's very cool, gotta admit. Not to mention your NNODE on his MOON. Great aspect.


Yes, thank you for noticing that, I didn't see it at first it felt so intense right from the beginning. We met, shook hands, he turns around again to look at me and something is being activated; like a little "ding" - first round. The sun square sun in the synastry is exact (0'08), my venus feels bombarded by the square to his Pluto, his mars/nessus and trine his uranus. Then it's a double whammy with my mars trine his venus, my uranus square his venus exact as well as with my Pluto semisextile his venus. When I thought we were done, my knees gave away after such an intense goodbye kiss due to the high emotional pressure. He's not ready for anything more than a roll in the hay so I tried to enjoy what we had, spend a little more time together besides work, but then he drew back a lot, I let him have his space for a while, then he tried to play me (pluto/saturn conjunct exact in the composite, you know), but my pluto trine mercury will not have that happening and jupiter in the 7th trine venus is a great protector!

Well anyway, we still work together, he occupies my mind and I don't know, if he is feeling anything or this could be a friendship. Because dealing with him has been so very good for getting a better understanding for my Family, especially my Dad, since they share the virgo sun/sag rising and my saturn return is in house 4. Freud would have a field day with that haha
It feels nice to have my natal t-square balanced by his stellium in virgo, not gonna lie.. ^.^

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LeeLoo2014
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posted February 23, 2015 10:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nice synastry! What's the problem here?

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posted February 23, 2015 04:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi leeloo, I wish I knew, it looks nice, it felt very nice in the beginning, but straight & honest communication seems sooo hard. maybe because his stellium in the 9th square my stellium in the 10th house is hard work with the close saturn synastry? we have had an on/off affair for seven months, right now it's unclear to me, if he is still interested. which is a bad sign for me, because that's what men usually do; being clear, like when he likes you, he calls, no matter how busy his life is right? His neptune in opposition to my sun/moon makes me feel like he's hiding important information and my own transit of neptune conjunct my dsc makes me question everything regarding relationships.

I never met someone who is sometimes v. irresponsible at the place where we work the nightshifts (my 10th house sun is appalled and fascinated at the same time) and seems to get along just fine anyway. He treats most people like chess pieces on a board and then tells me how he likes to show everyone a different side to achieve his will. so I asked myself is he proud of his illusions and secrets? or just likes to keep certain things to himself? of course I ask myself if he's doing the same thing to me with the manipulation too. maybe he can't help himself. maybe the venus/neptune in his chart makes him think it's necessary or totally fine to lead folks on? I mean he sees himself as nice and caring, when his best friend calls him something not so nice. the nicest word in that rant about my guy was "peacock" lol

he has told me that he doesn't know what we are to each other (red flag for sure). Then also the mars/mars opposition makes it harder to communicate - our discussions begin to influence the other colleagues - if we both get along on the shift then they're happy, if there is tension, they feel it too. I simply want to get along with him, without letting him push my buttons. so my question remains: how do I handle this? get a new job? sit this one out, while I'm having my saturn return, because there is still something to learn here? maybe build a lasting friendship? or seduce him again to let off some steam and take one for the team?

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posted March 01, 2015 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It seems you already have a bad opinion on this fellow This usually leads to no good. Maybe your opinion reflects how he really is In this case, it will probably be a waste of your time?

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posted March 02, 2015 07:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't know yet.. that's the thing, through him I learned how to be more forgiving, be more thoughtful and talk things out instead of drawing back and sulk like cancer venus is sometimes famous for.. for my personal development he's so good. Therefore I can't make up my mind, especially since I don't know what he wants. just last saturday we were talking just fine without any argument, he seeked me out on his own to say hello and kissed me on the cheek, while the other girls just get a hug. I mean I "like" the push & pull, you see with venus opposite mars, I am into this kind of bad romance stuff and although cancer venus craves security the gemini stellium opposite uranus part in my chart wants freedom. It is still exciting to be around each other, but I don't want to be thrown under the bus either.

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posted March 05, 2015 12:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeeLoo2014     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by la_mer:
I don't know yet.. that's the thing, through him I learned how to be more forgiving, be more thoughtful and talk things out instead of drawing back and sulk like cancer venus is sometimes famous for.. for my personal development he's so good. Therefore I can't make up my mind, especially since I don't know what he wants. just last saturday we were talking just fine without any argument, he seeked me out on his own to say hello and kissed me on the cheek, while the other girls just get a hug. I mean I "like" the push & pull, you see with venus opposite mars, I am into this kind of bad romance stuff and although cancer venus craves security the gemini stellium opposite uranus part in my chart wants freedom. It is still exciting to be around each other, but I don't want to be thrown under the bus either.

You'll know what he wants, men always show what they want and if they want In the meantime, stick to what you want

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posted March 05, 2015 12:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by la_mer:
... you see with venus opposite mars, I am into this kind of bad romance stuff and although cancer venus craves security the gemini stellium opposite uranus part in my chart wants freedom. It is still exciting to be around each other, but I don't want to be thrown under the bus either.

That's the issue right there. You'll draw to you the kind of 'relationships' you want. Especially if what you want is troubled and volatile.

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posted March 05, 2015 04:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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That's the issue right there. You'll draw to you the kind of 'relationships' you want. Especially if what you want is troubled and volatile.

"want" haha, yeah, I get that. venus wants one thing, mars delivers another, it's a cosmic joke maybe the thing is that I haven't had someone that interested me in like forever, so it's hard to make the cut, just decide it's all for nothing you know, especially when he brought me literally to my knees due to heavy emotions with having to lean against the wall and sit down so I don't faint. you know how gemini moon likes to avoid that.. thanks anyway to both of you ^.^

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posted March 05, 2015 04:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for la_mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://www.goodgollyastrology.com/your-mars-and-venus-playbook/mars-in-capricorn/your-marsvenus-combinations/mars-in-capricorn-with-venus-in-cancer.html

"If you have Mars in Capricorn with Venus in Cancer
you are . . .

The Moody Slave of Love

Your sexual nature often seems out-of-balance and prone to extreme contradictions. On the one hand you are a very practical and physical Lover who seeks to control every relationship. On the other you are a profoundly emotional and essentially passive Lover who needs to give up everything for the sake of love. There’s no possibility of compromise. Conflicting desires and wild inconsistencies are just things you have to get used to in your sex life. And of course, the people who love you have to be willing to get used to them too." this is sooo true, gaaah..

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