posted February 25, 2015 12:47 AM            

I am new on here and I've been dealing with a Scorpio man for a couple of months now and would like to see if someone can tell me if we are even a good match astrologically.

He is:

Rising - N/A as I don't know his exact time of birth. But his personality is super outgoing, friendly, engages easily in conversations with strangers, which makes me think his Rising may be an Air or Fire sign.

Sun - Scorp
Moon - Cap
Merc - Scorp
Venus - Scorp
Mars - Aqua

I am:

Rising - Libra
Sun - Virgo
Moon - Cap
Merc - Virgo
Venus - Scorp
Mars - Libra

The reason why I am curious to see if we are potentially a good match is because I am having difficulty with his communication style and deciphering whether or not he is really interested in me/having relationship. We have had several dates over the course of 2 months and lately he has been distant. He always responds to my texts but recently I have been the one initiating. But overall, it's been an equal amount of him and me texting. Anyway, I am just not sure if there is something in his chart that makes him act like this hot/cold, interested/distant and not as assertive. Other than this, he has always made plans to see me and picked me up on dates and I have not been acting needy/clingy. When he became distant about a month ago, he was silent for a week, and I just let him be. Then it seemed to get better, but now it's been a week of silence again. The last time I contacted him he said he was very busy with things, family and friend visiting.

posted February 25, 2015 01:09 AM            

Basically I'm looking to understand the mixed messages I seem to be getting from this Scorp and why he's been acting distant lately. I've heard that with a Scorp one will usually know if the Scorp is interested. But I'm confused why he hasn't been acting like he wants to progress things with me. Thank you in advance!

posted February 25, 2015 06:42 AM            

You also both have scorp venus, this is one of the most difficult venus signs. I'm not sure what a good match they are, but they are sure very intense, loyal and passionate in relationship.
I have the same venus sign myself, and when I am in a relationship I am 100% committed, but honestly I know personally instantly if I want a guy or not. If I don't, I am not committed at all, and wont be ever.

But a scorp sun with scorp venus can be a bit hesitating I think, because they are so passionate that they want to make sure if it's worth it or not.
I once dated a scorp sun, and I really had to work on it before we got into a relationship (he had cap venus).
But once we got there, it was very nice!

Anyways, I think if you really like the guy, you got to work on him, because you can never really tell if he would like a relationship. Scorpios are so secretive, and sometimes they simply just have to be impressed by you.

I am also a virgo sun myself, and I remember when I was in love with the scorpio guy. I was very shy myself, and I don't think I was good at really showing him what I wanted. After we started dating, several months had passed, and I was beginning to be miserable because he never asked me to be official.
So one day, I took myself together and took the initiative myself. Luckily he also wanted to be official, but he really had to be pushed.
We was together for 2 long years (with a lot of drama, but certainly also many good times)

posted February 25, 2015 01:51 PM            

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Originally posted by CuriousV:
Sorry maybe this will help - our synastry chart.

Basically I'm looking to understand the mixed messages I seem to be getting from this Scorp and why he's been acting distant lately. I've heard that with a Scorp one will usually know if the Scorp is interested. But I'm confused why he hasn't been acting like he wants to progress things with me. Thank you in advance!

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The chart didn't post last time....trying it again.

posted February 26, 2015 02:06 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
If he does have a capricorn moon, then this is why he could be acting cold/distant.
But since you don't know his TOB, he could potentially have a sag moon or aqua moon instead. Both of those signs are rather difficult to manage, but sag is more outgoing and friendly, while aqua is much more distant emotionally (probably especially in relationships)

You also both have scorp venus, this is one of the most difficult venus signs. I'm not sure what a good match they are, but they are sure very intense, loyal and passionate in relationship.
I have the same venus sign myself, and when I am in a relationship I am 100% committed, but honestly I know personally instantly if I want a guy or not. If I don't, I am not committed at all, and wont be ever.

But a scorp sun with scorp venus can be a bit hesitating I think, because they are so passionate that they want to make sure if it's worth it or not.
I once dated a scorp sun, and I really had to work on it before we got into a relationship (he had cap venus).
But once we got there, it was very nice!

Anyways, I think if you really like the guy, you got to work on him, because you can never really tell if he would like a relationship. Scorpios are so secretive, and sometimes they simply just have to be impressed by you.

I am also a virgo sun myself, and I remember when I was in love with the scorpio guy. I was very shy myself, and I don't think I was good at really showing him what I wanted. After we started dating, several months had passed, and I was beginning to be miserable because he never asked me to be official.
So one day, I took myself together and took the initiative myself. Luckily he also wanted to be official, but he really had to be pushed.
We was together for 2 long years (with a lot of drama, but certainly also many good times)

He is still one of those heartbreaks I'll probably never will forget, so be careful with those scorpio guys!

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Thank you NTN. I totally agree with you in regards to Venus in Scorpio depth and commitment and especially about knowing right away if I want to be with that person or not. It's like I scan a person and read their vibes and our energies exchange within minutes and I already know if there is a potential for something meaningful.

With this Scorp guy it was like that and we just clicked on the first date. He also told me that he knows after a couple of dates whether or not he wants to continue something further with a person. So him asking me on dates afterwards was a positive sign for me. But lately, he has been distant. I don't feel good about being the one initiating our interactions. I mean to me if a man is interested in a woman, he would make it clear and with him, I am starting to question - is he or isn't he, because he is not full on 100% about us spending time together but at the same time he seems to always be there and engage in conversations when I reach out. So that is what confuses me.

You are saying that you were the one to initiate that talk and you guys ended up getting into a relationship. But I know that Scorps are not the type to like to be pushed into things and often shy away from someone who comes on too strong. So I am feeling hesitant to bring anything up...and if I try to have some sort of a probing indirect talk, I know that it won't be taken positively because Scorps like directness and plus he has Mercury in Scorp, which is usually psychic and intuitive and can see through the ******** .

So, the question remains - should I just let him be and not even bring up the fact that it bothers me that he is on and off about seeing/being with me, or should I let it be known? I am afraid that he may see that as me lacking patience

posted February 26, 2015 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by CuriousV:
Sorry for multiple posts, I seem to be having difficulties posting on here. Here is our synastry chart.

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posted March 04, 2015 04:29 PM            

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posted March 05, 2015 12:28 PM            

His Libra? and your Cap ASC are at odds; not an easy connection. Saturn in your 4th is under fire: challenges in his partnership? and your home/family area.

His Aquarius Mars square your Scorpio Venuses in his 1st H.? and your 10th H. Some sexual sparks, steamy atmosphere could become unsettling.

Your Jupiter--his Mars conjunction in your 1st/his 10th? H, square his Moon--your Chiron in his 1st?/your 4th House. Powerful emotions affecting your public and private lives. Parents are upset.

He powerfully activates your Scorpio Psyche in your 11th H. His angular? Capricorn Juno conjunct your IC Moon. To you, he looks like friend and possibly marriage material.

His Taurus Saturn conjunct your Vertex, in his 7th? and your 4th H. Karmic or destined connection. He seems older and more experienced to you than your actual 9 year age gap indicates.

Your Virgo North Node conjunct his Pluto in your 9th H. and his 12th? He can transform your future and broaden your perspectives.

Whoops, now I see he may not be Libra rising. Please take this all with a grain of salt. Any questions?

posted March 05, 2015 01:14 PM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
Hi Curious. Since no one else is responding, let me take a shot at this. Caveat: I'm not adept at using Asteroids. And still learning the system most here are using. Here you go:

His Libra? and your Cap ASC are at odds; not an easy connection. Saturn in your 4th is under fire: challenges in his partnership? and your home/family area.

His Aquarius Mars square your Scorpio Venuses in his 1st H.? and your 10th H. Some sexual sparks, steamy atmosphere could become unsettling.

Your Jupiter--his Mars conjunction in your 1st/his 10th? H, square his Moon--your Chiron in his 1st?/your 4th House. Powerful emotions affecting your public and private lives. Parents are upset.

He powerfully activates your Scorpio Psyche in your 11th H. His angular? Capricorn Juno conjunct your IC Moon. To you, he looks like friend and possibly marriage material.

His Taurus Saturn conjunct your Vertex, in his 7th? and your 4th H. Karmic or destined connection. He seems older and more experienced to you than your actual 9 year age gap indicates.

Your Virgo North Node conjunct his Pluto in your 9th H. and his 12th? He can transform your future and broaden your perspectives.

Whoops, now I see he may not be Libra rising. Please take this all with a grain of salt. Any questions?

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Hi Comdoc! Thank you so much for jumping in to look at the chart.

Yes, I am not sure of his ASC but after reading each of 12 signs descriptions and putting it against how he acts with me and around people, it could very well be a Leo or Aries, but again that's a speculation.

Everything that you wrote about the planets, a bit hard for me to understand as I am a newbie in astrology.

The Mars/Venus explanation is actually very accurate.

Saturn/Vertex conjunction. Someone has mentioned this to me also. Is that bad? Is that what may be creating this confusion that I am sensing in our interactions??

I was curious what do you think makes him act aloof or distant. I feel like it's almost like he makes it a point to control emotions. It's like I can sense the attraction and interest and he lets it be known but once it's starting to flow and becomes a bit more intense, he steps back, goes into hiding, no contact = no growing of closeness/bond between us. Any thoughts on this? Are there any particular planet placements in his chart that may make him do that? Or maybe it's something that is in my chart that would cause him to come to me and then pull back? And I don't think it's as simple as "emotionally unavailable" syndrome. I am pretty good at sensing people's energies and I don't feel that being the case. No red flags in his actions or stories matching his actions went up during our interactions...

Also, I was wondering if it was a favorable combinations that we have the same Moons in Cap and same Venus in Scorp. Also, our Mars are both of Air sign (his is Aqua, mine is Libra).

posted March 06, 2015 01:33 PM            

Can you post the synastry without aspects to angles and Chiron? Just standard astro.com aspects, thanks.

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

posted March 06, 2015 03:11 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Hi and welcome!

Can you post the synastry without aspects to angles and Chiron? Just standard astro.com aspects, thanks.

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Hi LeeLoo, thank you so much!!!

Is this what you are asking for? Sorry, I am new to astrology and chart drawings. Basically, I didn't click on "aspect lines to all" when using Astro. Let me know if I need to click on that. Thanks a million!!!

posted March 08, 2015 01:33 PM            

I would greatly appreciate it if you'd interpret the chart.

posted March 09, 2015 02:00 PM            

What do you guys think?

And his Pluto conjuncting my North Node - someone said that is very important and is definitely something that would impact both of us....What does that mean?

Also, I don't know if Cap Moon is something that adds to the mix and thus he appears rather unemotional, or someone who does not express their feelings. I can't seem to find anything on how both of our Moons would affect him and I. Anyone has any input on that?

And finally, I got very frustrated with his lack of communication and being distant with me and the fact that he hadn't made any plans to see me in several weeks and sent him a message expressing that. He said he would call but never did. He completely shut me out. I also told him in that message that I really liked him and as much as I want to have a relationship with him, it would be a waste of time for me to hope for that if that is not how he felt and I asked him to please let me know. Nothing ever since (been a week).

Does this mean he gave me his answer, which is "I am not interested. Move on." Or would you say that him retracting and freezing me out is his way of processing his feelings and what I told him? Please give me advice as I don't know how to read his behavior

Why would he reply right away that he will call me and then didn't? If he already knew that he was not all that interested in continuing anything with me, why say "I'll call you tomorrow"? Why not just ignore my text and leave it at that?? I just don't get it...

Should I make peace with this and move one or should I give him time/space and then try to reach out to him after some time (a week or two)?

posted March 09, 2015 08:33 PM            

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Originally posted by tilanburov:
hi, my synastry knowledge is very limited but without his TOB it's really hard to figure out not only your effect on him but also his approach to love and relationships. but you can determine your and his sun/moon midpoints (and maybe venus/mars midpoints) and see if they make any hard aspects to personal planets.

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Hi Tilanburov. Thank you for your input, but I thought that exact TOB is only needed to know one's Ascendant. And as far as I know ASC does not indicate love/relationship nature of the person, but it is rather Venus, Mars and also Moon (how one deals with emotions) that are important when trying to read someone's love/intimate relationship makeup.

If you look up, I posted our chart synastry which shows Venus/Merc, Venus/Mars, Saturn/Venus and Moon/Sun aspects. Can you tell anything about those? Thank you in advance!

posted March 10, 2015 06:13 PM            

like i said before my knowledge is very limited. but his planets tell us what kind of energy he has and house positions explain in which areas of his life he deals with his energy. and he has a stellium in scorpio so it would be nice to see it's house position to understand what he is obsessed with in this life.

i have venus conjunct mars with my mother but it doesnt make us to jump on each other lol my mother is the mars person so sometimes she *pushes* me to do what needs to be done. it was what i was trying to say.

posted March 11, 2015 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by tilanburov:
aspects are quite important of course but for example venus conjunct venus in scorpio is a heavy aspect especially in scorpio. let's say it's in your 8th house. it would set a fire in you but let's say it's in your 3rd house it probably would indicate heated arguments or not believing what's said etc. that's why i mentioned about house overlays.

like i said before my knowledge is very limited. but his planets tell us what kind of energy he has and house positions explain in which areas of his life he deals with his energy. and he has a stellium in scorpio so it would be nice to see it's house position to understand what he is obsessed with in this life.

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Thank you, Tilanburov. I didn't know that house position was just as important as the planets themselves.

As you can see from the chart, his Scorpio Stellium planets seem to all be sitting in the 10th house. What does that mean?

Also, his Venus in Scorp is in 9th H and my Venus in Scorp is in 1st H. How does that play out?

posted March 11, 2015 04:14 PM            

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Originally posted by tilanburov:
he also has scorpio venus+sun+mercury. you know what they say about scorpios if they are into you they'll do anything to get you. eventhough they act like they don't care, when it's time they'll do whatever needs to be done. i guess you'll have to wait and see when it comes to pluto there is no way to see what's inside of their heart. they are notorius for playing power games.

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As for him having Sun/Merc and Venus in Scorpio, and how Scorps usually act when they really like someone, yes I know that if they like someone, they will let it be known without a question. The thing is, he did in the beginning, but then started to act distant. I know that Scorps are always afraid of rejection and although they act all confident, deep inside, they are afraid to open up to someone or show too much of their feelings because to them, that's being exposed and showing vulnerability and thus being weak.

So I am not sure if his behavior is any indicator of that underlying fear, because I remember he told me that he catches himself stopping himself from getting close/seeing a person too much when he is dating someone and he is starting to like them...

posted March 12, 2015 12:28 AM            

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Originally posted by CuriousV:
As for him having Sun/Merc and Venus in Scorpio, and how Scorps usually act when they really like someone, yes I know that if they like someone, they will let it be known without a question. The thing is, he did in the beginning, but then started to act distant. I know that Scorps are always afraid of rejection and although they act all confident, deep inside, they are afraid to open up to someone or show too much of their feelings because to them, that's being exposed and showing vulnerability and thus being weak.

So I am not sure if his behavior is any indicator of that underlying fear, because I remember he told me that he catches himself stopping himself from getting close/seeing a person too much when he is dating someone and he is starting to like them...

I guess I am having a hard time deciphering whether it's that (fear of letting his feelings progress with me and thus he shut me out) or if he is just not interested. And I don't know how to go about it now that he has frozen me out for over a week...give him time and then try to approach him again or just say to hell with you and take his silence as "I am not interested in you" and just move on...sigh....

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I've been dealing with Cap sun and venus in scorpio, he once admitted that he likes me from the first time he met me (4 years ago) but I don't have the same feeling to him. As venus in pisces I can sense how intense, suspicious, highly jealousy, controller, and manipulative he could be and I tend to avoid drama in relationship. He's also quiet cold and serious. So, I switch off my interest. I reject him several times but he keeps coming back. I don't know why he likes me. LOL.

Aqua mars may be a little bit detached and Cap moon makes him cold and serious. But as you share the same venus quality, I think you can sense if he is really interested in you, because the way you love is the same as him.

posted March 12, 2015 03:11 PM            

At least that's how it is for me. When I like someone, I am 100% into them and if I am in a relationship, or even at an early stage of dating, I want to make sure that I've tried to be/given my best/my all, so I know that I won't have any regrets if it still doesn't work out at the end. When I see that all of my efforts to be with that person is not taken seriously, I cut it all and refocus my attention completely. The funny thing, all, but one, men who for one reason or another didn't reciprocate my efforts to be with them at some point in the past, all came back later and wanted to rekindle the love/interest saying that they were fools/not ready/didn't see how great I was, blah blah, but I have so moved on by then already that even if I saw that they were really interested and sincere in their requests to try again, I would not be moved emotionally one bit. Once I am done, I am done and there is no looking back.

I think that is a Scorp trait in general. They love in their totality, whole heartedly and so intensely that when they get rejected, the opposite of those things - coldness, cutting someone out of their lives completely takes place and having one's Venus in that sign also gives you some of those traits (loyalty, devotion, obsession, fixation, intensity, etc.)

So if you are somewhat interested in this Cap guy, I would suggest to be careful and not play with his feelings because he may just walk away for good. Besides having his Venus in Scorp, he is a Cap and I know that although Caps like to pursue and are pretty tenacious with going for what they want, they also have a lot of pride and once they are done, they don't return to their past love interests.

posted March 12, 2015 05:18 PM            

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Originally posted by CuriousV:
Thank you for input, hearttreasure. I think the reason why he keeps coming back is because for us, Venus in Scorpio, once we set our sights on a person, that's it. It's like our focus is only on that person and we become fixated on them, no one else exists in a way. Obviously, if after several attempts, we still get rejected, we will walk away and once that happens, there is no coming back.

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LOL. Don't get too serious. I'm not interested playing with his feelings or anyone's feelings. I and he are good friends + co-workers.

From the first time he showed me his interest, I made a clear statement that I didn't want to get into another level other than a friendship with him. He understood but just for a week, so I kept my distance.

The reason why I describe him as quite cold (insensitive) and serious because I'm quite a friendly and an outgoing person (sensitive too - venus in pisces). Also have lots of guy friends. It will be too much for his venus in scorpio and cap sun too, don't you think? I just don't want to trigger toxic relationship and tend to avoid drama too. I did encourage him to date another woman who would more suitable with him and one time he said he was in long distance relationship but nothing serious because he only has eyes on me. hmmm.. then I avoid him. LOL.