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posted March 08, 2015 07:56 PM            

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So far it's long distance, we did meet once. He confuses me. I don't want it to be me doing all the feeling. Can anyone see if he's feeling it too, by the chart?
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posted March 08, 2015 08:27 PM            

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If you have to ask, it is.

It doesn't really matter what may be on one's heart. Strength, and the true power of love is in possessing the courage to make it known, and to be acknowledged. Otherwise, it's entangled in too much fear and often leads to pain.

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posted March 08, 2015 08:30 PM            

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No, but it looks like it might be a secret love affair.

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posted March 08, 2015 08:41 PM            

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There are curious dynamics here, however, on a soul-level. Some of them are quite lovely; dual VERTEX conjunct ASC, DSC-VALENTINE among them; your SUN on his VALENTINE ....

His NNODE is conjunct your MOON-MARS, it looks like. Funny how your NNODE isn't getting any activity; in fact, it almost looks as if it might be your SNODE receiving aspects -- most likely his MARS and SUN.

So there's a strong involvement of Martian energies here with the NODES. On a soul-level, this denotes aggression, dynamism, and force. You will be bringing the MARS back into your interactions, whereas the two of you already have MARS-oriented karma from his side (his MARS conjunct your SNODE -- I could be wrong, but it looks like it should be a conjunction within 3º).

What is the current interaction between you? Why do you feel there's ambivalence? Are you possibly misinterpreting and catastrophising, or just worried about being hurt?

In other words, do you have cause for concern, or do you think he's growing more towards, rather than against, a relationship?

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posted March 08, 2015 08:43 PM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
No, but it looks like it might be a secret love affair.

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12H planets do not have to denote secret relations. Merely secrecy, privacy, or a lack of publicising. There can be many reasons for 12H overlays. In some cases, it can show that the one whose points are overlaying the other's house could be having their intentions or signals misread. It can also indicate that they're 'working behind the scenes' as far as the 12H is concerned.

So the only way it'd be a 'secret love affair' is that she's not being forthright with her feelings and intentions. Which really isn't the same thing.

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posted March 08, 2015 08:57 PM            

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No secret, when we met I was separated from my husband but living in his home still (in my own bedroom, which I'd had for years) but when I met this man, in the chart, he made me WANT to take the leap and move out, which I did.

What confuses me is that he speaks of us all the time as in the things we are going to do this spring (when he visits) and then this summer when he moves to where I am, which is his home town. He's told me that he needs me.
But then after a particularly intense 3 days of texting I asked him to call me and he didnt. He hasn't yet.
He's the one who pursued, his says he knew he was going to be with me the first time he saw my picture, but it wasn't instant like that for me.
He just seems to go cool when things get to an emotional place.
I may be overly sensitive, idk. When you get a bit older you find yourself being more cautious.

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posted March 08, 2015 10:17 PM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
He just seems to go cool when things get to an emotional place.
I may be overly sensitive, idk. When you get a bit older you find yourself being more cautious.

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Nooooo, I'm with you. Those are all red flags. I'm sorry, Gypsee. Sounds like he's just not playing on the same emotional field that you are. It's a shame, too! There's some lovely stuff here.

I got my heart absolutely ripped out of my chest by ignoring the other's vacillation pattern of ambivalence following extreme pursuit, to the point of obsession. But what can you do when push comes to shove, they don't shove? Simply put, if they're always folding when you've just bet, you're not playing.

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posted March 08, 2015 11:02 PM            

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Thanks Aubyanne for your opinion. I'm just learning synastry and truthfully this is the best one I've ever had, so I was hoping.

Last week after he ended a conversation when I didn't think it should be ended, then disappeared for a day and a half, I decided I would repay him in kind by not replying to his texts, which became almost frantic in tone, "hello, hello, are you in there, are you ok?" Etc etc. When I did answer he was really sweet for days and then got drift again. He claims to have seasonal depression, but, idk. The beginning of something should be the very best.
I've been avoiding telling him how I really feel bc men, they like to come back at us sometime with the 'we are irrational and too emotional, blah blah' thing, and I just didn't feel like going there. But I'm having a hard time containing it, so we'll see some Mars in action. This girl has Aries Asc!

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