posted May 04, 2015 11:52 PM            

Etc etc.

We need a thread sharing some happy moments. You know that moment, when you say, THATs why I love you moments.
Happy moments, make us remember and gives hope.
Right now I'm going through some sort of mental emotional freak out.
I need some extra level of hope, and something to hold on to.
Even if it's other people's experience.

Everything is going fine with me and fishy, we are still getting along well. We have been having these deep conversations, which have been effecting me on a deeper level. I'm not sure how to handle that.
These conversations require a lot of trust, at least from me. But I have to hang on to hope, that giving trust is ok.
..... I will share one

After having a deep conversation. Me just spilling my deepest thoughts. I was fearful, that I freaked him out, and he would run FAST!

He didn't run,

He text me the next day at 630 am. To say GM. What a great day it will be..
I said something, like your in Good mood, did you win the lotto?
He said yup, I won the mega millions the day I met you!
He text me all day with sweet nothings.. I'm feeling more trust for him.
That's scary!!

But I'm realistic thinker, and I can't stand thinking about my own trust issues here..

posted May 05, 2015 09:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
Opening up and learning to trust is damned hard, Lioness. But it's the best work we can do. Kudos to you for undergoing this incredible undertaking.

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posted May 05, 2015 09:20 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I love my man because he mimics/mirrors my own ****** behavior (we have flip-flopped asc/dsc in Pisces, Virgo) and just gives me no option but to look at myself and weep. But I am very proud for finally having the stamina and the want to mentally work on myself as opposed to turning to my dear Uranian sq Venus antics and eject myself. I will always love him for this!!

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Wonderful

posted May 05, 2015 10:14 PM            

We were texting at night and he told me he was reading to his little brother who gets night terrors and he lays in bed until his brother goes to sleep.

posted May 06, 2015 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by madgoulding:
I'm not with him anymore...we were never really together. But this moment was when I realized how great of a person he really was/is. My heart just swelled up for him.

We were texting at night and he told me he was reading to his little brother who gets night terrors and he lays in bed until his brother goes to sleep.

I screen shotted that and showed all my friends lol I just thought that was so rare for a guy of his age. Usually guys like him don't give a hoot about putting anyone to sleep other than the chick they wanna get inside of.

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posted May 06, 2015 04:52 AM            

So, during the phase when we got together, we once talked about each other's romantic past and he remarked that he'd never been in love. Not ever. From someone in his mid-thirties I found that hard to believe: "Not even ONCE?" He insisted no at first, but then said, musing: "Now that I come to think of it, there was this one girl who made me want to check my phone every two minutes for fear I'd miss one of her texts." Frowning, I changed the topic - suddenly I didn't want to hear anything more about her.

posted May 06, 2015 05:46 AM            

And then he says like "i haven't been able to tell you this for months, how much i like you and admire you". basically he admitted his feelings for me. But no further actions were taken so i did not wanna be caught in these hopes one more time and admitted to him that i was dating someone else. And he hasn't talked to me since once.

posted May 06, 2015 12:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Vajra,

what a lovely story.

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posted May 06, 2015 12:29 PM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

LeeLoo's Esotericorner

posted May 07, 2015 03:04 PM            

Lol.

Nah, the moment I felt that feeling of complete happiness was when I asked him how would he feel and what would he do if I needed to be away from him for an indefinite period of time to walk on my own road and pursue my own stuff. And his answer was "Well I'd wish you good luck and I'd wait, because you would eventually come back anyway. And I have all the time in the world". Yeah, that was the answer I looked for.

posted May 07, 2015 09:57 PM            

The other evening I was talking to fishy on the phone. I was already feeling down with everything that's going on. Then he just did the guy thing and made it worse.

I said, I'm getting upset, I'm gonna go, good night. I hung up.

The next day he called me at 6am, said GM and that he will pick me up for lunch.
I'm still upset, said I'll let you know if I have time.
He said ok, but continued to text me in the am, and said he would pick me up for lunch.
So we went to lunch.
He said I couldn't sleep all night, thinking about you being upset. Tell me what's really going on here.
I said do you want to eat or argue?
He said I want to eat and communicate.
I was dismissive not really want to get into it.
So we ate and kept it casual.
When he was dropping me off at work, I said nothing will change it's always the same issues between us.

Later on via text, I said you want to know what's bothering me? He said yes.
So I sent a message, how I wasn't happy due to certain things.. Blah blah.
You know what he said back.. Nothing! No reply.
Which just got me more upset.

posted May 10, 2015 06:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
Everyone's stories are so great!

Try to reverse it if possible. What was your SO ahhh moment about you???

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I love everybody's stories too! Great thread idea, Lioness, it's very important to cherish the good things in life and remember them, and not get lost in darkness and confusion.

When thinking about your idea to reverse the perspective, I found that's a whole lot more difficult to do because I really don't know what he likes most about me, or what moments made that clear to him. I can only guess from his reaction because, as I said, he's not the vocal type.

Two things came to mind. The first was long before we became involved - about eight years earlier, to be precise. We met in a professional context and he was scheduled to give a presentation during a meeting I was organizing. Right before the meeting, he came and told me he'd forgotten all his notes in the car and when he went back to get them, found he'd lost the car keys, so couldn't retrieve the papers right now, now what to do? I was majorly p!ssed, thought it a BS story from beginning to end, and told him so. He insisted I was wrong and he was well prepared, just had no access to his notes right now. In a very cold voice, I told him: "Well if you're so well prepared as you say, then it won't be a problem to present your data from memory without any of your notes, right? Go ahead." He looked a little stricken but astonishingly, did as I asked and it turned out he was indeed well prepared and gave a rather good presentation, so the meeting went well and I didn't have to cover his ass as I'd feared. Fast forward eight years during which there was almost no contact (I was married, he knew my husband and kept his distance, and I had no idea he liked me). When we finally became romantically involved, I'd all but forgotten this little episode but he hadn't. He'd even kept one icy E-mail I'd sent him back then, and showed it to me with the words: "Look, you even wrote me love letters!" He referred to that presentation as "the worst half-hour of his entire life." It's beyond me why this particular thing would have been an "ahhh moment" for him but men are odd.

posted May 10, 2015 10:25 PM            

Your trying to knock him down, and getting hurt. Was a big ego boost for him, not because you couldn't knock him down, but because you tried and got hurt. It provided a need for him. Like saying, I'll go down fighting, but will need you in the end.

posted May 13, 2015 07:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:

Idk if that makes an sense! Lol

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posted May 13, 2015 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
^It totally makes sense, Lioness! At first I didn't realize this and had to learn how this is one major way for non-vocal men to show their love and appreciation to a woman, proving their devotion through actions. He once actually complained, "You never let me do things for you!" So I kinda made it a habit to order him around a bit - in a "non-needy way" as you say, and not in a nagging tone, more like: "Gosh, I have no idea how I'm going to get that heavy piece of furniture down the stairs tomorrow - any ideas?" and he'll drop everything and be there and try to do a good job, and be very proud of himself afterwards.

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