posted May 14, 2015 09:04 AM            

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I seem to have loved you in numberless forms...

LeeLoo's Esotericorner

posted May 14, 2015 11:01 AM            

Your chart has expired. You need to save it to your computer, then upload it on a picture hoster (imgur.com for instance) and then post the link of the new hosted picture on the forum, like this :

[*IMG]link of the picture[*/IMG]

posted May 16, 2015 01:11 PM            

When the momentum is at its highest-whether this when we have the "best" times or the worst- this can be the most impractical of times to break up.

Usually this time is marked by extremes of feelings; heavy or consuming.But what is clear from either experience is that there is no indifference of feelings to the other.

This is why abused women/men go back to their exes and the cycle starts again.

It is not because they enjoy being hit. But because the momentum is so high, their emotions so steep- that it is hard to take on a more detached look at what is really going on.

Detached perspective is key. Until one can do that, emotions tend to engulf every action and one finds themselves in the "mix" of things happening to them, instead of them making things happen.

I haven't seen your chart because it has expired . But this is not about you and him It is really mostly about YOU.

You can't leave a relationship when emotions are raw. The momentum is too high and spinning. It's like trying to go "cold turkey" on a habit you progressively got invested in for years-even when that habit did not serve you.

The key here is to slow down the momentum. Or try to get off slowly and not all at once.

This means that instead of "cutting him off" completely. Which often doesn't work.Try limiting your contact with him to only have space for what YOU want to say.

So instead of calling him everyday on the phone, choose to call him any 3 days of the week and have an intent in mind before picking up the phone.

Always be the one who is in control and if he calls unexpectedly, make up an excuse to call him back. Always keep the control of the conversations.

The thing is with all relationships is that the longer you two are together, the higher the chances are for disagreements.This goes for ALL relationships.

So we stay in painful relationships because there is a time when we get on with the other person. Even when those times are few and far between.

The trick here is to still be able to get the "best" out of the other person. And leave out the rest.