posted May 27, 2015 01:27 PM
The issue starts with you two as individuals and then it boils over when you two combine.When it comes to difficult relationships, I look to Mars/Uranus/Saturn/Sun and Pluto. These planets tend to be domineering or want a great deal of independence and/or autonomy.
If they are placed in the 1st,2nd,3rd and 4th, it is likely that the individual grew up with strong sense of self and doesn't take too kindly to people telling them what to do.
If in the 6th/7th, there is a tendency to feel that other people are your enemies or get in your way and the 10th is the reputation or what we leave in the "wake" of our interactions with others..
I included the 7th here because a close friends can also turn into an open enemy.
You have Pluto in 1st, Uranus in 2nd and Saturn in 3rd.
Saturn only respects people that they deem "worthy", but Pluto in 1st and Uranus in 2nd suggests that you came into your own early on and craved independence and being your own boss.
So both planets are not too fond of parental guidance- no matter how well-meaning. And can be downright resistant of authority.
Now the irony here is that with Sun in the 10th, you are likely an authority figure to others(or at-least perceived as such).
The domineering nature that you may resent from your mother, is reflected in the reputation that you tend to make for yourself (Sun in 10th).
You may be levitated to be the one in charge as others often assume that you will take on that role in any case- especially with your Sun in Leo.
Now your mother is quite the handful herself but in a differing way;
She has the Sun in the 1st house and really came to know herself quite early on too.
But with her Sun in Aquarius, it is likely that she desired to be more in charge of herself than others.
Sun in Aquarius is really a rebel and independent thinker at heart.They just want to be left alone to do their own thing and answer only to themselves.
So with Sun in the 1st house,this position affords them that ability.Or at the very least the courage to insist upon it being that way.
She also has her Saturn in the 3rd house. But with Saturn in Taurus, she tends to give authority a chance- but they must know what they are doing.
Pluto is in the 7th; often suggesting that a close friend turns into an open enemy: That perhaps there are power struggles in close partnership/marriage because her shadow side wants complete control of the other person(Pluto)
Mars sits on the 10th house and you know what that means? Yes. She has a reputation for being quite aggressive and insisting on her own way.
Since her Mars is in Sagittarius, she probably has quite the mouth on her and people often perceive her to be one of the two; assertive or a complete pain in the neck.
Sag Mars especially,tends towards being preachy and judgmental of other people. And they often voice it out quickly.
You two are actually more alike that you think.
The problem here is that neither one of you wants to give the other any leeway. And a clash is inevitable because of your strong natures.