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posted June 12, 2015 04:51 PM            

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posted June 12, 2015 05:00 PM            

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Composite(ref place) Not sure what that means

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posted June 12, 2015 06:34 PM            

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From a very cursory glance, it seems there are a few markers for longevity -- at the very least, a deeper compatibility: SUN conjunct MOON, MC/DSC and IC/ASC making the angles conjunct.

Some are very fond of NNODE conjunct MERC, too.

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posted June 12, 2015 07:05 PM            

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Thank you. I see the neptune and the juno and wonder.

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posted June 12, 2015 07:09 PM            

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NEPTUNE and JUNO? I don't follow. They're also not conjunct. To which are you referring?

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posted June 12, 2015 07:23 PM            

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If you both are very mature and don't run, that Yod is begging to be worked with!! But Yods are not easy!

I really like the synastry house overlays and the 5th house planets in comp chart also.

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posted June 12, 2015 08:08 PM            

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I meant the placement of our Neptunes. Idealization had been a big issue so far. Also, the Juno Trine Venus. Is that supposed to be the Mistress aspect? He's not married. I'm sure of that but what I read said it was like Camilla and Charles and you wouldn't marry. I know they did though.

You don't know how I HATE putting this out there but as much as I respect him, his honesty, integrity, and all that. Something happened recently which wasn't that big a deal but he's lying about it, knowing I know he's lying. It's like he's forcing me to pretend. He gave me a false birth time and claimes it was a mistake. I have it in writing. A 36 year old professional knows his birthday. It makes me wonder if with that Pluto, he isn't using that to dominate me or as some kind of test. I've never encountered anything like this before. If you look at the chart, it would appear that I'm the one that's supposed to be lying to him instead. I KNOW he wants me. I know he wants the relationship, professionally as well. I am in a Neptune fog right now but I'm not delusional. It feels like he's gaslighting me. I have Merc conjunct Pluto in Virgo in the 2nd natally and a packed 12thouse with asc, true node, mars, venus in cancer. I'm fairly astute and insightful. I may over-react but my perception is prretty good. I just don't know how to handle this or where it's coming from, WHY he would do this.

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posted June 12, 2015 08:29 PM            

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Any composite with MOON conjunct CHIRON has the capacity to delve deeply into the emotions of one or both. That's certainly not easy without the proper compassion and dedication.

As to the situation, do you have any reason for why he would lie about his birthtime? I've also known MANY people, professionals besides, to be mistaken about their birthtime.

Have you been gaslit before? I'm gathering you have been, and this is bringing up some paranoia.

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posted June 12, 2015 10:11 PM            

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No, really, they haven't all been champagne and roses but I've never had a man do this. It was his birthdate, not time. I could easily understand the time. It just shocks the h-ll out of me that HE's doing it. It seems so out of character.
There's more to it. There was this incident, minor moment of stupidity, that he keeps claiming he doesn't remember or didn't do, despite the proof, and then there's the way he changed everything all of a sudden, things that he claimed to be into for quite a while. Just several things like that that really have me off balance but he is still pursuing me. I can't figure out if it's because I made him feel insecure or if it's control/submission sort of thing with all that Pluto in our chart. The thing is, the things he's 'lied' about aren't that big a deal on their own. It's the way he's demanding that I see no evil, so to speak. And just when I think I can let it go, there's something like finding out about the birthtime.

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posted June 13, 2015 02:37 AM            

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If someone is lying about minor details, that's a clear indication they'll be deceptive about the more major things. I don't see it as a power play. It seems more likely to be a force of habit, and not a good one at that.

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posted June 13, 2015 04:37 AM            

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I can't get out of this though. I have to stay around because of our production and our project. It's like we own a business together and we lead this group. I put a lot into this myself and I want to get what I put in. I haven't really been able to do my thing yet. I think you're right about the force of habit thing. That was my first impression. I just don't understand it. His favorite song is This Love by Pantera. That says a lot. I think he was hurt MAYBE by me not being around a few times and not explaining and by talking about this man that I take care of. He's like my child but I think he suspects something else. Anyway, I need to stop trying to justify it. I should know better.

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posted June 13, 2015 06:00 AM            

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Sounds quite a lot like my ex-producing partner. We were working on a series much like the Wachowski's latest. I'm glad for their much deserved success, but it hurts that we failed to get there first because we couldn't hold it together.

My advice is stop sleeping together. I'm serious. Be professionals, and do what needs to be done.

Sometimes that sort of mix is nothing but trouble.

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posted June 13, 2015 06:05 AM            

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LOL, I should clarify that we haven't in person. Everything's been online so far but, believe me, it's still as real. I know that's hard to believe but somehow it's true. Very intense on both sides.

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posted June 13, 2015 05:41 PM            

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I knew that'd kill this thread.

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posted June 13, 2015 07:53 PM            

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Actually, I hadn't read that until just now. I'm not at all surprised, though. You know nothing about a person until you've met, and even then, it's dicey.

My ex-producing partner and I also 'knew' each other for 6 years before we actually met.

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posted June 14, 2015 01:55 AM            

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I think it's a Pluto thing and this is his way of dominating me, maybe. He sees my playing along and pretending to believe him or thinking I can't trust my own perception as some kind of submission. Maybe he does this so that that when/if he loses, he has something else to blame it on other than the raw thing that it really is.

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