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Topic: His Moon opposite my Moon, his Saturn t-square....can he be emotionally strong?
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Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 10:51 AM
  
The guy in dating-
Moon pisces@21.27(his 5th house/my 6th house
Saturn gemini@20.30(his 8th house/my 9th house)
Me-
Virgo Moon@18.32(my12th house/his 11th house)His Mars virgo@24.35
His Sun virgo@29.38
His Pluto libra@1.48
His Mercury libra@1.54 He oscillates between being in love and wanting to get married to out of nowhere freaking out and getting mad about unreasonable things and breaking up with me only to come back a week a later saying how sorry he is, he totally overreacted and wants to be the guy in my life forever. As soon as I start giving him the love and devotion he says he wants, I can feel him get distant and pull away and within a week he acts out in the way I just described.
Wtf? I just want a normal, solid, stable guy who is consistent!! I'm kind of wondering if this guy just cannot be that?
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Vajra
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From: Europe
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted August 08, 2015 11:32 AM
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Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 12:39 PM
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Originally posted by Vajra:
That doesn't sound good at all, Gabby. As if he were a borderliner - do be cautious. I had only one such experience and the guy was aware he had psychological problems and tried hard to overcome them, had been in therapy for years - but it was too difficult. Don't let him drain you, and don't think that you can do anything that will change him, the wish to change must come from within. I would not take him back the next time he pulls this stunt on you TBH.
Thank you, that actually makes a lot of sense. I've experienced a borderline personality before, it was not fun!
I went a reread about a borderline, I forgot about the immaturity that comes with this and the childlike vulnerability they can show, he did this very much early on, now it's only there when he trying to win me back. This is just annoying! IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 08, 2015 08:15 PM
Do you two have Mars square Mars? That could be part of it.Also is he a Rat?  IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 09:25 PM
Lol...yes he is a rat!! 
His Mars virgo@24.35/ My Mars gemini@29.33
His Sun virgo@29.38Gosh, Rat and a Rabbit don't get along very well. IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted August 08, 2015 09:36 PM
They don't!As friends maybe...beyond that? OMG just kill me. Plus I would count the Mars square Mars, even with the 5 degree orb. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 09:42 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
They don't!As friends maybe...beyond that? OMG just kill me. Plus I would count the Mars square Mars, even with the 5 degree orb.
Lol....good to know! I wondered about that Mars square Mars, thought maybe we had a chance because we really have decent synastry and comp except my Mars squares so much of his chart. He does make me mad!! Lol
I'll have to remember that 1972 is a rat year. IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted August 08, 2015 09:54 PM
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Originally posted by Vajra:
That doesn't sound good at all, Gabby. As if he were a borderliner - do be cautious.
It really does. I second this. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 09:58 PM
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
It really does. I second this.
I'm getting sick of it! I know I'm going to have a very hard time opening back to up him ever again. I doubt I would trust him at all with heart. He seems like a total flake, I've lost respect for him. IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted August 08, 2015 10:03 PM
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Originally posted by Gabby:
I'm getting sick of it! I know I'm going to have a very hard time opening back to up him ever again. I doubt I would trust him at all with heart. He seems like a total flake, I've lost respect for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this, Gabby. I can relate, though. I really, really can. It just isn't worth it -- the back and forth. If he can't be consistent with you, then there's SO much more that he can't do. Stability is just ... the cornerstone of everything else of which a foundation is comprised. Without it ... you're building upon sand. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted August 08, 2015 10:06 PM
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
I'm so sorry to hear this, Gabby. I can relate, though. I really, really can. It just isn't worth it -- the back and forth. If he can't be consistent with you, then there's SO much more that he can't do. Stability is just ... the cornerstone of everything else of which a foundation is comprised. Without it ... you're building upon sand.
Thank you! I completely agree...it's not hard to be consistent if the feelings are real😔 and/or you don't have a personality disorder. Ugh IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 08, 2015 10:09 PM
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
I'm so sorry to hear this, Gabby. I can relate, though. I really, really can. It just isn't worth it -- the back and forth. If he can't be consistent with you, then there's SO much more that he can't do. Stability is just ... the cornerstone of everything else of which a foundation is comprised. Without it ... you're building upon sand.
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Aubyanne
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From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
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posted August 08, 2015 10:25 PM
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Originally posted by Gabby:
Thank you! I completely agree...it's not hard to be consistent if the feelings are real😔 and/or you don't have a personality disorder. Ugh
Even with a personality disorder, love is what prompts one to at least learn to be consistent; to try. But if he's pushing you away and alternately drawing you back in? Oooooh. That is a classic BPD signal. IP: Logged |
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