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Topic: An older man?
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Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 01:33 PM
  
I recently met a fairly older guy.
I'm 21.
He just turned 30.
I know Astrology isn't set in stone and this will not influence my decision on our friendship or relationship.
I just want to know, in you guy's opinion, if this is a new "idea" worth exploring. I've never dated anyone older than 25 so I feel a little repulsed and skeptical about this new connection.This is really just for fun at this point. I'm not in love or anything. Just a potential interest like most of the synastries I post on here. BIRTHTIMES ARE 100% ACCURATE. MY NATAL 
HIS NATAL
SYNASTRY
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Rosalind
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posted August 24, 2015 01:40 PM
Please, repost your natal using Placidus system.IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 01:52 PM
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Please, repost your natal using Placidus system.
My apologies. Done. IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 24, 2015 02:14 PM
OK...The first thing I noticed: His Saturn sits exactly on your DSC angle. This is why you attracted him. This is why you are attracted to him. It's a karmic tie anyway. I really dislike his Saturn conjunct your Mars. Not a good aspect to have in synastry. Is actually the worst. I also don't like his Venus over your 12th house along with LILITH and Mars. His NN is also over 12th house. Dear Lord, you have a heavy and inevitable karmic tie with this man. Too much unsolved karma.
Venus conjunct Pluto. Ouch. Tragic star crossed lovers from a past life.
No matter what kind of relationship you will decide to have with this man, this experience will change your life and make you grow up... maybe earlier than you expected. The composite is very very karmic. Love stellium in 12th house + Mars. If you decide to have a love relationship with this man, its gonna end BADLY and it will hurt like hell. The good news? The karma will be cleared. The bad news? You are meant to have a love relationship. It's inevitable. You HAVE to clear that karma. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 02:21 PM
I knew it.Once I seen all that 12th house action.. What's the significance of that my asteroid KARMA conjunct his URANUS exact? IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 24, 2015 02:31 PM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
I knew it.Once I seen all that 12th house action.. What's the significance of that my asteroid KARMA conjunct his URANUS exact?
From all the outer planets, I see Uranus as the least karmic. BUT... there is a but... Uranus brings a lot of instability in regards of karma if the two individuals are not mature enough ( in this case you) in order to balance its energy. You can have a very karmic on/off relationship. Now... I work little no at all with asteroids. I focus more on the planets and signs. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 02:40 PM
Could the relationship end out of old age?  Haha.Seriously. I felt that inevitable pull towards him the first day he texted me out of the blue. My cousin's boyfriend hooked us up. Anyway, yeah. I knew it was something underneath our connection. What do you think are the possible outcomes? This might not be a factor but he does have a rough past in the prison system. He made some bad choices in his teens and so he had to live out his 20's in prison. He spent 11 years locked down, but now he's out, has a full-time job, and is at our community college trying to work towards his degree. He just got released almost a year ago. Is this information important or significant to our karma together? IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 24, 2015 02:46 PM
No. It has nothing to do with you. Its his personal karma that doesn't and shouldn't affect you in any way.He has NN opposite Pluto. Although its a very wide orb, the aspect can show if someone is meant to do something illegal and go to prison but for that I would check his transit aspect of that time better. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 04:30 PM
Another thing I noticed..His CHIRON opposite my NORTH NODE.
His CHIRON conjunct my ASCENDANT. Pain or healing? & I thought Venus conjunct Pluto was a positive aspect? Does it matter that they're both our chart rulers and are conjunct exact?!
His Ascendant is in Scorpio.
My Ascendant is in Taurus.
His Pluto in Scorpio is conjunct my Venus in Scorpio at 0 degrees.
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Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 04:34 PM
Also, I'm at the end of my Saturn transit.Saturn was at first in Scorpio, affecting my Scorpio stellium. Now that Saturn is reentering Sagittarius, it's also reentering my 7th house which is ruled by Scorpio.'
They say Saturn transits always leave a gift.
Hmmm.. or maybe a lesson? His Saturn exactly on my DSC has to be related to my current Saturn transit. IP: Logged |
Aubyanne
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posted August 24, 2015 05:48 PM
Thirty. Ohhhh, honey. I get that you're 21, but, please. 30? That's nothing.Honestly, it might be the best decision you ever made, depending upon your own maturity level. And his. But most men at 30 have at least figured some things out. You may be delighted to receive the benefit of his experience in that area. And I'm not speaking sexually, per se. Emotionally, and in the sense of being somewhat established and more serious-minded. I'd hardly go into it expecting doom-and-gloom. Only those who are seeking it approach life with such negativity. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted August 24, 2015 09:32 PM
I don't know. I find that most 30 year olds have gone to a different phases hike the 21 year old just begins to live. What's there to do with someone who just learned how to drink alcohol?There are exceptions but very few. Abd I think age gap works better when you are older IP: Logged |
Keela
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posted August 24, 2015 10:35 PM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
I recently met a fairly older guy.
I'm 21.
He just turned 30. I just want to know, in you guy's opinion, if this is a new "idea" worth exploring. I've never dated anyone older than 25 so I feel a little repulsed and skeptical about this new connection.
This is a good reminder how different people are, in their approaches or in general. When I was 21, I spent some time with a man who was 39, and didn't bat an eyelid. Not because of the age, anyway, that not mattering beyond some "You listened to what in your youth/lived when what happened?" Otherwise a bad example though since he was into me&I really wasn't, romantically, but there were reasons why "had to"/chose to interact with him in any case and had to try not to alienate him outright for my reasons. Leading to people commenting on us sounding like an old married couple because of whatever push-pull reasons. It wasn't his age that I didn't like though, so seeing a 21 to 30 year old age difference described as something as big as "an older man" leads to slight smiles. That was big when I was 17-ish and someone else was 26 and talking about a steady relationship almost straight off. He's not talking about taking you to see his parents straight off, is he? If he's been in prison, it may be that he's also been as if in suspended animation on some fronts, too, so there may be less of an experience or maturity level difference between you than you think. If you were attracted, don't you owe yourself a chance to see what it's all about? IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 24, 2015 10:51 PM
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
[b]Thirty. Ohhhh, honey. I get that you're 21, but, please. 30? That's nothing.Honestly, it might be the best decision you ever made, depending upon your own maturity level. And his. But most men at 30 have at least figured some things out. You may be delighted to receive the benefit of his experience in that area. And I'm not speaking sexually, per se. Emotionally, and in the sense of being somewhat established and more serious-minded. I'd hardly go into it expecting doom-and-gloom. Only those who are seeking it approach life with such negativity. [/B]
I always love seeing your name pop up Aubyanne <3 Your replies are always very insightful and knowledgeable. Thank you. But in relation to the post at hand, I had the same idea but 30 kind of scared me a bit. I didn't expect to see that number until I was like 25, 27, 28 Haha What do you think of our charts just at a glance if you don't mind taking a quick look..? IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 28, 2015 11:23 AM
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Yanmorg
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posted August 30, 2015 10:20 AM
Things just got weird fast.We went out with a group of his friends last night and it was extremely awkward from beginning to end. He didn't even act like I was there until I went missing to the bathroom. I guess I'm understanding where this mars quincunx mars aspect plays its part in our connection. Especially now viewing mars in aquarius in our composite. It was awkward at the bowling alley in a way where we didn't know how to act together in a social setting. Behind closed doors or when it's just us two, we're fine. The comfort level is almost perfect but as soon as we met up with some of our friends, things went downhill FAST. I enjoy his company and conversations thus far, but I believe his Venus retrograde is going to create some major issues with us in the long run. Do Venus retrograde men find it hard to show affection, especially around other people? He was acting very withdrawn and standoffish when we met up with the group. & I'm just sitting trying to figure out how to break the ice but it was no use. The damage had been done. This guy is just so confusing already. He did a 180 in a matter of seconds. Not to mention, I don't know how I feel about this whole thing yet. I usually know whether I want to continue seeing the guy or not after the first date but with this one, I'm stuck between letting go and sticking around to explore further. 12th houss composite.. Does ANYONE have any advice or insight based off this new information? IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 30, 2015 10:31 AM
Yan, there is no use in blaming Venus Rx. This is how your guy really is. Run!Been there. If you don't run, you are gonna end up very frustrated and confused like myself. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted August 30, 2015 11:01 AM
Sorry it didn't work out. As for age.
I LITERALLY know 25 year olds that are more mature and responsible than 50 year old that I know.
Meaning that I know very mature "young people" AND immature "older people". I could give examples.
This age crap gets on my nerves. It doesn't represent maturity and I've not found this "different stages in life" to be the least bit in the way of having a great relationship. Only if you let it.
When you LET it weigh on you then yeah, it's going to subconsciously affect you and spoil it. You'll be looking for it. It takes two people who can maturely accept their differences with respect and support. But it obviously isn't likely to work with this guy. Actually, first thing that I thought was the maturity roles reversed. IP: Logged |
HoodBlaze
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posted August 30, 2015 11:55 PM
Didn't even look at synastry just saw prison. Get it together lol, you can do better. Astrology is so weird, it either attracts smart or dumb people. Don't be on the wrong side. You are looking for validity to an already weird thing. You're 21 you are still a teenager basically and this guys already been a criminal, and butt buddy. Use common sense before astrology lol.IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted August 31, 2015 12:40 AM
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Originally posted by HoodBlaze:
Didn't even look at synastry just saw prison. Get it together lol, you can do better. Astrology is so weird, it either attracts smart or dumb people. Don't be on the wrong side. You are looking for validity to an already weird thing. You're 21 you are still a teenager basically and this guys already been a criminal, and butt buddy. Use common sense before astrology lol.
Agreed....you deserve better!! IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted August 31, 2015 06:30 AM
People are so judgemental nowadays..I automatically deserve better because he's been to prison? Most of the real "bad guys" are on Wallstreet or in some corporate office building somewhere. I am in no way justifying his run in with the law or his bad choices, but everyone makes mistakes. His actions and choices led him to prison. & not all men who go to prison engage in gay sex. That is large misconception. Yes it happens, but you had to already have homosexual tendicies going into prison in most cases. Men don't automatically sign their sexuality away just because they have a long sentence without a woman being present. You people in today's world are sick. You know nothing about this guy, but I automatically deserve better because he's been to prison? Grow up. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted August 31, 2015 05:18 PM
Nah, you deserve better because he spent 11 years in prison.I'm assuming this wasn't because of littering.. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted August 31, 2015 05:21 PM
I mean, he went to prison for most of his "kid" years. He probably hasn't had a lot of relationships, and doesn't really know how to interact with people other than prison inmates. He's adapting to civilian life, I'm sure. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted September 01, 2015 07:08 PM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Nah, you deserve better because he spent 11 years in prison.I'm assuming this wasn't because of littering..
I'm pretty sure all those big time executives and CEO's who went to prison for nore than few years didn't go by littering either. Grow up. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted September 01, 2015 07:09 PM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
I mean, he went to prison for most of his "kid" years. He probably hasn't had a lot of relationships, and doesn't really know how to interact with people other than prison inmates. He's adapting to civilian life, I'm sure.
Now this, I agree with 100% & can see the reality and probability in that statement. & yes, it took awhile to figure out but yes, I agree. IP: Logged |
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