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Yanmorg
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posted August 26, 2015 01:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted August 26, 2015 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Liliya     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted August 26, 2015 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Mars inconjunct Mars aspect in synastry.

Does this automatically spell bad sex?

What are some aspects that might make sex umcomfortable, awkward, etc?

What are some good aspects?


Me and a guy I'm seeing has his mars in Taurus inconjunct my mars in Sagittarius.

But our Chart rulers are conjunct exact (His Pluto conjunct My Venus).

His mars is also opposite my Venus exact.

Would this help balance things out?

We do have saturn conjunct mars too with me being mars but i think that has more to do with our age difference.


Depends on the rulers of both of your Mars and the house it falls in and what is aspecting your individual Mars in each of your natals are doing.If you post SYNASTRY I can take a look.

I personally don't think those aspects spells bad sex IT CAN mean that you both express your sex drives differently and you both notice that and since you have the opposition venus Mars tells me that it will compliment the Mars unconjunct Mars but Honestly it really depends what your Mars is doing how you handle your Mars energy what planets do you connect more deeply in a sexual sense.
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posted August 26, 2015 02:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted August 26, 2015 02:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Omg peeeeerfect I'll be looking.

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posted August 26, 2015 02:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you!

I am on the inside.

He is on the outside.

Birth times are 100% accurate on the dot.

He's 30.
I'm 21.

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posted August 26, 2015 03:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Thank you!

I am on the inside.

He is on the outside.

Birth times are 100% accurate on the dot.

He's 30.
I'm 21.


Your Mars ruler of your 12th in the 7th. His Mars ruler of the 6th in the 6th house which is trine his own 5th ruler in the 2nd house. Your venus in the 6th house which is your chart ruler and 6R opposing his Mars. Your Mars is definetely wanting to merge spirtually and intimately you need someone who you can express your sadness anger love to also you definetly love excitement im your relationships and love a bit of arguments (I could be wrong) did not really look too much in the rest of your chart but I will later. this is super important his Mars quinxunxing it tells me that your needs with emotions and sex and power have a challenge being met with his 6th house Mars BUT at the same time I see this as growth inducing for you because he is also inconjunct your NN IN THE 7th which I find very complimentary. The venus opposition his Mars tells me he finds you exactly his type in a Mars lens view because venus is your 6R and chart ruler and its definetely complimentary for his masculine side in a 6th house vibe as well (Mars ALSO his 6R in the 6th). You are definetely his type I do have to say that.

Personally I wouldn't worry so much about this, as it is my intake but your Mars MAY feel like he is not giving you the right attention or affection at times OR he is not giving you enough space and individual freedom since your Mars is in sagittarius and taurus is very possessive sign I've experienced it myself but since you have the opposition I think that will compliment it as this is very growth oriented for you which is GREAT for your Mars 12R Since you seek spiritual growth through in your sexual relationships and some sort of purpose and understanding through spirituality and the unconscious.

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posted August 26, 2015 03:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Plus both your chart rulers are CONJUNCT which is totally INTIMATE! Really sexually raw and attention oriented. I wouldn't worry personally I see this as a challenge but also being able to ignore it and work through it and also needed for you to grow because the NN is involved here. He definetely will open your Mars and you will get in touch with it very much so. I would not say you both are incompatible sexually Because you both have MAJOR conjunctions and oppositions with your chart rulers and its definetely touching is 6R and that's a turn on for him for sure. This is just my intake on it. Your definetely very spiritual I can see it! Mars 12R in 7th your married to your beliefs and the unconscious and the unknown

If the Mars inconjunct Mars is PARALLEL or contra parallel I definetely see this aspect being played out as something very karmic in a past life but needed to work through again for whatever reason for yourself since he is aspecting your NN.

Im GONNA look at the rest of the synastry.

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posted August 26, 2015 04:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Yanmorg:
What are some aspects that might make sex umcomfortable, awkward, etc?

Refer to my thread.

I'm kidding. And ... I'm also not.

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posted August 26, 2015 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not seeing any sexual karma, though, so I can't say it should be 'intentionally' problematic, or any larger focus than any other relationship.

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posted August 26, 2015 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Honestly im not seeig his Mars as a sexual planet too much he has other sexual planets that are more in ravel then this one. Your Mars Isn't to sexual as well BUT your Mars does have that desire to merge spiritually with someone and emotionally philosophically as well but im not quite sure if I would entirely say your Mars is the super sexual planet in your natal. Im a venus in a sag and honestly my Venusian is not sexual that much at all I find other ways of being much more intimate with someone then the typical venus in cancer or scorpio would I would think that your Mars in sag is similar but your a bit more merging then I am since your Mars is in the 7th.

Again I wouldn't worry about this Mars iconjunct his Mars Id let this one go if I were you I don't see it as a problem
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posted August 26, 2015 05:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
MARS is always the root of one's drive, including their sexuality. Full stop. We can't escape it. It, of course, can be sublimated and channelled into other forms of experience or endeavours, but we cannot simply 'dethrone' MARS as being the seat of our deepest drive: sex, anger, force, and motivation. To do so would be overturning hundreds of years of research, as well as laying waste to some of the foundational principles of astrology.

Instead, it's better to note why there are 'MARS problems', rather than castrate the general meaning by way of qualifiers and disclaimers. You know?

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posted August 26, 2015 05:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gabby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Since I'm not familiar with the Mars quincux Mars...I'm going to take the way out...


Cafe astrology...
When Mars squares, quincunxes, or opposes Mars in synastry, there can be an inherent lack of understanding of one another's basic impulses and instincts, as well as how one another expresses anger. The opposition is the least difficult of these aspects, in fact, because with oppositions, there is more awareness of why the conflict exists and a give and take is possible as a result. You might enjoy challenging one another, but whether you are rivals or foes is the question. Usually, it's a bit of both. The square can stimulate much tension. In working relationships especially, there can be a need to work independently before coming together, as joint efforts can stimulate impatience. In any relationship, allowing one another space to pursue separate interests will be very important. You might often find that you provoke or push each other, and you should make special effort to bring more tenderness and understanding into the relationship. Soft aspects from yin planets and bodies, such as Venus and the Moon, can help smooth over rough edges. Excess energy generated between you can too easily turn to irritation, impatience, and argument. Being active together or pursuing separate interests are important. Watch for destructive behaviors, as they need to be tamed as much as possible.

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posted August 26, 2015 06:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
MARS is always the root of one's drive, including their sexuality. Full stop. We can't escape it. It, of course, can be sublimated and channelled into other forms of experience or endeavours, but we cannot simply 'dethrone' MARS as being the seat of our deepest drive: sex, anger, force, and motivation. To do so would be overturning hundreds of years of research, as well as laying waste to some of the foundational principles of astrology.

Instead, it's better to note why there are 'MARS problems', rather than castrate the general meaning by way of qualifiers and disclaimers. You know?


im not saying that we should ignore his mars not at all. but in my opinion i dont see his mars that dignified, it is a sexual planet of course but i see it as a bit weak for a sexual planet due to the place it is in. however i do see it as a powerful planet in terms of career etc. i dont know what it is like for a man to have mars in the 6th house i have no idea but from my intuition i can feel and see this person being very caring, concerned, and taking some of his energy towards anything to do with the 6th house or taurus like things. this man maybe very sensual and more giving in bed then recieving, he is probably very hard working and does make an effort, again i have no idea! i mean talk to me about someone you know that has a similar placement like him?? plus i havent looked at the rest of his chart, but looking at his mars alone that's all that i can come up with which i plan to do later today/tmrw.

im not going to ignore his mars entirely, and yeah your right his mars does have problems of course that's which i am trying to explain.

but honestly i will follow your teachings and knowledge as i am here to learn from you and the other mods.

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posted August 26, 2015 08:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This could very well be where he's sublimating or otherwise redirecting his Martian energy. That's never a bad thing, as sexual drive must be directed in a variety of ways. The issues arise when it's being entirely sublimated rather than expressed through sexuality.

A 6H MARS is definitely a bit of a goofy spot; he's more likely to be assistive and helpful, possibly at the expense of his own needs. There's always danger of workaholism here -- especially if SATURN's involved. 6R can be a bit more revealing as to how and why. But you certainly don't want to have to go on the equivalent of an Easter egg hunt when it comes to reassembling a man's sexuality. (Of course, we might look to OSIRIS in the event that's happening.)

In short, the MARS quincunx is clearly present for a reason, and the need for adjustment might become a prevalent theme, as drives aren't naturally in sync and require some manoeuvring and compromise.

Look to dwads, too, as well as the Huber degree (which you already know will be somewhere in Virgo).

Instead, take comfort that her VENUS is 6H, showing a natural relationship and synergy with Virgo. The Huber degrees might be close. My husband's MARS is 2° conjunct my VENUS Huber degree, which creates a deeper understanding between his late Pisces MARS and my early Virgo VENUS.

There's also antiscia. Those can be very powerful.

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posted August 27, 2015 12:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
This could very well be where he's sublimating or otherwise redirecting his Martian energy. That's never a bad thing, as sexual drive must be directed in a variety of ways. The issues arise when it's being entirely sublimated rather than expressed through sexuality.

A 6H MARS is definitely a bit of a goofy spot; he's more likely to be assistive and helpful, possibly at the expense of his own needs. There's always danger of workaholism here -- especially if SATURN's involved. 6R can be a bit more revealing as to how and why. But you certainly don't want to have to go on the equivalent of an Easter egg hunt when it comes to reassembling a man's sexuality. (Of course, we might look to OSIRIS in the event that's happening.)

In short, the MARS quincunx is clearly present for a reason, and the need for adjustment might become a prevalent theme, as drives aren't naturally in sync and require some manoeuvring and compromise.

Look to dwads, too, as well as the Huber degree (which you already know will be somewhere in Virgo).

Instead, take comfort that her VENUS is 6H, showing a natural relationship and synergy with Virgo. The Huber degrees might be close. My husband's MARS is 2° conjunct my VENUS Huber degree, which creates a deeper understanding between his late Pisces MARS and my early Virgo VENUS.

There's also antiscia. Those can be very powerful.


"In short, the MARS quincunx is clearly present for a reason, and the need for adjustment might become a prevalent theme, as drives aren't naturally in sync and require some manoeuvring and compromise." : i certainly most agree.

i'll have to study antiscia and ask questions about it as i' m not very familiar with.

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posted September 16, 2015 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted September 20, 2015 06:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aubyanne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And you don't have any issues with intromission, right? You're not unusually tight?

If the above isn't so, then it could strictly come down to ED, yes. Truth is, the initial erection is rarely ever sufficient to get the job done. Many don't realise that and attempt intercourse with the man's first erection of the encounter.

However, if you're still engaging in sufficient foreplay, but he's going soft (or losing it completely?) just as you attempt intercourse, then it's definitely a psychological issue.

Remove the pressure. Stop trying to have sex. Just take it off the table entirely and try sensate focussing for awhile. Honestly, I'd take it off the table 'indefinitely'. A man never wants something quite so badly as when he can't have it.

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posted September 22, 2015 09:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
UPDATE:

Problem solved.

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