posted September 15, 2015 10:01 PM            

Is the time for the outer wheel correct?

IMO, I feel this is really good synastry. Some challenging aspects, to be sure, but a synastry that fully flows is more disconcerting to me than a synastry with some snags.

What stands out, naturally is you (Venus) and him (Mars) - potent, classical sexual attraction
Then his Sun conjunct your Moon. Classical heteronormative compatibility in the astrologer's handbook. Your emotional life is well reflected in the most basic sense of how he chooses to present as himself and what he stands for.
Pluto conjunct Uranus and then Moon conjunct Pluto. Immediate chemistry, immediate attraction, a deep, fully formed passion that burnt extremely bright at the apex of this interaction
That is to say, if this was ever consummated. Invasive to ask and you don't have to answer, but whether this is the case or not, such feelings would still be prominent in your interpersonal dynamics
Sun/Moon/Neptune forming a grand trine with his Jupiter and your Mercury. Your professional lives blend well with your personal lives. This isn't the first time there's been a snag in your interactions - it's happened before, but you both have such immense good will towards one another that the feelings quickly get resolved and maybe laughed about (Jupiter). Both of you are in synch mentally (Mercury) - let's go even deeper than that - you're borderline psychic with one another. This bonds you both further and makes the highs that this relationship casts incomparable to anything else you guys have experienced or even thought you ever wanted.

You know what I think? He's going through a lot right now that has nothing to do with you. Saturn is about to shift into Sagittarius at the end of the week and the opposition will quickly maul his Gemini Mars - meaning the tone of that planet will be majorly shifted. That Mars touches your Venus, hence his backing away.
When he was 18, he underwent a massive psychological change when Pluto demolished his Sun and Venus. He was immature then, used his charm to get whatever he wanted and didn't always use his intellect to his benefit. He's changed now, a little wiser than his years, unsettles some people that meet him. This is also due to the Capricorn stellium in his chart. Well, now everything in that stellium is being reviewed by Pluto demolishing whatever values he held towards responsibility and the platform of his thinking patterns in general.
All Capricorns have been acting erratic lately. They've been extremely on edge and crawled even deeper inside their own minds than they usually are. It's best to leave them alone right now and have them handle this process of rediscovery and rebirth on their own.

posted September 15, 2015 10:21 PM            

I was told last November that he cried in the lab when he found out my ex had passed. He came to me a few weeks after that and told me he had been praying for me and my daughter and we were in his thoughts...that if I needed anything at all to let him know. There were a few other times when I could feel the chemistry, but he is younger and I was his boss...plus he had a live-in girlfriend, so I dismissed it. One week solid where he waited for me to finish each evening and walked me to my car.

posted September 15, 2015 10:22 PM            

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Originally posted by mnm1978:
Never consummated . I was going through a lot this past year, my ex-husband passed away last October, I was finishing my graduate degree, and raising a three year old. He had a girlfriend when I hired him. He apparently proposed to her back in May and she freaked out on him. He really is a sweet, smart guy...who adores my little girl. I was caught off guard when things changed and he said he wanted to sit down and have a heart to heart with me. Then he came to me, but said later he got scared...that he had this whole thing planned out but I wouldn't even look at him. I moved three hours away the next day to be closer to family. I was so nervous about what he wanted to say in this heart to heart that I kind of shot him down. We haven't even spoken on the phone since then. Just some back and forth text messages that changed recently. I think he is out drinking a lot and flirting with other women. I'm beginning to feel like an option instead of a choice...and our communications have changed. He's stopped messaging back and he seems different. It's a lot to handle from a distance, but I can't seem to get it out of my head. It just feels so unresolved and I will admit I can feel the chemistry even across this distance. I think I'm going to have to "let it go" for now and see if he comes back around... Not sure on his exact birth time to answer your question.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your husband I hope you and your sweet pea are doing well.

Astrology aside, it sounds like it was a case of both you being at the wrong place at the wrong time. You're still (naturally) grieving your husbands death, he's grieving the loss of his relationship - I absolutely believe you guys have solid chemistry despite these obstacles - but these murky emotional waters are not the best place to lay down the foundations for a relationship.

posted September 16, 2015 11:26 AM            

Just to clarify...we had been divorced for a year when my ex passed. Still hard though.

I've stuck the composite in here as well just to see if it gives a different view...

posted September 16, 2015 02:59 PM            

then you have jupiter and mars in 8th. Passionate and also upper secretive

Saturn trine mars and venus although wide (5 degree) indicate a level of stability

venus square uranus indicates this relationship as being out of the norm or with odd arrangement. Pluto trine sun and mercury brings natural depth to the relationship

The composite is good over all, except moon, saturn and pluto all in 12th means not only your emotional nature is hidden, there's a paternal feel to how you two relate to each other emotionally adding to the transformation, death and rebirth of your spirituality.

what's wary to me is that you two have moon-pluto conjunction and that stellium in composite. Yet, natally, you are not a particularly plutonic person. Your moon conjunct neptune and your sun conjunct chiron, showing that you have many challenges with wounding and healing.

Natally, he is also a heavy fire/air with a retrograde mars. It just seems like this relationship can be too much for you two because natally you aren't all that up for plutonic businesses.

your house overlay for his chart is good but he doesn't completely cover your 5th, 7th and 8th ruler. He seems to be more attracted to you than you are and maybe that's why he came up to you first and you felt like you were a "choice."

I dont think this will fare as a successful relationship given the odds.

posted September 16, 2015 03:51 PM            

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Originally posted by mnm1978:
Is it really a stellium if there are only 3 planets in the composite 12th? Just curious.

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I count 3. Some people count 4.

But the interpretation remains regardless of what you want to call it.

posted September 16, 2015 04:08 PM            

I've been through a lot of rebirth myself over the past few years. Tearing everything down to the foundations and starting over. Questioning everything I know and building my life to make sure I am living every day. What scares me the most in life is not loving fully. Never having that with someone else...but a double-edged sword since it is what makes me hold people at bay. I've kept myself emotionally, physically, and psychologically out of the love game for the past three years since my separation. My ex-husband, whom I was with for eight years, had undisclosed bipoloar and borderline personality disorders. There was a lot that I simply didn't see with him because it wasn't who I was. So in hindsight, it's definitely made me more cautious and less naive. I've done a lot of healing, but I'm afraid to be hurt again or misread someone. I do have a lot of feelings for this person that have taken me by surprise. Like I said...I've blocked a lot of that for the past three years and I am GREAT at separating personal and professional pieces of my life. I wasn't looking for that type of relationship at work.

But don't get me wrong. I would in a heartbeat give everything up for love. Life is short and I learned that very clearly last year. This person kind of feels like home and I feel a pull for him.

posted September 16, 2015 04:41 PM            

And I hope all the best for you theses coming year with t.Uranus and Pluto squaring.

That said he's a very young person. Take it this way. Many of us with plutonic chart still find plutonic relationships draining.

posted September 17, 2015 12:16 PM            

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Originally posted by mnm1978:
Florence - hello bday twin . Grow over the last few years is definitely an understatement! I feel like I should break old habits to try for new results...but I'm still too confused on what the new "actions" should be to move forward. Growth can suck sometimes. Can't loves just be easy??? Lol.

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posted September 18, 2015 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by mnm1978:
Anyone else care to weigh-in on either the synastry, composite, or both? With two slightly different opinions based on different reports, just looking for a third to round out. Not that I don't realize that life is what you make of your stars....

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Is there anything I said that you need clarification?