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Topic: What are your thoughts on this synastry?
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Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 12, 2015 08:04 PM
  
I met a man about a month ago,we met online and went on 2 amazing dates. Chemistry was out of this world but soon after the second date he went cold.When I asked him about it, he said his parents were getting a divorce. I told him if he's no longer interested or not in the proper headspace to continue speaking to let me know. He texted me with this wishy washy "yea,idk. It's not that I'm not interested, it's hard to think about it with everything going on". Not wanting him to string me on any further, I responded with "makes sense,take care" to which he said " u do the same" and that was the end. I deleted his number immediately but I think about him EVERY day! I can't get him out of my head and it's annoying. I'm a cancer and he's a Scorpio. Our moons conjunct in Aquarius. Our Venus to Mars sextile both ways, My south node conjunct his Venus in libra,his Venus falls in my 7th house while his sun and Pluto fall in my 8th,his south node in Sagittarius conjunct my Saturn. His north node in Gemini conjunct my Chiron in Gemini (which scares me) our Eros to psyche trine one way and sextile to the other. His sag Jupiter trine my ascendant in Aries. I'm pretty baffled by how emotionally connected I feel to him. He was extremely affectionate towards me in a ridiculously short amount of time, kissing my forehead,eyes. Talking to me about his family and parents potential divorce. The hot & cold game scares me and even though I really want to speak to him again, I figured time and staying busy would have erased him from my memory by now but it hasn't happened and I'm not sure what to do about it. On our second date I also found out he'd been snooping through my Instagram page, I know he was pretty embarrassed but I tried to make him feel betterby telling him not to worry and that I'd also looked at his Facebook. It was true but unlike him, I asked him straight out for his page. Maybe that also had something to do with his random hot & cold behavior? Maybe I embarrassed him? I keep going through the dates in my head like clockwork but he was so into me so the idea of him just accepting that we no longer speak is driving me nuts. What does the synastry between us show? Idk his time of birth but his birthday is November 11,1983, mine is July 12th 1987, New Jersey ny 11:48pm. Any insight would be truly appreciated IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 812
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Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 12, 2015 08:31 PM
2 dates and you cut the dude off??? It's your life but maybe you should give another chance. He's a scorpio LOL. They take time.
And yes snooping is normal with them as well. Since he doesn't stalk you're goodIP: Logged |
Aubyanne
Moderator Posts: 5598
From: Tinseltown, Hollyweird, The Multiverse
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted October 12, 2015 08:35 PM
He's 31 and his parents divorcing is such a blow to his life that he can't even date a woman he's clearly interested in?WTF? IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 12, 2015 09:10 PM
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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
He's 31 and his parents divorcing is such a blow to his life that he can't even date a woman he's clearly interested in?WTF?
Exactly,that was my thought exactly but then my friends were saying that maybe I was a little too harsh on him etc...ugh idk anymore 😕
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llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 132
From: Cleveland, Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 12, 2015 11:18 PM
If you have feelings for him, why not text him and ask him how he is holding up? Tell him he has been in your thoughts lately and you've thought about how he is managing with everything? If you care, show it. Just a thought...IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: red river valley
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted October 12, 2015 11:19 PM
^^ totalsIP: Logged |
llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 132
From: Cleveland, Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 12, 2015 11:21 PM
...and i agree...scops do take time. Underneath all they are soulful and anyone who takes the extra steps needed will see this. IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 13, 2015 06:22 AM
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Originally posted by llewsacm:
If you have feelings for him, why not text him and ask him how he is holding up? Tell him he has been in your thoughts lately and you've thought about how he is managing with everything? If you care, show it. Just a thought...
I deleted his number right after our last text. I no longer have it and even if I did, I ended it with "take care" IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 812
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Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 13, 2015 10:00 AM
Well, not much to do then. Unless he contacts later.IP: Logged |
Bluejay
Knowflake Posts: 475
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted October 13, 2015 10:45 AM
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Originally posted by Moonchild712:
I deleted his number right after our last text. I no longer have it and even if I did, I ended it with "take care"
Can't you check your call log through your service provider? You should be able to get his number that way. I know a guy that was nearly 30, and his parents divorce hit him extremely hard. For one thing it was his dad and his stepmom divorcing. Despite the fact that she raised him, he thought that he would not maintain a close relationship with her because he was not her biological son. He was really saddened by the thought of growing apart from her. He was also about to go work overseas for a couple of years, so he was really upset about not having a sense of home/family to come back to when he visited. I'm just giving this example, because people handle things differently, and he might not have been blowing you off. He may have been genuinely distressed by his parents divorce, but you misunderstood it as a lack of interest in you. He probably felt rejected by your reaction. If you are able to get in touch with him and explain why you reacted that way, I'm sure he will understand. Scorpios and Cancers are a great match, whether it's romantic or platonic, and they understand each other in a way that no other signs can. Plus you have conjunct Moons. I'm sure that you can work things out if you reconnect with him. IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 14, 2015 12:06 AM
Yea,maybe you're right. I guess I'm also nervous he'll act all tough and snub me bc of how abruptly I cut him off...not sure what I'll say but I'm sure I'll think of a reason to reach out lol quote:
Originally posted by Bluejay:
Can't you check your call log through your service provider? You should be able to get his number that way. I know a guy that was nearly 30, and his parents divorce hit him extremely hard. For one thing it was his dad and his stepmom divorcing. Despite the fact that she raised him, he thought that he would not maintain a close relationship with her because he was not her biological son. He was really saddened by the thought of growing apart from her. He was also about to go work overseas for a couple of years, so he was really upset about not having a sense of home/family to come back to when he visited. I'm just giving this example, because people handle things differently, and he might not have been blowing you off. He may have been genuinely distressed by his parents divorce, but you misunderstood it as a lack of interest in you. He probably felt rejected by your reaction. If you are able to get in touch with him and explain why you reacted that way, I'm sure he will understand. Scorpios and Cancers are a great match, whether it's romantic or platonic, and they understand each other in a way that no other signs can. Plus you have conjunct Moons. I'm sure that you can work things out if you reconnect with him.
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yungang_grotto
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: red river valley
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted October 14, 2015 12:31 AM
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Originally posted by Moonchild712:
Yea,maybe you're right. I guess I'm also nervous he'll act all tough and snub me bc of how abruptly I cut him off...not sure what I'll say but I'm sure I'll think of a reason to reach out lol
Probably it was the same nervousness which caused you to snub him.. I mean to say, your insecurity and instinct of self-protection, so quick to feel snubbed by him when really he was trying to let you know he was interested but too overwhelmed to focus on you at that moment.... remember, it wasn't rejection, it was dejection! IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: red river valley
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted October 14, 2015 12:37 AM
Yet with a Chiron in Gemini I understand you may be especially vulnerable to poorly chosen words. And his Sagittarius South Node could have been less blunt. So there's that. Maybe you've already witnessed the potential of his NN-SN axis affecting your Chiron. He's gonna be wordy and the words are going to feel triggering, could be you learn mastery of the area which is also a particular sore spot, through relating. Maybe this very exchange is a particular highlighting of this issue. You have the potential to heal through words, even if you are hurt by them. So even if someone may be hurtful to you through their communications, you can heal and care for them through yours! Imparting wisdomand grace and understanding, because you KNOW how much it can hurt, choose to help. You'll find the change in vibration soothing. IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 14, 2015 09:12 PM
Wow, very interesting. What about the fact that his Venus in libra conjuncts my SN and falls in my 7th house while his sun falls in my 8th and moon in my 12th. I've always heard that the house person feels it more? Does this mean that I would be more into him then he is me? I think you'd be happy to know I texted him today. He responded right away with hey,how are you? I asked him how he was to which he responded that it's still pretty hard with his parents divorce but he's alright otherwise. I kept it brief but I'm extremely scared of putting myself out there while he holds his cards close to the chest. I find myself going in immediate self protection mode whenever I sense distance. quote:
Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Yet with a Chiron in Gemini I understand you may be especially vulnerable to poorly chosen words. And his Sagittarius South Node could have been less blunt. So there's that. Maybe you've already witnessed the potential of his NN-SN axis affecting your Chiron. He's gonna be wordy and the words are going to feel triggering, could be you learn mastery of the area which is also a particular sore spot, through relating. Maybe this very exchange is a particular highlighting of this issue. You have the potential to heal through words, even if you are hurt by them. So even if someone may be hurtful to you through their communications, you can heal and care for them through yours! Imparting wisdomand grace and understanding, because you KNOW how much it can hurt, choose to help. You'll find the change in vibration soothing.
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yungang_grotto
Knowflake Posts: 840
From: red river valley
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted October 14, 2015 09:25 PM
You'll never find love if you live in fear. You'll avoid rejection but you'll miss out on life as well...  glad to hear you've re-connected. Maybe just let him know you're there for him if he'd like to talk and leave it at that? He might really need to talk about his parents' divorce but feel shy about letting it all go with somebody he just met and likes a lot, not wanting to be too heavy? Maybe he's feeling self-protective too.... just a guess IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 14, 2015 10:11 PM
You are 1000% right, thank you for helping me take a leap of faith on this one. Hopefully,it brings forth a good outcome...baby steps👣😇
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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
You'll never find love if you live in fear. You'll avoid rejection but you'll miss out on life as well... glad to hear you've re-connected. Maybe just let him know you're there for him if he'd like to talk and leave it at that? He might really need to talk about his parents' divorce but feel shy about letting it all go with somebody he just met and likes a lot, not wanting to be too heavy? Maybe he's feeling self-protective too.... just a guess
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llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 132
From: Cleveland, Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 14, 2015 10:37 PM
Yay! This is GREAT news! I went through this phase with my current SO for a long time until we had a talk about being exclusive. Remember you are worthy of happiness and letting your guard down can really open up some magical doors to the soul. He probably needs a sensitive and trusting person in his life right now. Find the courage to tell him you've been thinking about him and there to lean on. I am sure it will go a long way...he's obviously already fond of you. Embrace it girl! IP: Logged |
llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 132
From: Cleveland, Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2015
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posted October 14, 2015 10:39 PM
And btw...my Venus falls in my SO's 7th house and I definitely FEEL it! IP: Logged |
Moonchild712
Newflake Posts: 7
From: New York ,NY, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 15, 2015 09:04 AM
That's awesome,thank you 😊 quote:
Originally posted by llewsacm:
And btw...my Venus falls in my SO's 7th house and I definitely FEEL it!
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