posted December 04, 2015 10:35 PM            

I'm outspoken; if a question is asked, and I know the answer--my tendency is to respond. If I see really stellar synastry, should I not call attention to that? I've used remarkable restraint and sensitive consideration in my post.

Inappropriate to ask someone's general location? Is there a guideline that I'm not aware of? I personally would welcome a way to send a private message here. Have done that with Lee and Auby--but that was possible only because they are moderators.

There's been no breach of trust on my part. Anything I've shared in private with others here remains private. Yes, I'm doing my best. This public discussion and misunderstanding could have been avoided if PM's were possible. My other astrology forums provide a way to do that.

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Edit: sorry, you totally aren't todd. Although LeeLoo mentioned this issue in regards to him, using this as a dating site...

i think this is what LeeLoo was talking about a few months ago, todd, [never mind that part, but the rest is relevant] and I can see why she got her hackles up; in some ways it's a breach of trust to try to get involved with people based on their astrological chart... I mean it's possible something beautiful could happen of course, but it's of great importance that everybody feel safe sharing their charts here because really it's very personal information.. anyway.. dating sites are dating sites and this is an astrology forum. You've mentioned your distaste for friendly banter on here but if you want to develop relationships with the people on here it's probably a good idea to engage them on that level if you want to explore a possibility rather than outright asking where they live. It's not just astrology=compatibility--although again I don't know for sure.. if the synastry is really stellar that May not be perceived as intrusive and unnatural. But this is where working on personal issues and the importance of the natal comes in.. I know you're probably doing your best, the best you know how. I'm just advising caution I guess.

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posted December 05, 2015 12:04 AM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
This public discussion and misunderstanding could have been avoided if PM's were possible. My other astrology forums provide a way to do that.

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Yes. THIS.

posted December 05, 2015 09:12 AM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
in some ways it's a breach of trust to try to get involved with people based on their astrological chart... [...]

.. dating sites are dating sites and this is an astrology forum. You've mentioned your distaste for friendly banter on here but if you want to develop relationships with the people on here it's probably a good idea to engage them on that level if you want to explore a possibility rather than outright asking where they live. It's not just astrology=compatibility--

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I agree with that - and I AM a moderator.

Besides any other`s user`s concerns and thoughts are JUST as valid and valuable as a moderator`s. And no moderator will send out email addresses to you, that would be a privacy issues.

However if you want to explore the synastry with a certain member on here, you could start a topic with the name and asking if she is interested to get into a synastric discussion with you.
That way she has the choice to say Yes or to say No.

If you want to exchange email addresses, you BOTH could write to a moderator or Randall and if you both signal interest, then giving out email addresses might not be considered an invasion of privacy, at least I think so. Though it is best to ask Randall about this.

posted December 05, 2015 09:24 AM            

Why don't you just tell them, "wow! We have great synastry!"? You'll know quickly if they are interested in discussion with you and if they are, it's a conversation starter to just talk about your natal, how they manifest, and you learn a little about each other. That's enough to discover a spark if there is one.

posted December 05, 2015 10:07 AM            

Just to clarify: I wasn't asking for an exchange of emails. Many boards have a feature in which you can send a private message through the site. Nobody has access to your private information. Not sure how the system works. You click on their username, and an option pops up to send a private message. There is also an option to block messages from that user.

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:

I agree with that - and I AM a moderator.

Besides any other`s user`s concerns and thoughts are JUST as valid and valuable as a moderator`s. And no moderator will send out email addresses to you, that would be a privacy issues.

However if you want to explore the synastry with a certain member on here, you could start a topic with the name and asking if she is interested to get into a synastric discussion with you.
That way she has the choice to say Yes or to say No.

If you want to exchange email addresses, you BOTH could write to a moderator or Randall and if you both signal interest, then giving out email addresses might not be considered an invasion of privacy, at least I think so. Though it is best to ask Randall about this.

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posted December 05, 2015 10:48 AM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
This thread might help.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/002558.html

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posted December 05, 2015 10:55 AM            

How about you do the thread, we await the answer of the poster this pertains to, and either I then lock the thread (if she isn`t interested, and to minimize the possible judgement you fear) or you two can exchange the comparision in that thread, or if you donīt want to do it publicly, both of you can write me an email, stating clearly you want each other`s email address.

posted December 05, 2015 11:48 AM            

You never know what you will pull in. Maybe more than you hoped for. Maybe the person you have in mind will show up and you won't even have to say, "You were the reason for this."

posted December 05, 2015 11:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
My thought was, post your chart and invite people who feel they are compatible with you to remark on the compatibility.

You never know what you will pull in. Maybe more than you hoped for. Maybe the person you have in mind will show up and you won't even have to say, "You were the reason for this."

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posted December 05, 2015 12:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
As far as I know there is - sadly- no personal messaging possibility on this site.
I understand your reservations, and yes, people can become judgemental, even if you did not ask for their input in the first place.

How about you do the thread, we await the answer of the poster this pertains to, and either I then lock the thread (if she isn`t interested, and to minimize the possible judgement you fear) or you two can exchange the comparision in that thread, or if you donīt want to do it publicly, both of you can write me an email, stating clearly you want each other`s email address.

Would that work for you?

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posted December 05, 2015 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
My thought was, post your chart and invite people who feel they are compatible with you to remark on the compatibility.

You never know what you will pull in. Maybe more than you hoped for. Maybe the person you have in mind will show up and you won't even have to say, "You were the reason for this."

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posted December 05, 2015 03:01 PM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
I want to apologize if what I said seemed insensitive at all. I have strong Diana in my chart and I have strong protective instincts, for young girls especially. I understand you were trying for utmost respect and I encourage love in all its forms. I know beautiful relationships can develop in all kinds of circumstances.

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posted December 05, 2015 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
Dear Yung, apology accepted. I understand age gap romance is difficult for many in Western culture to understand and accept. For me personally, mutual love seems more important than social conventions. I've learned to follow my heart in romance.

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Agree.

posted December 05, 2015 04:52 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Agree.

Why don't you just tell them, "wow! We have great synastry!"? You'll know quickly if they are interested in discussion with you and if they are, it's a conversation starter to just talk about your natal, how they manifest, and you learn a little about each other. That's enough to discover a spark if there is one.

I apologize also. I never meant any harm with anything I said, if it even seemed that way. I've got a few things in my chart that make me direct as well as dramatic.

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posted December 05, 2015 09:47 PM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Welcome back to 1998 baby!

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posted December 06, 2015 07:38 AM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
Hey DopGang. No offense taken. I've learned that great synastry means nothing if both parties are not interested, and available to intimately relate.

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posted December 07, 2015 02:52 AM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Welcome back to 1998 baby!

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I was a 6 year old grasshopper. lol. But yeah, it's no wonder that if you bring a bunch of people into astrology together the natural question that would come is "Are we a match together?"

I think a dating forum, set to private for those say 17 or older would suffice. You give some kind of passcode to those who ask for it and prove age and bam.

posted December 07, 2015 04:18 AM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
Still learning to be patient, and allow best timing to naturally unfold.

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Only way you're ever going to truly find her. Really. I know everyone says almost to the point of contrivance, 'it's when I wasn't looking,' but that's been THE consistent feature in ALL of these 'surreal relationships', which began in unconventional circumstances -- in most cases, on or via other planes. (As you know.)