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Topic: Unresolved Karma or just an unhealthy attachment?
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Yanmorg
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posted December 17, 2015 08:26 AM
  
I'm just completely unhappy, but something is keeping me in this relationship. I care for him, but I'm not satisfied.Sexually, I'm about 65% satisfied. He can't communicate properly. He has never had a girlfriend so he knows almost nothing about women and relationships so he's constantly doing things that either hurts ME or our relationship. He tells little white lies which makes me question his integrity as a person. & don't get me wrong, he's not a horrible person. His "mess-ups" are MOSTLY harmless, but that's what makes it so frustrating. I view him sort of like a helpless child who knows nothing about sex, love, relationships and I'm his parent or teacher trying to guide and direct him, but that's the thing, I'm doing so much guiding and teaching, there's hardly ever any room left for me to just enjoy our relationship. I'm just fed up and we've only been together for a few months. I don't know if we're going to make it through the storm despite my determination and staying power. I just want different thoughts and opinions. More analysis. Thank you in advance. 😊 MY NATAL 
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Yanmorg
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posted December 17, 2015 11:10 AM
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Yanmorg
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posted December 17, 2015 05:39 PM
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llewsacm
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posted December 17, 2015 11:18 PM
Ohhh, this is a toughie. So, he's probaby not going to communicate clearly with u because of those squares in the synastry from his mercury I would guess. Plus, you have so many Scorpio placed planets...you need someone to express to you openly their desire for you. I dont see this happening with him. Look at your 12 house placements in synastry and composite. Dont get me wrong, it can happen, but you have to be extremely patient if that is possible. And that's a tall order. I would think you would need someone to bend over backwards to prove their love for you (and you are worth it my dear) just don't know if you can hold out for this guy not really knowing if it will happen. If you want it to truly work, and you can exert enough patience and instruction, it may get better! If you don't have it in you, well, then you know what to do. IP: Logged |
NikiVenus6
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posted December 18, 2015 02:55 AM
Through your synastry I can see that there is karmic blockage in this relationship. Perhaps, it is Karmic in nature. Uranus conjunct your karma His Valentine conjunct your DC/Mars His Saturn on Your Pluto/DC His Karma conjunct your 8th house cusp His Mars opp Your Venus His Moon square your Mars There is a communication barrier and unrest in this relationship which is the main reason for blockage. Since, his Pluto conjuncts your Venus it will be a gut wrenching relationship for you. Through your composite having NN in 1st house and Vertex in 7th, there is some soul to your relationship. However, there are too many planets in the 12th house. The only thing that can make this relationship work is compromise and communication. You people seem to miss the right time, one switches on and the other is off. There is deception and uncertainty, sudden breaks and reconciliation. I'll give you a hint: He may think that you are the aggressor in this relationship and may prefer holding his ground. ------------------
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Yanmorg
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posted December 18, 2015 08:33 AM
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Originally posted by llewsacm:
Ohhh, this is a toughie. So, he's probaby not going to communicate clearly with u because of those squares in the synastry from his mercury I would guess. Plus, you have so many Scorpio placed planets...you need someone to express to you openly their desire for you. I dont see this happening with him. Look at your 12 house placements in synastry and composite. Dont get me wrong, it can happen, but you have to be extremely patient if that is possible. And that's a tall order. I would think you would need someone to bend over backwards to prove their love for you (and you are worth it my dear) just don't know if you can hold out for this guy not really knowing if it will happen. If you want it to truly work, and you can exert enough patience and instruction, it may get better! If you don't have it in you, well, then you know what to do.
I agree with everything you've said. I told him I'm still hoping he adjusts his communication style for the survival of our relationship, but I honestly don't see it happening. He disagrees. We will see. & I agree with you, I deserve someone who will bendover backwards to prove their love for me and he does to a certain extent which is probably why I'm still hanging in there. He has done just about everything I asked of him, but the only issue is, I'm tired of asking! Haha. I shouldn't have to ask for what I deserve. I am his teacher and he is an ignorant innocent student. It's very frustrating and my Sagittarius mars is slowly cracking under all of the pressure. I resist the urge to flee on a daily basis. Very stressful. I just hope a good chunk of my Karma gets cleared with this one. Man oh man. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted December 18, 2015 08:39 AM
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Originally posted by NikiVenus6:
Through your synastry I can see that there is karmic blockage in this relationship. Perhaps, it is Karmic in nature. Uranus conjunct your karma His Valentine conjunct your DC/Mars His Saturn on Your Pluto/DC His Karma conjunct your 8th house cusp His Mars opp Your Venus His Moon square your Mars There is a communication barrier and unrest in this relationship which is the main reason for blockage. Since, his Pluto conjuncts your Venus it will be a gut wrenching relationship for you. Through your composite having NN in 1st house and Vertex in 7th, there is some soul to your relationship. However, there are too many planets in the 12th house. The only thing that can make this relationship work is compromise and communication. You people seem to miss the right time, one switches on and the other is off. There is deception and uncertainty, sudden breaks and reconciliation. I'll give you a hint: He may think that you are the aggressor in this relationship and may prefer holding his ground.
Wow. Spot on. Yes, we have MAJOR communication issues and I'm sorry, but I think it's mostly his fault. He refuses to share himself with me at the WRONG moments. Maybe because, yes, I am the aggressor. I believe it's because he's sooooooo passive. It's sooooooo boring and unattractive. It drives me crazy because I never thought love/ hate could go to such extremes in short, quick flashes. I don't know whether to run out of fear or stay out of intrigue. How can I get him to lower his defenses? Is his Pluto controlling my Venus or is it the other way around? I can't tell because I'm Scorpionic by nature and my Pluto does square his Moon also. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted December 19, 2015 10:26 PM
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NikiVenus6
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posted December 20, 2015 04:06 AM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Wow. Spot on. Yes, we have MAJOR communication issues and I'm sorry, but I think it's mostly his fault. He refuses to share himself with me at the WRONG moments. Maybe because, yes, I am the aggressor. I believe it's because he's sooooooo passive. It's sooooooo boring and unattractive. One minute I'm in a fairytale dreamland having all of his babies and the next minute I can't even look at him because I'm just so disgusted. It drives me crazy because I never thought love/ hate could go to such extremes in short, quick flashes. I don't know whether to run out of fear or stay out of intrigue. How can I get him to lower his defenses? Is his Pluto controlling my Venus or is it the other way around? I can't tell because I'm Scorpionic by nature and my Pluto does square his Moon also.
It is because his Saturn conjuncts your Pluto in his 1st house. Saturn is resistance while Pluto is control. On the other hand his Moon is in hard aspect to your Mars, he is a man so he may not take kindly to your martian approach. There is an exchange of roles which makes him quiet and bury the anger instead of voicing it out.
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Yanmorg
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posted December 20, 2015 08:38 AM
I figured he didn't appreciate my aggressive nature, but he's fascinated by it also so he gives off mixed signals.I personally believe he's just weak for a man in a lot of areas. He doesn't handle situations as a man with integrity, strength, and compassion. He's selfish, childlike, and inconsiderate at times. I'm just wondering if we'll ever see eye to eye. I just want to know if someone can take a look at our progressions or a hard look at our synastry and give their opinion on whether this is worth fighting for. Astrology won't make my decision for me, but it will give me more insight on what I should do. I care for him deeply, but my patience is almost ran out. I can't be his prisoner for too much longer. IP: Logged | |
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