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Jounia
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posted December 19, 2015 01:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jounia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello. I am the Cancer and my guy is the Capricorn. We have been living together with a new baby since April but we have a lot of fights. Are we doomed? Can you see any common behaviour traits? How can we improve? Any input would be highly appreciated.

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todd
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posted December 19, 2015 03:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for todd     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am afraid that there is a very uuunfavorabeo pattern for commitment. the sun is square to the moon and the midpoint is conjunct to Uranus and mars.
thuis shows a very vibrant and electric connection but this is not a aspect of commitment. he does not want o give up his personal freedom.this is virtually impossible to change because it is the basis for your relationship.... that is instability.
there is a loose moon trine to Saturn which gives a little stability but nor enough to counter the Uranus impulse.
Saturn is square to Neptune which is another aspect showing he wants no responsibility and likely will slip out the back door.

Jupiter on the nadir can show a pride in the home.it often shows economic strength but with out any emotional interest...... not very binding.
venus is opposed to the sun/pluto midpoint. this us an aspect of emotional selfishness. it can show a intense sexual dynamic but with no intimate emotional bonding , this sexual impulse often turns to celibacy.

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starmoon
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posted December 19, 2015 04:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i didn't look at the composite, but the synastry chart shows a clear picture of how you each see one another. one person (the cancer) is heavily impacted by the other person and would see them as life-long partner material, perhaps physically perfect/highly attractive. the other (the cap) would view the cancer as a friend/social partner more than a romantic one. the synastry also shows marriage is probably not in the cards, or might not work out. there is a 7th house saturn overlay and that can sometimes add strength to a couples' chart, but in this case doesn't help. i don't see much in common here... except perhaps that you both enjoy arguing/debating and that could actually be a source of enjoyment if done the right way. like sparring over current events and topics/debating things other than your relationship. you might also try being more of a friend to one another, like joining some activities together that put you with lots of other people/groups. both the synastry and the composite show that this could work if the focus can be taken outside the relationship a bit.

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thegrinning_cat
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posted December 19, 2015 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for thegrinning_cat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dear Jounia,

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with your relationship!

One thing that came to my mind, looking at your synastry: The rulers of your 7th House are connected in a double whammy!
This is a sign for a deep connection.
Your DC is in Cancer, his in Aquarius.
Your Moon is conjunct his Uranus and his Moon squares your Uranus.
This connection is not an easy one, because both planets have very different goals and wishes.
Maybe the balance between distance and closeness is a constant theme in your relationship, that can't be solved easily.
Your Sun and Node is also in Cancer, so the qualities of security, children and building a home are important to you.
But what could be interesting: His 7ths House ruler is in the 4th House (Cancer) and your 7th House ruler is in the 9th (Sag)
I found these aspects very important to look at, because it shows how and where we seek and find love.
In his case, it would be a family, which is good for you.
In yours it would imply being inspired and learn through the relationship. It opens your way of loving to a broader, idealistic and open to the world sense, similar to Aquarius.


Your Partner has maybe more ambitions to achieve something in terms of career (Capricorn Sun and Leo ASC).
Aquarius DC is looking for a friend relationship with much freedom than deep romance…

Still, your Moons are both in Water Signs, so there is a deep affective connection.
Your Venus is in Gemini and fits his Aquarius one.
Sexuality could be intense with the Mars conjunctions to Neptune and Pluto.

Issue No. 2 could be communication.
Neptune is in opposition to Mercury in your Synastry and that could imply lies and avoiding to confront serious topics.
In your Composite there is a T-Square between Sun, Moon and Mercury.

It would be important for you to be open about everything you feel and try to care about what the other has to say, even if it's unpleasant.
The hard aspects still show there is a profound emotional connection, but you have to work on it.

I don't know if the Pluto-Venus Opposition is felt in the Composite, but it could imply issues of possessiveness and jealously.
I could imagine he is someone who need his space and can be very blunt about it.
Your Scorpio Moon probably is no fan of that.

I agree with Todd about the Uranus/Mars thing.
It is a difficult aspect and implies much fighting.
Again there is the question of passion vs. freedom.

But still, Uranus is the ruler of his DC and it's not a square at least.
Try to be open about what you need in a relationship and resist talking back if you're annoyed…I know it's easier said than done.

But you have a beautiful child together and I'm sure he loves it and cares about it. Try to address his Pisces Moon and let him have space. Maybe that will balance things out.

I wish you all the best! <3

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