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Topic: Friends for years. Great Composite & Synastry but nothing?
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Yanmorg
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posted December 30, 2015 04:43 PM
  
Me and this guy have been friends since freshman year in High School. We dated for 3 weeks then I dumped him, but we still remained friends. I don't remember why we broke up, but I do know I wasn't really involved. We have so much to say on the phone, social media, but when we get to texting, things get awkward and the communication eventually dies once again. When we dated in High School, we talked on the phone often and even hung out a few times. I've always had a huge liking for him, almost smitten every time we talk and he has said things similar. I just don't get why we could never get a relationship off thr ground considering our liking for one another and the charts. FYI: He did start dating a girl for 3 years shortly after we broke up; half of their relationship was long distance though, after we graduated when she left the city for college. They broke up awhile ago, but he has admitted to still having strong feelings for her. I blame it on bad timing. It's always bad timing with us & until this day, We're still just friends and I have no intentions on dating him any time soon. Just a question. (charts removed).
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Yanmorg
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posted December 31, 2015 07:08 AM
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todd
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posted January 05, 2016 04:49 PM
the composite has a mercury/Jupiter/venus stellium which shows a good friendship, but Jupiter does not necessarily lead to a romantic connection. in addition the sun is trine to Saturn , which though it gives a stability to a relationship also does not elicited romantic interests, you tend to become familiar with each other rather than have continued excitement for each other.
in addition pluto conjunct the node is not conducive to a intimate relationship as there is an underlying selfishness to this aspect.
the mars/venus midpoint is square to Uranus and karma, so this shows there was once a very strong electric attraction, but as a comet, this aspect wanes quickly and does not lead to a enduring romantic tie.todd IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted January 25, 2016 09:44 AM
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Odette
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posted January 25, 2016 07:48 PM
There's still time! LolBased on your story... and the charts... if I had to predict the likelinhood of you guys being friends for ever vs. getting married, having a family etc. I would say it's 50-50. It could go either way. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars
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posted January 25, 2016 10:22 PM
I'm not sure I understand your question. Do you just need someone to look at your synastry? IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted January 26, 2016 05:36 AM
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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
I'm not sure I understand your question. Do you just need someone to look at your synastry?
I just want to know what markers in our synastry is causing us so much delay. The chemistry between us has always been there and we've always been great friends, dated for a quick second in High School, but we still can't get together and establish a deeper bond which is what I want and he's said similar things. It's just weird. I know you can have the best synastry, composite and still not get with that person, but I've seen our chemistry play out in reality over years. I'm just curious on what's behind our delay in getting together. I blame my Saturn square his Venus, Saturn trines in Composite. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted January 26, 2016 05:38 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
There's still time! LolBased on your story... and the charts... if I had to predict the likelinhood of you guys being friends for ever vs. getting married, having a family etc. I would say it's 50-50. It could go either way.
Thanks for your reply. It's funny you say that because I feel the same way, no Astrology involved. I feel like we were destined to be in one another's lives. Vertex conjunct ASC.
Karma conjunct Saturn.
Moon conjunct Sun.
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Yanmorg
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posted January 26, 2016 05:42 AM
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Elysia
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posted January 26, 2016 05:53 AM
The first thing I see is your progressed composite moon in the 12th. Maybe that's one of the factors behind the foggy feelings/confusion...but all the same, adding a dash of romantic dreaminess to the connection.**Disclaimer: I'm a beginner so take all I say with a pinch of salt. But I do want to pitch in and help nonetheless - so I'll be back later, bit busy right now.  IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn
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posted January 26, 2016 09:05 AM
Block in communication - your Mercury Venus conjunction in Scorpio squares his Mars in Leo. Block in expression - Saturn tense aspects. Your Mars square his Saturn and his Venus square your Saturn. Instability - Uranus aspects but especially his Uranus square your Moon. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars
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posted January 26, 2016 09:07 AM
I see where the attraction is, and while it is on both sides, I think it is predominantly more on your side. Your attraction to him comes from:
Your descendant is in Scorpio, with Pluto conjunct it. He is Scorpio-heavy. Your 8th house is Sagittarius (ruler of Jupiter), his moon is conjunct your Jupiter. Therefore, the way he expresses his emotions is very attractive to you. Your 5th house is Virgo (ruler of Mercury), and his moon also conjuncts your Mercury as well. Your juno conjuncts his Sun, therefore, he is your ideal partner. His attraction to you comes from:
His 8th house cusp (Taurus) is conjunct your Ascendant. The way you project yourself is highly attractive to him. Your sun also conjuncts his 8th house ruler (Venus). This is another reinforcement of an attraction on the 8th house cusp level. His 8th house ruler is widely conjunct your 5th house ruler. You both have very compatible placements together as well. Your Venus conjuncts his moon. Your Mercuries are conjunct. I have this with my boyfriend, and it's an amazing aspect because you both understand each other and it makes it so easy to talk to them for hours. You have the traditional Mars square Venus aspect. And then of course, your sun is conjunct his Venus and Jupiter. I also like your composite chart. Sun-Moon-Juno-Mercury-Jupiter conjunction trine Saturn is awesome. I have a Sun-Moon-Jupiter conjunction (opposite) Saturn with my boyfriend, it's quite lovely Everyone says that Saturns are death in synastry, but I think they hold people together (maybe that's why you've been so close to each other for so long). Additionally, your 5th and 8th house ruler trine his Saturn.
With all that said, maybe with y'all it's just the fact that you guys have been friends for so long. I feel like sometimes when you're friends with someone from the opposite sex for so long, they become more of a brother/sister rather than an interest. Or maybe he's just afraid he will mess something up since y'all are so close. Maybe there's some fear there that if you guys start something and it ends (again), that it will ruin what you guys have built. There could be endless reasons...
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Belage
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posted January 26, 2016 06:12 PM
I don't know if I am missing something, but I am not seeing where your planets and his are falling in each other relationship houses. I am talking about 5th, 7th and 8th houses. You can have the best synastry and composite in the world, but if your planets are not activating those respective houses, a romantic relationship may not happen. ETA: Sorry if I am sounding blunt. I just have a limited amount of time. IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn
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posted January 26, 2016 06:30 PM
Houses overlay here is actually very interesting if we attempt to tell the story purely from that vantage point.The focus is mainly on 1st and 6th houses, that's where most of their planets fall. His in her 6th so he's only going to be important to her whenever she needs him, 'man of service' and she drops her planets in his first house so they both like each other on the surface but it's like a 'first impression' feeling, doesn't go any deeper because other houses are switched off. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars
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posted January 26, 2016 09:44 PM
I forgot about the 1st house overlays. You have a lot of planets in his first house- sun, venus, and mercury. Usually with overlays, the house person feels them. However, with the 1st house, it's mostly the planet person who feels it strongest. You find him relatable to you. IP: Logged |
hypatia238
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posted January 28, 2016 01:07 PM
I could see you are close and really care for each other and get along well but what about sexual attraction? I dont see much sexual chemistry in the chart although I glimpsed quickly at the synasyry. Also do you activate his duad chart? I do know this, I can have a great composite and synastry but if you are not my type physically at all, its never going to happen, I will see you forever as my dear friend... IP: Logged |
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