posted January 05, 2016 07:00 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
there was a venus trine the moon whi8ch gives a very positive and emotionally attractive feeling between you. sun was conjunct the node which gave the relationship a "special" feeling.
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"light" and spontaneous and free.
but with Saturn conjunct lilth there are domineering vibrations under all the freedom and attraction. plus the venus/pluto midpoint is conjunct the vertex with moon square the vertex. pluto/venus is a very carnal aspect. the moon/venus is a lighter emotional connection. venus/pluto is much darker as it tends toward domination rather than love.
so what happened was initially all the aspect of fun,sex and love were felt, but as the relationship went on, the underlying darker emotions of domination and control became obvious, as these dark feelings supplanted the initial light. with the sun conjunct the node, the relationship was first bathed in light, but then the domination of Saturn conjunct lilth came to the fore

todd

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thanks Todd!

Domination and control from where? Him to me or me to him?

posted January 05, 2016 11:51 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
Its Sun square Pluto which means he was probably obsessive and something might have made him very upset. This composite has some love aspects like Venus conjunct DSC but I think there was insecurity that unfortunately wasn't going to be overcome and I personally don't see him coming back because Sun is conjunct NN which is square Pluto which means it will never be more than a disappointment.

And Venus square Chiron is too painful to have a happy relationship.

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....So there was no love on his part it was purely obsession?

I will add a little background. He was mixed up with me first at the time when he met this person, apparently they "got together" the first night they met, he moved her in almost immediately, they were married in under a year and she rushed to get pregnant.

In the last year or two he suddenly blocked me on all social media even though we were barely interacting at all by that point, not even writing to each other privately. This is pretty unlike him which leads me to think some kinda ultimatum, either explicit or implied, was given, that he had to cut me out entirely.

Well, this is largely my own guesswork as to what happened to cause the silence, although like i said i cant say for sure because he's not answering messages when i created a new profile to ask him about it without a block in the way.

posted January 06, 2016 02:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Spongebob:
thanks Todd!

Domination and control from where? Him to me or me to him?

Is this it or will he come back around again one day do you think?

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hey sponge bob,
I don't want to get into natals but you might see if you have a strong pluto aspected to your conscious planets or node, as looking over the composites you've posted there are many that have a strong pluto element. pluto as a selfish symbol is largely unconscious and the native with this affli8ction may not realize that deep inside there is a strain of selfishness ,unbeknownst to themselves.
you seem very quixotic about may of these composites so it may be you don't realize your own unconscious selfish nature.
just some musing here.
todd

posted January 06, 2016 03:27 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
hey sponge bob,
I don't want to get into natals but you might see if you have a strong pluto aspected to your conscious planets or node, as looking over the composites you've posted there are many that have a strong pluto element. pluto as a selfish symbol is largely unconscious and the native with this affli8ction may not realize that deep inside there is a strain of selfishness ,unbeknownst to themselves.
you seem very quixotic about may of these composites so it may be you don't realize your own unconscious selfish nature.
just some musing here.
todd

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posted January 06, 2016 03:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Spongebob:

I have moon conjunct pluto natally, yeah. He has mars conjunct pluto and uranus natally and in synastry that stellium of his is conjunct my venus.

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that all makes sense. my suggestion is that to you is do some deep soul searching and try to isolate your emotional responses in light of your unconscious selfishness.
the moon/pluto is especuially difficult to self analyze because the moon is the substratum of all emotional and mental responses.
todd

posted January 06, 2016 04:34 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
that all makes sense. my suggestion is that to you is do some deep soul searching and try to isolate your emotional responses in light of your unconscious selfishness.
the moon/pluto is especuially difficult to self analyze because the moon is the substratum of all emotional and mental responses.
todd

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Thats kinda not necessary at this point; once i reminded myself of all the crap he'd done to me i stopped missing him immediately.