posted January 12, 2016 11:50 PM            

So..I'm sort of worried..Is it significant that I have no planets in the 5th, 7th, 8th, 11th, and 12th houses? Those are important houses for love..is this the reason I've never been in a relationship? Or how do I interpret this?

I've had suitors yes, yet I seem to resist love, affection, all the stuff I actually secretly want with one special person. Some suitors give up and move on, some hang on and I still talk to as friends. I even know of one who has liked me from grade school! The problem is I don't reciprocate their attraction, so it's no go for me, as I'd like to feel some sort of physical spark.

In my other threads I talk about one person I can't get over. He is the only person ever to give me this feeling. Not sure if it qualifies as unrequited love, as I don't actually love him (I was in love with the idea of him?), but I always think of him, even though he is taken now (single when we met). I know I need to get over it but my venus in cancer is so, so bad with that stuff and I hate it. I have fiery placements otherwise (well, saturn in the first probably doesn't help) but this seems to consume me.

Here is our synastry and composite:

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AND here is my natal:

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So, are empty house really bad news?

posted January 13, 2016 05:02 PM            

Anyway, I just wanted to say that empty house mean that the particular area represented by the house is not an area that you are actively focusing on. And yes having these houses as empty could explain you being perpetually single.

But it doesn't mean that you will not get married with an empty 7th house or that you will never have sex (empty 5 and 8th house). Just check out the planets ruling those house and see aspects to them and their position to get an indication of what can happen in these empty house areas.

posted April 13, 2016 12:42 AM            

Here is my natal. Is there anything that really jumps out?

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Synastry and composite with the guy (note I do not know his TOB). Did he in the past feel anything for me? It frustrates me that I can't get over this.

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Composite:

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posted April 13, 2016 10:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Jalapeno:

In my other threads I talk about one person I can't get over. He is the only person ever to give me this feeling. Not sure if it qualifies as unrequited love, as I don't actually love him (I was in love with the idea of him?), but I always think of him, even though he is taken now (single when we met).

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It has nothing to do with empty houses, trust me. I have all of these houses empty as well (big 3rd house stellium with a planet each in 2nd, 4th, 6th, 10th and 11th) and I have been in back to back relationships my entire adult life pretty much. What you've said above speaks to the Venus opp. Neptune in your chart I think, if you want to pinpoint something to blame. This really is a "head in the clouds" type of placement because you either fall for people who are unavailable or who don't reciprocate your feelings, or you end up in relationships with people who are not good for you because you don't see them clearly. You more or less put them on a pedestal. People with this placement see love as this otherworldly entity and it can be hard to live up the expectations they've built up for themselves. While a soft aspect between these two planets can add a certain romanticism to your outlook, the hard aspects can make you delusional. This is why when these people fall from their pedestals it can result in a lot of bitter disappointments. So really, it can go two ways. You either remain single because you're searching for that IT factor and refuse to settle or you keep bouncing around from one disappointment to another.

In all honestly, you are better off the way you are. There is no shame in waiting until you find someone that really sparks your interest. In fact, this way of thinking is healthy because otherwise you may end up wasting time in meaningless relationships. There is so much to be said for living a healthy, independent life outside of relationship commitments because then you learn exactly what you want.

As for your dilemma, I think you're experiencing the classic "first love" syndrome (though you say you didn't actually love him). You're over-romanticizing this feeling you had because it was new to you, and the feeling of having that taken from you is new as well. Try to really meditate on the reality of who he is and not just the "feeling" he gave you. Also realize how much energy you're putting into thinking about this individual, when he is obviously not doing the same for you.