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Topic: Should I stay or Should I go now?
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enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 03:11 AM
  
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Valentine
Knowflake Posts: 451
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted February 08, 2016 03:21 AM
It's really hard to advise you not knowing all the facts.
You might have to be more specific about the details.
It seems that you have a long-distance relationship, my feeling is if he's reaching out to you what have you got to lose in seeing him again? IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 3467
From: Miami
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted February 08, 2016 03:35 AM
Well you have to tell us what he said to you that was so hurtful, btw did he ever apologize and did you make it clear shortly after he cooled off that is not ok for him to talk to you like that?IP: Logged |
enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 03:47 AM
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mir
Knowflake Posts: 2250
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 08, 2016 03:52 AM
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I'm sure it can all be explained through his Pisces placements... but he basically said a ton of stuff that was pretty hurtful, not sure if it was stuff he doesn't believe and just said out of anger/moodiness or if I should believe it as a guy says what a guy means kinda thing.
Indeed. It totally depends on what he said. Well, it was clear he wanted to 'spend time with you' but is that IT? And ofcourse, is that what YOU want with him? Simply spending time. Waiting for the spark to caught on or something? Where's HE ready for in life? To go a bit with the flow .. or what ..etc. I mean, if he said things to underline the above in the sense of 'don't expect my heart' .. then you KNOW where he stands, and those 'said words' can be taken seriously. @ just now read your reply ^ IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 3467
From: Miami
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted February 08, 2016 04:00 AM
...well pregnancy news can freak out anyone and its a big thing to process and a big decision to consider as far as how to move forward. Not everyone will react composed and maturely to this. Did he want you to consider abortion and your family member is pro-life and that was what was so hurtful? or just how he reacted panicking and screaming?
Did he get physical and destroy property? what exactly alarmed your family member?Given the stressful nature of the talk and the fact that humans are not robots and act out under stress and make mistakes I would say give him a chance but keep observing him and go slow. IP: Logged |
enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 04:01 AM
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enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 04:06 AM
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hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 3467
From: Miami
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted February 08, 2016 04:16 AM
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Originally posted by enlivening:
Hey, thank you for your reply. When I reminded him about what he said (a few days ago.. nothing about abortion) he said "Ooh my... I don't think I said quite all that." But he did, people... he did say all that. Maybe it sounds like I am internalizing it? And that is right... pregnancy scares are hard to process... and I know it's controversial, so I feel for anyone out there that has gone through anything related. I wasn't pregnant. Do you feel that a pregnancy scare can be one persons fault more than the other?
No I don't, both parties are responsible. Pregnancy scares happen, its part of life. Apparently he said something in the heat of the moment that really hurt you so I guess perhaps you two are not a great fit. He is bound to say something again on impulse in the heat of the moment and years have passed and you have not forgotten so you don't forget easily so I don't see such a match working out tbh, perhaps that is your answer... But you still haven't said what he said that hurt you so deeply that years later you have not let go of it, we know the context of the situation but not what he said which I am sure its important clearly.
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enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 04:22 AM
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mir
Knowflake Posts: 2250
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 08, 2016 04:40 AM
Yea Lol that IS a twist for sure! My 12th house sun (even ruler 12th) isn't made to Judge so easily ;D (seeing all sides means getting lost in a hand wave now and then)Let me stare at your synastry.. IP: Logged |
mir
Knowflake Posts: 2250
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 08, 2016 05:03 AM
What a pearl / what a jewel ..a tight DW Venus/Pluto trine as the amazing beauty underneath a compo Venus/Pluto opp.
Ow and I'm also familiar with a Sun/Venus square currently, him being the Sun. It has the tendency (IF the cause) now and then to be a bit too much for our sensitive venus skin. It's Always interesting to meet another case as I usually see the woman being the Sun with those squares in longterm couples.
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enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 01:54 PM
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enlivening
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2015
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posted February 08, 2016 04:51 PM
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