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lilac933
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posted February 21, 2016 01:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Who has the superior synastry? Can anybody help explain why there has always been tension between me (gf) and the roommate?

BF/GF
Roomie/BF
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posted February 21, 2016 02:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Extra info: my boyfriend and I love each other deeply and while the good seems to outweigh the bad, I worry our relationship will never be harmonious. I don't know if I'm just stuck in negative thinking or we really shouldn't be together. He has a strange relationship with his roommate. They are very fond of each other and extremely close. I don't think we'll ever share whatever it is they have. Am I wrong?

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posted February 21, 2016 02:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey! I'd like to help... but purely based on these synastry charts... I can't see the intensity between you guys... nor can I really see it between him and his roommate.
The strongest karmic connection here appears to be (strangely enough) between *you* and the roommate...

But I have a theory that the composite chart can actually tell you more about a relationship - when the synastry seems to 'fail' in that regard.
And since you and your bf love each other deeply - I'm wondering what your composite looks like!

Could you maybe post the composite charts for both you+bf.. and roomie+bf? I think this might be more telling!

And.. just wondering.. do you have the correct times of birth for them both?

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lilac933
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posted February 21, 2016 03:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for the input! Yes, all birth times are correct. Again, I'm the "GF"

Here are the composites:

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Odette
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posted February 21, 2016 04:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmmmmm... Ok... I can see why their connection is upsetting to you...

Based on the composite chart, it does seem like he is very close to her. They have good communication going and there might be an attraction on a romantic/sexual level.

However.... The question is - If they were that into each other - Why would he be in a relationship with you?!

If someone showed me their composite chart and told me they were roommates... my first reaction would be: "Huh? And they're not "together"? Why?" - Because it seems a little odd... considering the Venus/Mars connection, the Moon/Venus square, and the famous "love stellium" they have happening with Sun/Mercury/Venus all conjunct...
Also the Venus in the love stellium ^ is the ruler of the DC.

But a -chart- is just a chart at the end of the day.

It's possible for example that two siblings.. or cousins could have such an intense chart - and things between them would likely never be in any way romantic or sexual. They might just be very close as friends!
Or, another example would be - two hetero people of the same-sex... wouldn't normally become romantically "involved", even if their chart pointed to an intense connection...

So, in "theory" - this could apply to a hetero male2female friendship... It could be a close friendship but non-sexual...

Attraction is not purely based on astrology. There are many other factors, not the least of which are genes.

For instance, a woman could have unbelievably awesome synastry (or composite) with this guy :

But ^ if he's not her type physically... the chances of romance would be pretty low.

So it all depends a lot on how much you trust your bf and your relationship. If he is loving and he treats you right - and he has not given you reasons to distrust him... then I would believe him when he says that - his connection with his roommate is purely platonic.

But... if you generally don't feel like he is a very trustworthy person... and he has given you reasons to doubt him in the past - then it might be time to re-assess whether he is really worth it.

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I'm wondering though.... if you are close enough to this girl to know much about her sexuality... Is it possible that she is not at all hetero - and not even romantically interested in men.. for example?

^ Could there be pieces to this puzzle that you're unaware of?

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posted February 21, 2016 04:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Or...... perhaps it could be some other type of karmic connection.

An example that just came to mind was.. when one of my friends was very jealous and upset over a woman her bf was in touch with - only to find out that years ago he had accidentally run her over. Following the accident she was temporarily paralysed... They had a *bond* and I guess he felt indebted to her.. and in a sense she became almost like extended family - but there was nothing romantic going on between them.

Their chart could indicate this sort of "connection" based on a kind of duty towards each other or a sense of familiarity between them... but it's not necessarily romantic.

What I do believe though... is that... if their living situation is not recent (assuming they have known each other for quite some time) - there's a pretty good chance that there's a background story to this that you might not know about.

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posted February 21, 2016 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He has given me reason to doubt him in the past. There's just so much going on with us...

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LaceyLeigh
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posted February 21, 2016 04:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Could you post the Davison, too?

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posted February 21, 2016 05:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
yes, give me a few minutes

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posted February 21, 2016 05:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here's his and mine:

his and his friend's:

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LaceyLeigh
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posted February 21, 2016 05:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting. You both have Pluto conjunct the ascendant. I guess that might be because you share the same rising signs and you were probably born pretty close together. The tension between your roommate and your boyfriend could come from that, as well as Mars squaring Mercury/Jupiter and Pluto. Jupiter hitting the ascendant could account for their closeness. It's a kind aspect to have but I would worry too much. I like the 7th house and 4th house overlays your have with your BF. Mercury squaring Saturn might explain the hard and sometimes lack of communication between you two.

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posted February 21, 2016 05:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mercury squaring Mars explains the bickering like an old couple, I'm sure it would get tiring after a while. They also have Saturn opposing the moon and sextiling Venus. They rely on each other, even though they don't always want to.

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mar1982delta
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posted February 21, 2016 05:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mar1982delta     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Could you post the Davison, too?


@LaceyLeigh, sorry to intrude like this, but I have been searching for long for an interpretation of Davison, would you have the time and/or the mood into taking a look?
I can make a thread with this today or tomorrow, whenever it fits you! Thank you very much !

@lilac933 Really sorry for popping up in your thread uninvited, wish you the best! I am not experienced enough to help you, sorry

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posted February 21, 2016 05:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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lilac933
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posted February 21, 2016 05:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilac933     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah, they have a nice relationship but I suppose he's dating me for a reason. Just wish something would help this get through to me.

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LaceyLeigh
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posted February 21, 2016 06:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mar1982delta:

@LaceyLeigh, sorry to intrude like this, but I have been searching for long for an interpretation of Davison, would you have the time and/or the mood into taking a look?
I can make a thread with this today or tomorrow, whenever it fits you! Thank you very much !

@lilac933 Really sorry for popping up in your thread uninvited, wish you the best! I am not experienced enough to help you, sorry


Today is fine. My internet connection is a little slow, but I'll try to respond as soon as I can.

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posted February 21, 2016 06:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mar1982delta     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Today is fine. My internet connection is a little slow, but I'll try to respond as soon as I can.



Thank you very much!!!
I just made the thread, take your time
I have problems in ll since yesterday, I don't know if it's my connection though..

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