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incognito
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posted March 21, 2016 06:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Is this not the most unfortunate natal chart ever for relationships?

Everything else in my life is fine (ish) but I've just had the crappiest relationships ever. One after another... so much crying and suffering.

Relationships are super important to me cos I'm a libra. Guys seem to think I'm sneaking around on them and cheating. I get blamed for a lot of stuff I never do. I've never cheated in my life and never would. I feel like I bring out the worst in people when I'm in a relationship with them.

Why is this?? Is this written all over my chart?

What can I do to make it stop?

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Thanks for any input.

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posted March 21, 2016 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted March 21, 2016 10:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
bump?

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llewsacm
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posted March 21, 2016 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for llewsacm     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know this might be hard to take...

You need to be patient. Your chart is capable of many great things in this lifetime, and everything leading up to it will make you ready. With relationships, you need to go into them giving of yourself in a most unconditional manner. When you do so, you will see, in time, how this will make you whole. That is a scary thing to do! But you are being called to do that and will reap great rewards for doing so.

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posted March 21, 2016 11:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by llewsacm:
I know this might be hard to take...

You need to be patient. Your chart is capable of many great things in this lifetime, and everything leading up to it will make you ready. With relationships, you need to go into them giving of yourself in a most unconditional manner. When you do so, you will see, in time, how this will make you whole. That is a scary thing to do! But you are being called to do that and will reap great rewards for doing so.



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I will admit, I don't have a lot of patience sometimes and I am always on the go. The problem is, I ALWAYS go into relationships giving unconditionally and I end up getting treated badly. I have always gone for the "nice guy" type who seem like they wouldn't hurt a fly.

Ive always been sensitive and didn't want to end up getting hurt. I never even kissed or dated anyone until I was 24.
All the guys I choose end up being really cruel to me in some way.

Some examples: They call me the meanest names or end up calling me after dumping me to say that they just used me for sex. Physically hurting me and then pretending it was an accident...

And these are the supposed "nice guys" I shudder to think what "Bad boys" are like...


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posted March 21, 2016 11:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Orange     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have your poor Moon in square to your Sun-Pluto. That shows some messed up parental influence so your view of relationships was skewed from childhood, probably watching your parents getting divorced when you were very young, or watching your father verbally abusing your mother, for sure their relationship was messed up ( Sun square Moon).
Moon in square to Pluto shows an overbearing, overprotective, controlling mother so now you probably dont like to be controlled by other people at the slightest but always end up being controlled ( or so is your perception).

The Sun-Pluto conjunction also squares your relationship axis. So yes, I can see that you have lessons to learn of how to let go of deep seated anger and emotions which have been burried in since early age.
Sun - Pluto bestows a great power upon the native so at some point you will learn how to direct it and master it in your favor. Have faith.

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posted March 27, 2016 10:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Orange:
You have your poor Moon in square to your Sun-Pluto. That shows some messed up parental influence so your view of relationships was skewed from childhood, probably watching your parents getting divorces when you were very young, or watching your father verbally abusing your mother, for sure their relationship was messed up ( Sun square Moon).
Moon is square to Pluto shows an overbearing, overprotective, controlling mother so now you probably dont like to be controlled by other people at the slightest but always end up being controlled ( or so is your perception).

The Sun-Pluto conjunction also squares your relationship axis. So yes, I can see that you have lessons to learn of how to let go of deep seated anger and emotions which have been burred in since early age.
Sun - Pluto bestows a great power upon the native so at some point you will learn how to direct it and master it in your favor. Have faith.

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posted March 27, 2016 10:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yup parents relationship was messed up for sure. Constant fighting. Physical and verbal. Was scary living at home. Always thought one parent would lose it one day and kill the other. Knives being grabbed from kitchen etc.

My mom starved me as a teen...she was very strict with what I ate. Didn't want me to get fat like my dad. Teachers got concerned. Dad got concerned because I became too skinny. Dad put me on infant formula and lots of vitamins for awhile as a teen to get my weight back up.

I'm fine now since I don't talk to my parents much anymore. Maybe just a couple times a year for xmas or new years. I moved to another country at 24 and moving out was the best thing for me. Just sad sometimes.

I don't know if I end up being controlled but I end up trying to pacify the guys in my relationships. I feel like I try too hard and they don't appreciate it and end up walking all over me. So I'll stop doing that. They just accuse ME of being manipulative and controlling when its the last thing I feel I am doing. I've pretty much learned not to rely on guys for anything. No expectations at all. I get attention from guys, I'm pretty attractive, just sick of it all at this point.


Its got to the point that I think I should maybe go to a sperm bank and have a kid that way or something if it doesn't happen soon because I always wanted a family and will be able to afford it.

My career and life in general is great. I'm doing well financially.

I don't think my venus neptune helps at all.

Which is the relationship axis??


quote:
Originally posted by Orange:
You have your poor Moon in square to your Sun-Pluto. That shows some messed up parental influence so your view of relationships was skewed from childhood, probably watching your parents getting divorces when you were very young, or watching your father verbally abusing your mother, for sure their relationship was messed up ( Sun square Moon).
Moon is square to Pluto shows an overbearing, overprotective, controlling mother so now you probably dont like to be controlled by other people at the slightest but always end up being controlled ( or so is your perception).

The Sun-Pluto conjunction also squares your relationship axis. So yes, I can see that you have lessons to learn of how to let go of deep seated anger and emotions which have been burred in since early age.
Sun - Pluto bestows a great power upon the native so at some point you will learn how to direct it and master it in your favor. Have faith.


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posted March 27, 2016 10:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yup parents relationship was messed up for sure. Constant fighting. Physical and verbal. Was scary living at home. Always thought one parent would lose it one day and kill the other. Knives being grabbed from kitchen etc.

My mom starved me as a teen...she was very strict with what I ate. Didn't want me to get fat like my dad. Teachers got concerned. Dad got concerned because I became too skinny. Dad put me on infant formula and lots of vitamins for awhile as a teen to get my weight back up.

I'm fine now since I don't talk to my parents much anymore. Maybe just a couple times a year for xmas or new years. I moved to another country at 24 and moving out was the best thing for me. Just sad sometimes.

I don't know if I end up being controlled but I end up trying to pacify the guys in my relationships. I feel like I try too hard and they don't appreciate it and end up walking all over me. So I'll stop doing that. They just accuse ME of being manipulative and controlling when its the last thing I feel I am doing. I've pretty much learned not to rely on guys for anything. No expectations at all. I get attention from guys, I'm pretty attractive, just sick of it all at this point.


Its got to the point that I think I should maybe go to a sperm bank and have a kid that way or something if it doesn't happen soon because I always wanted a family and will be able to afford it.

My career and life in general is great. I'm doing well financially.

I don't think my venus neptune helps at all.

Which is the relationship axis??


quote:
Originally posted by Orange:
You have your poor Moon in square to your Sun-Pluto. That shows some messed up parental influence so your view of relationships was skewed from childhood, probably watching your parents getting divorces when you were very young, or watching your father verbally abusing your mother, for sure their relationship was messed up ( Sun square Moon).
Moon is square to Pluto shows an overbearing, overprotective, controlling mother so now you probably dont like to be controlled by other people at the slightest but always end up being controlled ( or so is your perception).

The Sun-Pluto conjunction also squares your relationship axis. So yes, I can see that you have lessons to learn of how to let go of deep seated anger and emotions which have been burred in since early age.
Sun - Pluto bestows a great power upon the native so at some point you will learn how to direct it and master it in your favor. Have faith.


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hypatia238
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posted March 28, 2016 01:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by incognito:

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I will admit, I don't have a lot of patience sometimes and I am always on the go. The problem is, I ALWAYS go into relationships giving unconditionally and I end up getting treated badly. I have always gone for the "nice guy" type who seem like they wouldn't hurt a fly.

Ive always been sensitive and didn't want to end up getting hurt. I never even kissed or dated anyone until I was 24.
All the guys I choose end up being really cruel to me in some way.

Some examples: They call me the meanest names or end up calling me after dumping me to say that they just used me for sex. Physically hurting me and then pretending it was an accident...

And these are the supposed "nice guys" I shudder to think what "Bad boys" are like...


Wow sweetie, I am so sorry!

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hypatia238
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posted March 28, 2016 01:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well you do have Moon, the ruler of your DC, conjunct your AC so you probably attract relationships easily and make them a top priority but yes you wear your heart on your sleeve and probably "try too hard" bc of the moon on your AC and venus in the 8th so I would think you really give yourself a lot emotionally which is great if done with someone worthy who gives themselves equally to you.

Also relationships are important to you bc you have northnode in the 7th but you are building up your relationship skills and this will take many years possibly a lifetime. I have northnode in the 7th and I am 32 I am still learning about relationships and gaining awareness of what I need to learn from me having northnode in the 7th, I feel this self awareness and journey truly took off after my Saturn return. Striking that balance between making your needs heard and honored while simultaneously honoring theirs truly when is easier for you to just worry about you and have your partner accommodate for you (southnode in the 1st) can be challenging.

Your moon squares pluto and you have venus in the 8th and that could make you a bit controlling when it comes to love matters and relationships so if you are getting that feedback from multiple people there is probably some truth to it. It also makes it so you have a lot to give so you expect to be given a lot back naturally, an equal give and take is important to you so perhaps that is when the 'controlling' nature kicks in bc you don't feel you are getting the equal intensity you are putting in from your partner. Not to mention that you need a partner that is very reassuring and emotionally expressive with moon ruling your DC so if you are not getting that you will feel insecure and your controlling side will act up.

Regardless a guy saying he just used you for sex is disgusting and tells me clearly that is a good thing they are no longer in your life.

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