posted June 25, 2007 06:42 PM              

Does that mean that he is afraid of me, the LILITH-woman, that I “scare him off” in some way? Acually, I do feel that he adores me for my independence ecc - but at the same time he seems to “fight” me because he seems to feel threatened in a way. He is apporaching me in a very ... competitive way.

Or could it be the other way round with LILITH conjunct. SUN: That it’s rather him (the SUN) who is terrifying me (LILITH)? That some traits of his character appeal to my personal “darker sides”, that I MUST find him “scary” in a way?

To be honest: I feel he is much, much stronger and more aggressive than me. He clearly has the upper hand. I find him extremely dominating, “mentally brutal” in a way, quite selfrighteous and very manipulative. He also admitted once that “power” and “control” are important issues for him personally, we have talked about that. He is VERY controlling - and he admits it.(Although I feel: He is suffering from the friction this creates.)

So, I clearly see HIM as the more aggressive one in these matters – and I would love to stop that competitive streak that spoils our little thing, over and over again. He seems to be so suspicious about me and my intentions, and these suspicions tend to overshadow the affection between us. I don’t know how to get out of this dynamic. (Actually, I am neither willing, nor able to go on with that for much longer.)

Is “suffering” a topic in such a LILITH-SUN_relationship? Who would be the one more likely to "suffer" , from an astrological point of view: The sun-person (him) or the Lilith-person (me)? Thanks in advance for any line that you drop on that topic!

posted June 28, 2007 10:30 AM              

are lilith aspects so bad?
cause me and my bf have quite a lot of those:

My sun conj his lylith (4º42´)
my MC trines his Lilith(-4º48)

my lilith conjunct his moon(0º25)
trine his saturn(-4º42),

ARe those also considered hard aspects?

posted June 28, 2007 04:29 PM              

Damn – this idea of “hurt” is hunting me with this guy. It is like a notion that clouds all this relationship – infact HE was the one to raise that topic first, he mentioned that he had some vague doubts in this regard … that we both could really “hurt” each other… The strange thing: We hardly knew each other when he told me this – but now, half a year later, he really seems to “play out” that hurting-notion. He has CHIRON in his 7th house … and we have quite some aspects with CHIRON (see below)…

Sometimes I feel much wiser than him … (even though I am vive years younger) - and by looking at our SYNASTRY I think there are some teaching/discipline-aspects from me to him … am I right here? What do you think? Me his "teacher" or "parent"? Or rather the other way around?

ERICKA: I’d love to hear/read your thoughts. I don’t know how to make a screenshot of a chart, so I’ ve written down the most striking SYNASTRY aspects between this guy and me:

He: Sun: LEO; Asc: VIRGO, Moon: ARIES, Mars: LIBRA
I am: Sun: CANCER, Asc: SCORPIO, Moon: SAGITTARIURS, Mars: CANCER

We both have MERCURY in LEO and both have VENUS in VIRGO.

POSITIVE ASPECTS:

- his JUPITER, MC and NN in my 7th
- his MOON in my 5th
- his AC conjunct my MC
- his SUN/MOON-MIDPOINT in my 7th
- my MOON in his 4th
- my PART OF FORTUNE in his 8th
- my SUN/MOON-MIDPOINT in his 1st

- we have MOON trine MOON (double whammy)
- we have JUPITER trine JUPITER (double whammy)

- his SUN trine my MOON
- his SUN sextile my JUPITER
- his SUN trine my PART OF FORTUNE
- his VENUS sextile my MARS
- his VENUS sextile my NEPTUNE
- his MARS conjunct my JUPITER
- his JUPITER sextile my PART OF FORTUNE
- his NEPTUNE sextile my MC

- my NN conjunct his Vertex
- my AC sextile his VENUS
- my MOON trine his Mercury
- my SUN sextile his VENUS
- my SUN trine his CHIRON
- my SATURN sextile his CHIRON
- my SATURN trine his AC
- my URANUS trine his LILITH
- my URANUS trine his JUNO

“GOOD” OR “BAD”?

- his SUN conjunct my LILITH
- his MARS sextile my LILITH
- his PLUTO conjunct my MC

- my PLUTO conjunct his VENUS

STRESSFUL ASPECTS:

- we have MARS square MARS (double whammy)

- his SUN square my AC
- his MERCURY opposite my JUNO
- his MARS opposite my PART OF FORTUNE
- his SATURN opposite my MC
- his LILITH square my JUNO

- my SATURN square his SUN and his MERCURY
- my SATURN opposite his NEPTUNE
- my VENUS in his 12th house (Virgo)
- my MOON square his CHIRON
- my MOON opposite his JUPITER
- my MERCURY square his LILITH
- my PLUTO square his JUPITER
- my PLUTO opposite his CHIRON

posted June 28, 2007 04:54 PM              

.... in your case, you'll offend his ego, his self-expressionyes ....

Yes - that's right! I guess that's the way he feels sometimes. But I don't "offend" him deliberately, just the opposite is true: I try to "soothe" him again and again. He just seems to be "naturally offended" by me. And whenever I try to "understate" my personality and start to behave in a more submissive way, he gets even more angry - athough i am not micking this! I am really terrified and feel controlled/hurt myself by him sometimes! I feel very insecure in such moments. That makes him even more angry, I guess.

He told me he "never met a woman like me" before and that he loved my brains/my sharp mind. So he can't complain about all that at other occasions ... right?

So I am really confused ... and more annoyed ... because my so called "strength" frightens AND attracts him at the same time ... I feel I cannot prevent him from feeling jeaolus or competitive against me - and somehow ... he really terrorizes me with all of that. That's why, at the end of the day, HE is the stronger one, his influence is SO strong, he makes everything so complicated and spooky...

posted June 28, 2007 04:59 PM              

yes - we both seem to have made very similar experiences! he gets you wrong (somehow it seems to me: deliberately), ecc. - exactly! but then he retreats ... and he just won't let me know WHAT in detail offended him so bad. (Once he told me: "The worst things you did that made me angry, you don't even know... - and he wouldn't tell me what he has in mind here! That's mean! How can I change then?)

the thing is: his SUN is in his 11th, close to his 12th house cusp ... Similar to your boyfriend's sun...

posted April 15, 2016 09:37 AM            

I am experiencing the exact same thing. My true Lilith (h13) is parallel my Ascendant and his Sun is parallel my Asc/Lilith.

The same thing is happening as you two describe. He is very suspicious of me. I find myself constantly reassuring him of my integrity. He continually gets my intentions wrong. "Are you playing some game?" He's naturally very competitive though so on that point I think he just generally likes that sort of connection. His natal Lilith squares his Sun 1°. His DSC ruler Jupiter is sitting in Leo and Lilith trines his Jupiter at 1° which points to him needing Lilith in relationships so perhaps this dislike is also because Lilith is what he needs to incorporate as part of himself.

More in the Lilith domain in case anyone is interested:

He thinks I'm weird when I describe how I like to spiritually connect with a person. I have a method of connecting chakras with the other person. I recently found out this is considered black magic if the other person does not know you're doing it to them.

quote:

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Cords can be created between any two people or even groups of people that have emotional relationships. Friends, workmates, enemies can all have cords. They can be used by entities and other dimensional beings to connect with us and drain our energy. It is possible to send a cord to someone you don't know if you really want to get to know them. For example say you fall in love with someone but have not yet talked to them. It is possible that your desire to have them may send a cord into their energy. It is also possible to consciously create a cord to another person but this is in the domain of black magic. You should never use psychic means to purposely control or affect another’s energy without their permission. There are no exemptions from this rule and the karmic repercussions are enormous!

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http://www.alchemyrealm.com/cords.htm

I didn't know this and wanted to ask his permission. This is the only reason I told him and he was extremely weirded out. He's disappeared for now because he's so logical that the idea of me using kundalini energy on him is too wild. He literally said "Is that logical?" And really? "No, it's spiritual power, logic is beneath it."

It's interesting though as Lotis White describes her:

quote:

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Lilith is the opposite… The women who is unfathomable, dangerous, rebellious and sexual… Here rather then the Wife/Mother (Moon), or even the Beautiful Maiden/Girlfriend (Venus)… You have the mistress, the forbidden lover, the hooker, the ’bad girl’, and the manipulative witchy vixen…. A women who’s unpredictable, mysterious, and probably into something dark or taboo… Like black magic… She might be a scandalous ***** … And yet she has an unattainable kind of allure about her… She’s like a guilty pleasure.

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And this also plays out because he's a Christian. He immediately said that things would have escalated between us quickly. Like he doesn't think he could resist, such a taboo but inescapable. Now he avoids any talk of sex. I'm very sexual but he resists as if I'm a snake trying to undermine his purity. It's annoying because I know he wants it and part of me wants to make him squirm but give nothing until he begs. The other part of me wants to beg and I will easily do so because being submissive often gives you the most power. My Lilith is in Virgo, sign of the servant.

FKA Twigs says it better than me though in Two Weeks

"I know it hurts. You know I'd quench that thirst"
"Feel your body closing, I can rip it open.
Suck me up, I'm healing, for the sh*t you're dealing."

Two Weeks - FKA Twigs

posted May 13, 2016 01:28 PM            

My Black Moon Lilith is conjunct the Sun of the person my partner had a huuge crush on/(mostly) platonic love affair with. I love her very much although I do sometimes suspect her of purposely luring him back in when she saw how happy we were together.. but again, who can really blame her for that? It's basic nature to become jealous and envious of something somebody else is clearly so happy with and to want it... I don't hold it against her and thereby transmute the suspicion and distrust of Lilith into love and understanding... it's still a bit thorny but it's lost a lot of its charge at that point.