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actiondilaa
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posted April 15, 2016 04:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ok so im dating this guy for a year now, we fell in love at first sight, we have so much lust obsession and attraction since day 1 its just crazy. im so attracted to him hes not even my type
so after a month of dating we startd having stupid fights and arguments and its driving me insane,were so different with different opinions.
i broke up with him 3 times already but we keep getting back together its like i cant stay mad at him
lately we got in an argument on the phone and he started yelling at me and hung up on me, and texted me saying "if you wanna talk goahead im not gonna text you first"
i was so offended and we havent talked in 3 days. we never cut contacts like that with each other
i want this to be over already
how do i get over him?? the feeling wont go away i just feel empty inside and depressed

we have venus conjunct mars in 8th house double whammy-i feel like thats the most powerful aspect.
we also have pluto in 1st house double whammy.
saturn in 4th house and 5th house.
moon in 7 th house
and more

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LaceyLeigh
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posted April 15, 2016 04:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Is it his Venus conjunct your Mars in your 8th house?

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actiondilaa
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posted April 15, 2016 04:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Is it his Venus conjunct your Mars in your 8th house?

its my venus and mars in his 8 house
and his venus and mars in my 8th house

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CapriciousCapricorn
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posted April 15, 2016 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, I want to know all about you two, I mean as much as you can tell us? I cant help but ask - how's the sex? )) with that double whammy! AND 8th house!...

Post the charts please

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posted April 15, 2016 11:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, never before have i see a Venus conj Mars DW in the 8th house!

Sorry to be blunt, but you are not going to get over him anytime soon. Might as well talk it over with very clear communication about where this relationship can be healthy and happy.

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actiondilaa
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posted April 16, 2016 07:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
Wow, I want to know all about you two, I mean as much as you can tell us? I cant help but ask - how's the sex? )) with that double whammy! AND 8th house!...

Post the charts please



we always want each other
we have sex like 10 times a day
CRAZY attraction
we fight alot we dont get along
love\hate relationship

http://s1027.photobucket.com/user/actiondilaa/media/astro_61gw_01_02_anonymous_anonymous_he.70851.32725_zps4vinhdc8.gif.html

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posted April 16, 2016 07:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Wow, never before have i see a Venus conj Mars DW in the 8th house!

Sorry to be blunt, but you are not going to get over him anytime soon. Might as well talk it over with very clear communication about where this relationship can be healthy and happy.



im just so sick of this

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CapriciousCapricorn
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posted April 16, 2016 07:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ah, it's not the worst. Or not the best )) I dont know how you want to look at it. Thought you had each other's Mars conjunct Venus. Anyways, those planets in each other's 8th is still big.. And who's the sexy beast in red (on the outside) with Mars/Venus conjunction? He/she is at the disadvantage from Neptune opposition here + Uranus opposition to Mars too..noot good, instability and disillusionment for Leo Sun person. Is that you?

At the same time there's so much good stuff in this synastry:

both Moons in air sign
Mercury conjunct Venus
Mars conjunct Sun

Hope it works out!

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posted April 16, 2016 07:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
actiondilaa,

Also, just wanted to add that all those fights and arguments are probably the 8th house curse too (there are no harsh Mercury, Moon aspects between you). It can undo you just like that. You 'die', then come back to be reborn to each other. That must feel like hell..can't be with you, can't be apart either. Love can turn into hate too. Might even be life-threatening to stay together. Is it possible that 2 people with such a prominent 8H synastry might attract all sorts of accidents or I am pushing it?

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LaceyLeigh
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posted April 16, 2016 09:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The Libra's sun is unaspected and the Leo's moon is unaspected. I can see how that might cause some conflict.

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actiondilaa
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posted April 17, 2016 03:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
Ah, it's not the worst. Or not the best )) I dont know how you want to look at it. Thought you had each other's Mars conjunct Venus. Anyways, those planets in each other's 8th is still big.. And who's the sexy beast in red (on the outside) with Mars/Venus conjunction? He/she is at the disadvantage from Neptune opposition here + Uranus opposition to Mars too..noot good, instability and disillusionment for Leo Sun person. Is that you?

At the same time there's so much good stuff in this synastry:

both Moons in air sign
Mercury conjunct Venus
Mars conjunct Sun

Hope it works out!



im the leo person. and i have venus in cancer and mars in cancer

hes the libra person and he has venus in leo and mars in leo

so we both have conjunctions

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posted April 17, 2016 03:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
actiondilaa,

Also, just wanted to add that all those fights and arguments are probably the 8th house curse too (there are no harsh Mercury, Moon aspects between you). It can undo you just like that. You 'die', then come back to be reborn to each other. That must feel like hell..can't be with you, can't be apart either. Love can turn into hate too. Might even be life-threatening to stay together. Is it possible that 2 people with such a prominent 8H synastry might attract all sorts of accidents or I am pushing it?



this is very true, we just cant stand each other anymore
but i feel so sad without him and i feel empty i just cry all the time thinking about him all the time
i just hate himmmmmm ever since he walked into my life i cant forget him no matter what i do

and what do you mean that i "die" then come back to be reborn to each other? does it mean this is karmic and ive known him in past life?
he has pluto in my 12th house
and i have chiron in his 12th house
and alot of 4th house stuff
do you think that means anything?

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CapriciousCapricorn
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posted April 17, 2016 10:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
actiondilaa,

From the charts it looks like yes, in your chart you have a conjunction in Cancer but his Mars and Venus, although both in Leo, seem to be too far apart from each other for conjunction. Check the degrees to know for sure.

I wanted to ask about love/hate issue. You said that you can't stand each other now. But at the same time the attraction is still there, still as strong?

As for 8th house 'die and get reborn' theme, yes - it's most likely a karmic lesson for you two. Something in this relationship you have to learn and resolve. Once you do that, you will each go your way. So you will keep coming back to each other until that time. Of course I would like to believe that it does not necessarily mean you will not be together. You see people stay with each other forever. They work on resolving problems. Some do, some don't and live together with all these problems. It's entirely up to you what path you choose.

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actiondilaa
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posted April 17, 2016 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
actiondilaa,

From the charts it looks like yes, in your chart you have a conjunction in Cancer but his Mars and Venus, although both in Leo, seem to be too far apart from each other for conjunction. Check the degrees to know for sure.

I wanted to ask about love/hate issue. You said that you can't stand each other now. But at the same time the attraction is still there, still as strong?

As for 8th house 'die and get reborn' theme, yes - it's most likely a karmic lesson for you two. Something in this relationship you have to learn and resolve. Once you do that, you will each go your way. So you will keep coming back to each other until that time. Of course I would like to believe that it does not necessarily mean you will not be together. You see people stay with each other forever. They work on resolving problems. Some do, some don't and live together with all these problems. It's entirely up to you what path you choose.


The attraction is there definetly, from day 1, crazy lust
We met two years ago. I instantly felt something to him, he kept texting me for an entire year after but i was just not ready for a relationship, but i loved him deeply. No matter what i did the feelings came back
After a year we met again ,we kissed and started dating ,it was amazing but then we started fighting so much over dumb things, i was constantly jealous but i try to control it lately. He has a HUGE ego he acts like an immature child, i just feel like he doesnt care, he laughs at my face when im crying, he gives me zero emotional support. we disagree on so many things we think so differently ..its been a year that were dating and now were just in this stupid ego fight and we havent talked to each other in almost a week .im sick of chasing him, i think were both sick of this because we could never breakup and stop talking for even a day, i think we both realised were better off apart.

I think he hates me now
But i hate him too so.. Whatever

I NEVER felt this way before. He gives me chills when i think about him, in a good way

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CapriciousCapricorn
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posted April 17, 2016 05:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
actiondilaa,

Whatever you decide, stay strong. This must be really difficult for you. But I don't think it's easy for him either..oh dear

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actiondilaa
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posted April 17, 2016 06:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for actiondilaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
actiondilaa,

Whatever you decide, stay strong. This must be really difficult for you. But I don't think it's easy for him either..oh dear



Thank you ;(

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