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Topic: help! why is 8th house so horrible? how do i get over him
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actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 15, 2016 04:26 PM
ok so im dating this guy for a year now, we fell in love at first sight, we have so much lust obsession and attraction since day 1 its just crazy. im so attracted to him hes not even my type so after a month of dating we startd having stupid fights and arguments and its driving me insane,were so different with different opinions. i broke up with him 3 times already but we keep getting back together its like i cant stay mad at him lately we got in an argument on the phone and he started yelling at me and hung up on me, and texted me saying "if you wanna talk goahead im not gonna text you first" i was so offended and we havent talked in 3 days. we never cut contacts like that with each other i want this to be over already how do i get over him?? the feeling wont go away i just feel empty inside and depressedwe have venus conjunct mars in 8th house double whammy-i feel like thats the most powerful aspect. we also have pluto in 1st house double whammy. saturn in 4th house and 5th house. moon in 7 th house and more
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LaceyLeigh Knowflake Posts: 711 From: New Jersey Registered: Jul 2014
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posted April 15, 2016 04:35 PM
Is it his Venus conjunct your Mars in your 8th house?IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 15, 2016 04:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by LaceyLeigh: Is it his Venus conjunct your Mars in your 8th house?
its my venus and mars in his 8 house and his venus and mars in my 8th house IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 291 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted April 15, 2016 07:13 PM
Wow, I want to know all about you two, I mean as much as you can tell us? I cant help but ask - how's the sex? )) with that double whammy! AND 8th house!...Post the charts please IP: Logged |
Gemini30 Knowflake Posts: 494 From: Los Angeles Registered: Sep 2014
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posted April 15, 2016 11:39 PM
Wow, never before have i see a Venus conj Mars DW in the 8th house! Sorry to be blunt, but you are not going to get over him anytime soon. Might as well talk it over with very clear communication about where this relationship can be healthy and happy. IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 16, 2016 07:38 AM
quote: Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn: Wow, I want to know all about you two, I mean as much as you can tell us? I cant help but ask - how's the sex? )) with that double whammy! AND 8th house!...Post the charts please
we always want each other we have sex like 10 times a day CRAZY attraction we fight alot we dont get along love\hate relationship
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actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 16, 2016 07:39 AM
quote: Originally posted by Gemini30: Wow, never before have i see a Venus conj Mars DW in the 8th house! Sorry to be blunt, but you are not going to get over him anytime soon. Might as well talk it over with very clear communication about where this relationship can be healthy and happy.
im just so sick of this
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CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 291 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted April 16, 2016 07:51 PM
Ah, it's not the worst. Or not the best )) I dont know how you want to look at it. Thought you had each other's Mars conjunct Venus. Anyways, those planets in each other's 8th is still big.. And who's the sexy beast in red (on the outside) with Mars/Venus conjunction? He/she is at the disadvantage from Neptune opposition here + Uranus opposition to Mars too..noot good, instability and disillusionment for Leo Sun person. Is that you?At the same time there's so much good stuff in this synastry: both Moons in air sign Mercury conjunct Venus Mars conjunct Sun Hope it works out! IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 291 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted April 16, 2016 07:59 PM
actiondilaa,Also, just wanted to add that all those fights and arguments are probably the 8th house curse too (there are no harsh Mercury, Moon aspects between you). It can undo you just like that. You 'die', then come back to be reborn to each other. That must feel like hell..can't be with you, can't be apart either. Love can turn into hate too. Might even be life-threatening to stay together. Is it possible that 2 people with such a prominent 8H synastry might attract all sorts of accidents or I am pushing it? IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh Knowflake Posts: 711 From: New Jersey Registered: Jul 2014
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posted April 16, 2016 09:02 PM
The Libra's sun is unaspected and the Leo's moon is unaspected. I can see how that might cause some conflict.IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 03:43 AM
quote: Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn: Ah, it's not the worst. Or not the best )) I dont know how you want to look at it. Thought you had each other's Mars conjunct Venus. Anyways, those planets in each other's 8th is still big.. And who's the sexy beast in red (on the outside) with Mars/Venus conjunction? He/she is at the disadvantage from Neptune opposition here + Uranus opposition to Mars too..noot good, instability and disillusionment for Leo Sun person. Is that you?At the same time there's so much good stuff in this synastry: both Moons in air sign Mercury conjunct Venus Mars conjunct Sun Hope it works out!
im the leo person. and i have venus in cancer and mars in cancer
hes the libra person and he has venus in leo and mars in leo so we both have conjunctions IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 03:49 AM
quote: Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn: actiondilaa,Also, just wanted to add that all those fights and arguments are probably the 8th house curse too (there are no harsh Mercury, Moon aspects between you). It can undo you just like that. You 'die', then come back to be reborn to each other. That must feel like hell..can't be with you, can't be apart either. Love can turn into hate too. Might even be life-threatening to stay together. Is it possible that 2 people with such a prominent 8H synastry might attract all sorts of accidents or I am pushing it?
this is very true, we just cant stand each other anymore but i feel so sad without him and i feel empty i just cry all the time thinking about him all the time i just hate himmmmmm ever since he walked into my life i cant forget him no matter what i do
and what do you mean that i "die" then come back to be reborn to each other? does it mean this is karmic and ive known him in past life? he has pluto in my 12th house and i have chiron in his 12th house and alot of 4th house stuff do you think that means anything? IP: Logged |
CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 291 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 10:29 AM
actiondilaa,From the charts it looks like yes, in your chart you have a conjunction in Cancer but his Mars and Venus, although both in Leo, seem to be too far apart from each other for conjunction. Check the degrees to know for sure. I wanted to ask about love/hate issue. You said that you can't stand each other now. But at the same time the attraction is still there, still as strong? As for 8th house 'die and get reborn' theme, yes - it's most likely a karmic lesson for you two. Something in this relationship you have to learn and resolve. Once you do that, you will each go your way. So you will keep coming back to each other until that time. Of course I would like to believe that it does not necessarily mean you will not be together. You see people stay with each other forever. They work on resolving problems. Some do, some don't and live together with all these problems. It's entirely up to you what path you choose. IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 10:58 AM
quote: Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn: actiondilaa,From the charts it looks like yes, in your chart you have a conjunction in Cancer but his Mars and Venus, although both in Leo, seem to be too far apart from each other for conjunction. Check the degrees to know for sure. I wanted to ask about love/hate issue. You said that you can't stand each other now. But at the same time the attraction is still there, still as strong? As for 8th house 'die and get reborn' theme, yes - it's most likely a karmic lesson for you two. Something in this relationship you have to learn and resolve. Once you do that, you will each go your way. So you will keep coming back to each other until that time. Of course I would like to believe that it does not necessarily mean you will not be together. You see people stay with each other forever. They work on resolving problems. Some do, some don't and live together with all these problems. It's entirely up to you what path you choose.
The attraction is there definetly, from day 1, crazy lust We met two years ago. I instantly felt something to him, he kept texting me for an entire year after but i was just not ready for a relationship, but i loved him deeply. No matter what i did the feelings came back After a year we met again ,we kissed and started dating ,it was amazing but then we started fighting so much over dumb things, i was constantly jealous but i try to control it lately. He has a HUGE ego he acts like an immature child, i just feel like he doesnt care, he laughs at my face when im crying, he gives me zero emotional support. we disagree on so many things we think so differently ..its been a year that were dating and now were just in this stupid ego fight and we havent talked to each other in almost a week .im sick of chasing him, i think were both sick of this because we could never breakup and stop talking for even a day, i think we both realised were better off apart. I think he hates me now But i hate him too so.. Whatever I NEVER felt this way before. He gives me chills when i think about him, in a good way
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CapriciousCapricorn Knowflake Posts: 291 From: Registered: Sep 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 05:34 PM
actiondilaa,Whatever you decide, stay strong. This must be really difficult for you. But I don't think it's easy for him either..oh dear IP: Logged |
actiondilaa Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 17, 2016 06:29 PM
quote: Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn: actiondilaa,Whatever you decide, stay strong. This must be really difficult for you. But I don't think it's easy for him either..oh dear
Thank you ;(
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