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NeptunianSag
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posted May 02, 2016 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NeptunianSag     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

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posted May 02, 2016 06:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
just my experience, but it seems to come up with my venus or sun/moon square to their asc.

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posted May 02, 2016 07:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lack of Venus/Mars aspects? I've also read that the conjunction between Venus/Mars sometimes feels too comfy. Hard Saturn aspects might make two people feel a bit inhibited around one another. One person's Saturn in aspect to the other persons ascendant, more prominently, the hard aspects.

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posted May 02, 2016 07:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for yungang_grotto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

Their luminaries square your Pluto can make the "simple hug feel gross." That sentence isn't in keeping with neutral/platonic feelings to me... it's more in the realm of overwhelming repulsion which has bound up in it certain strong feelings of a certain kind... ambivalent, maybe?

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posted June 02, 2018 07:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocketrocket     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump!

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/


Here is our aspect chart:


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posted June 02, 2018 08:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Melinn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think its psychological and preferences.

I have 2 male friends I have good synastry with. Both have nice faces, but one is a gymmer with nice body, the other never gyms and has a bit of a belly. He is not fat, he only does not have a toned body and he has a belly.

Of course as a Virgo asc, I can never feel attraction to a guy who does not take care of his health and body! It may sound like I'm shallow but, in order to feel attraction, I have to find the person attractive externally aswell as menthally.

The one with bad physice I feel like he is a brother, even though for ex his Mars and moon is smack on my Venus, and Sun is trine my Sun conj my Asc etc.

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posted June 02, 2018 08:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocketrocket     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I didn't had a time to study more our aspects in detail, but at the first glance this looks just fine.
This guy is fit, does everyday exercise, but there's something... jaix

So, virgo asc doesn't like bellies .. I must put myself in shape quickly
(I have one Sag/Virgo asc on my mind )

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posted June 02, 2018 09:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
Bump!

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/


Here is our aspect chart:


Which one are you, 1st or 2nd?

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posted June 03, 2018 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saturn could do this--in hard aspect. Also, if there is no communication, there is no attraction beyond lust, so poor Mercury synastry could do something like this.

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posted June 04, 2018 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocketrocket     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm first

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posted June 05, 2018 01:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LaceyLeigh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
I'm first


Based on aspects alone, your Saturn squaring his Venus might explain why you want to keep this relationship on a strictly friendship basis. Along with your Neptune squaring his Sun and opposite his Mars. Neptune is known for it’s role in relating to “platonic love”.

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posted June 05, 2018 08:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hearttreasure     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I and my husband have a lot of Saturn aspect: his Saturn conjunct my ASC, conjunct my Mars, square my venus, trine my moon, and sextile my mercury. My Saturn opposite his Sun.

His Pluto square my sun, square my mercury, trine my venus. My Pluto sextile his moon, trine his mercury, and trine his mars.

Not including the minor aspect or parallel/unparallel.

At first I didn't find physical attraction at him as he wasn't my type. But definitely there was some level of comfort every time we hung out that I rarely found with other of my male friends.

The one who made the first move was my husband but it was an indirect approach so I didn't think there was another meaning behind it or maybe because he wasn't that attractive to me (he isn't that ugly, for me attractive person means the whole) so I didn't really care.

I didn't even think about touching/kissing him but then again maybe because I didn't find him attractive at all. Eventually we were in a relationship and two days in a relationship, he literally jumped on me after it was the first time we were alone as he wanted to visit my place after dropping me off. That was the time I realized the physical attractiveness. He also told me that I was attractive physically and it made him insecure sometimes as he wasn't that handsome compared to my male friends. We had plenty before we finally get married. We always cuddled and fell asleep while hugging each other after we did it.

I would say our sexual intimacy is pretty much healthy and still with passion. 5 years in a relationship, he still wants it everyday, even when I am in my pregnancy. I think if there's lack of physical attraction, we wouldn't have plenty.

We may not really compatible in a regular basis as we have some major differences, but it's hard to stay away from our sexual chemistry when we are in it.

My venus square his sun. His venus trine my sun.

We have Venus/Mars DW, trine and opposition.

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posted June 05, 2018 08:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrandFireT     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Melinn:

It may sound like I'm shallow but, in order to feel attraction, I have to find the person attractive externally aswell as menthally.


If you're shallow Melinn, that makes two of us.

For some, appearance DOES matter. A person who doesn't care what they look like is a major turnoff for me.

However, I'm not sure what this relates to in the birth chart. I'm a fitness nut of sorts and have Mars in Aires on the Ascendant. Surely there's more to this equation than just the Ascendant, however.

Seems to me a more reliable way to approach many questions of synastry is to look at priorities. If Subject A's priority is eating potato chips and watching TV and Subject B places health and fitness above all else, could they ever be attracted to one another?

Possibly on a casual basis, but I doubt the two will ever experience mutual respect and admiration.

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posted June 06, 2018 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrandFireT     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

I wonder if the synastry that controls one's desire (or lack thereof) to get close with a particular person of the opposite sex is mainly a matter of how that other person touches our natal moon?

What causes me to think along this line is your use of the word, "feel", three times. Unless I'm badly mistaken, astrologers traditionally relate feelings to the moon.

There is one particular lady in my recent history who could spin my heart out of control if she wanted to. I've looked at our planets. The only synastry I can see that might explain my vulnerability is her Cancer Mars trining my natal Scorpio moon.

This is purely conjecture: if it takes a favorable moon aspect to ring your bells, then, by logic, an unfavorable aspect to your moon might throw the "No Thanks" switch, even if other synastry might show attraction of some sort.

Put another way: do we really have any choice but to go with the moon when feelings are on the table? No doubt other considerations will trigger attraction, but possibly it's old Moon who gets the final vote.

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posted June 07, 2018 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

I agree with Ami. Saturn contacts and poor Mercury aspects.

A guy could have the body of an African warrior. Muscles in places I know not of. But if the same Shaka Zulu is not able to carry a conversation. Nothing will work!!!

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posted June 07, 2018 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MilaBirkin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
Bump!

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/


Here is our aspect chart:


Same here! I thought this was because we have Moon square Venus double whammy, don't know why but I thought that.

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posted June 07, 2018 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This guy REALLY liked me and was super attracted to me , and even tho I'm used to guys giving me attention ( yikes idk how to say that without sounding like a total narcissist!!! lol ) he was very obvious and complimented me all the time, like I don't think anyone has ever been so obviously into me is what I'm trying to get at. It stood out.
It was totally one side though because the idea of touching or being close to him just didn't feel right. It felt wrong, I didn't like his smell or his style anything, even though he is a very attractive guy! He does well with the ladies forsure.

We had Venus trine mars, Venus opp Pluto, and Venus square mars widely.
But we had mutual 12th house mars overlays and I think that was the culprit ?

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posted June 08, 2018 07:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocketrocket     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MilaBirkin:
Same here! I thought this was because we have Moon square Venus double whammy, don't know why but I thought that.

me too...I really feel when my Venus is squarred with someone's moon. That way of showing affection makes discomfort.. I guess bc I have it my own chart.

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posted June 09, 2018 05:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocketrocket     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here's another one and still active..
I'm first in aspect chart.

Here I am the one with unrequitted feelings. Feel strong attraction & affection, but he doesn't.
Despite some attraction aspects, mine are stronger. I was always in the mood, he's not - with me. You can imagine how this can be "beneficial" for self esteem. And I hate it, bc I want to move on, even tried to break any communication, but I'm (still) weak to resist the feelings.


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posted June 20, 2018 11:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump!

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posted June 21, 2018 08:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for waxlobster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't really look at it this way personally. I'm quite energy sensitive, so am rarely attracted to somebody physically... For me it usually requires a soul connection, so the chart doesn't represent it quite in the way it could.

Obviously when comparing charts of those in an intimate relationship you can factor in the levels of attraction. They vary so much in synastry though.

I've met many people with all of the 'obvious' attraction components that don't interest me, so I suppose, on balance. Who the person actually is, denotes more than the chart connections overall.

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posted June 28, 2018 02:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by waxlobster:
I don't really look at it this way personally. I'm quite energy sensitive, so am rarely attracted to somebody physically... For me it usually requires a soul connection, so the chart doesn't represent it quite in the way it could.

Obviously when comparing charts of those in an intimate relationship you can factor in the levels of attraction. They vary so much in synastry though.

I've met many people with all of the 'obvious' attraction components that don't interest me, so I suppose, on balance. Who the person actually is, denotes more than the chart connections overall.


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posted June 28, 2018 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for arcturus90     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
there is an asteroid related to physical : asteroid fisico (22623). One guy has this asteroid square my conjunction Mars-Saturn and I think I felt this with him when he wanted to touch me and have a love relationship with me... That's maybe why, though my Mars Saturn conjunction in well aspecting his Mars, and his Venus conjuncts my Mars Saturn.
There should be other aspects / things
His Moon is opposed to mine also

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posted July 05, 2018 08:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump!

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posted July 05, 2018 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for crystal_clear     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have no idea. It happened maybe 2-3 times in my life that I was really repelled by someone and it was mostly because of lack of personal hygiene. Black teeth, dirty clothes etc.

I think you should look at your own natal chart placements and see what would be contradictory. For I example I have Venus in Libra so physical beauty is kind of important but not in the shallow way IMHO. It's actually important for me that a person is clean, well taken care off (teeth, hair, decent clothes). I think Venus in Virgo it's more shallow type but then again, they often choose a partner that becomes their lifetime improvement project. So they may easily end up with a person who has some physical or psychological problems or both. And then they embark on a quest to fix that person.

Also, worth to look at progressions of Venus. My progressed Venus is in Scorpio now so I like scorpionic type but still with that classic Librian beauty.

What could be completely repelling? I suppose people who have ASC, Sun or Venus in square or opposition to my Venus. But then again - people with something in Capricorn fall in my 11th house of friendship. People with planets in Cancer fall in my 5th house and I adore them. People with stuff in Aries are having trine to my stellium in Sag and Moon in Leo.

So there's no easy answer to this. Perhaps more than one aspect would have to be involved.

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