posted May 02, 2016 07:32 PM            

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

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Their luminaries square your Pluto can make the "simple hug feel gross." That sentence isn't in keeping with neutral/platonic feelings to me... it's more in the realm of overwhelming repulsion which has bound up in it certain strong feelings of a certain kind... ambivalent, maybe?

posted June 02, 2018 07:44 AM            

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/

Here is our aspect chart:

posted June 02, 2018 09:31 PM            

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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
Bump!

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/

Here is our aspect chart:

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posted June 03, 2018 12:03 AM            

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posted June 05, 2018 01:38 AM            

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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
I'm first

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posted June 05, 2018 08:01 PM            

His Pluto square my sun, square my mercury, trine my venus. My Pluto sextile his moon, trine his mercury, and trine his mars.

Not including the minor aspect or parallel/unparallel.

At first I didn't find physical attraction at him as he wasn't my type. But definitely there was some level of comfort every time we hung out that I rarely found with other of my male friends.

The one who made the first move was my husband but it was an indirect approach so I didn't think there was another meaning behind it or maybe because he wasn't that attractive to me (he isn't that ugly, for me attractive person means the whole) so I didn't really care.

I didn't even think about touching/kissing him but then again maybe because I didn't find him attractive at all. Eventually we were in a relationship and two days in a relationship, he literally jumped on me after it was the first time we were alone as he wanted to visit my place after dropping me off. That was the time I realized the physical attractiveness. He also told me that I was attractive physically and it made him insecure sometimes as he wasn't that handsome compared to my male friends. We had plenty before we finally get married. We always cuddled and fell asleep while hugging each other after we did it.

I would say our sexual intimacy is pretty much healthy and still with passion. 5 years in a relationship, he still wants it everyday, even when I am in my pregnancy. I think if there's lack of physical attraction, we wouldn't have plenty.

We may not really compatible in a regular basis as we have some major differences, but it's hard to stay away from our sexual chemistry when we are in it.

My venus square his sun. His venus trine my sun.

posted June 05, 2018 08:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:

It may sound like I'm shallow but, in order to feel attraction, I have to find the person attractive externally aswell as menthally.

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If you're shallow Melinn, that makes two of us.

For some, appearance DOES matter. A person who doesn't care what they look like is a major turnoff for me.

However, I'm not sure what this relates to in the birth chart. I'm a fitness nut of sorts and have Mars in Aires on the Ascendant. Surely there's more to this equation than just the Ascendant, however.

Seems to me a more reliable way to approach many questions of synastry is to look at priorities. If Subject A's priority is eating potato chips and watching TV and Subject B places health and fitness above all else, could they ever be attracted to one another?

Possibly on a casual basis, but I doubt the two will ever experience mutual respect and admiration.

posted June 06, 2018 06:04 PM            

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

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I wonder if the synastry that controls one's desire (or lack thereof) to get close with a particular person of the opposite sex is mainly a matter of how that other person touches our natal moon?

What causes me to think along this line is your use of the word, "feel", three times. Unless I'm badly mistaken, astrologers traditionally relate feelings to the moon.

There is one particular lady in my recent history who could spin my heart out of control if she wanted to. I've looked at our planets. The only synastry I can see that might explain my vulnerability is her Cancer Mars trining my natal Scorpio moon.

This is purely conjecture: if it takes a favorable moon aspect to ring your bells, then, by logic, an unfavorable aspect to your moon might throw the "No Thanks" switch, even if other synastry might show attraction of some sort.

posted June 07, 2018 12:00 PM            

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
What in synastry could mean that you don't find the person ugly its just that the thought of touching/kissing that person makes you feel really awkward and weirded out. Like kissing a family member or something. It just feels wrong and there's 0 passion that makes you automatically want to jump on that person. Even a simple hug feels gross.

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I agree with Ami. Saturn contacts and poor Mercury aspects.

A guy could have the body of an African warrior. Muscles in places I know not of. But if the same Shaka Zulu is not able to carry a conversation. Nothing will work!!!

posted June 07, 2018 02:02 PM            

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Originally posted by pocketrocket:
Bump!

I have a guy who's attracted to me and he thinks that we are compatible. Actually, we are as friends.
We kissed couple of times, but I felt repelled & don't want it again. But he does. :/

Here is our aspect chart:

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posted June 08, 2018 07:14 AM            

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Originally posted by MilaBirkin:
Same here! I thought this was because we have Moon square Venus double whammy, don't know why but I thought that.

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posted June 09, 2018 05:35 AM            

Here I am the one with unrequitted feelings. Feel strong attraction & affection, but he doesn't.
Despite some attraction aspects, mine are stronger. I was always in the mood, he's not - with me. You can imagine how this can be "beneficial" for self esteem. And I hate it, bc I want to move on, even tried to break any communication, but I'm (still) weak to resist the feelings.

posted June 21, 2018 08:35 AM            

Obviously when comparing charts of those in an intimate relationship you can factor in the levels of attraction. They vary so much in synastry though.

I've met many people with all of the 'obvious' attraction components that don't interest me, so I suppose, on balance. Who the person actually is, denotes more than the chart connections overall.

posted June 28, 2018 02:17 AM            

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Originally posted by waxlobster:
I don't really look at it this way personally. I'm quite energy sensitive, so am rarely attracted to somebody physically... For me it usually requires a soul connection, so the chart doesn't represent it quite in the way it could.

Obviously when comparing charts of those in an intimate relationship you can factor in the levels of attraction. They vary so much in synastry though.

I've met many people with all of the 'obvious' attraction components that don't interest me, so I suppose, on balance. Who the person actually is, denotes more than the chart connections overall.

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posted July 05, 2018 02:44 PM            

I think you should look at your own natal chart placements and see what would be contradictory. For I example I have Venus in Libra so physical beauty is kind of important but not in the shallow way IMHO. It's actually important for me that a person is clean, well taken care off (teeth, hair, decent clothes). I think Venus in Virgo it's more shallow type but then again, they often choose a partner that becomes their lifetime improvement project. So they may easily end up with a person who has some physical or psychological problems or both. And then they embark on a quest to fix that person.

Also, worth to look at progressions of Venus. My progressed Venus is in Scorpio now so I like scorpionic type but still with that classic Librian beauty.

What could be completely repelling? I suppose people who have ASC, Sun or Venus in square or opposition to my Venus. But then again - people with something in Capricorn fall in my 11th house of friendship. People with planets in Cancer fall in my 5th house and I adore them. People with stuff in Aries are having trine to my stellium in Sag and Moon in Leo.

So there's no easy answer to this. Perhaps more than one aspect would have to be involved.