posted May 14, 2016 12:14 AM
We have excellent synastry and though we met only a few months ago She tells me she loves me and that I'm one of her best friends. I like her and all, but...I often feel drained after spending time with her. Perhaps this has to do with Moon conjunct SN in our synastry? It's really tight, but I'm the Moon. I thought it was the south node person that was supposed to feel drained. And anyway- Her Venus is conjunct my NN so shouldn't that balance it out?
If you'll excuse my vent: My issue is she reminds me a bit of myself- at the age of 16. We are both in our 30's though. I want to move forward in my life not backwards and she makes me feel like I'm moving backwards somehow. She's living with her parents and has no job. She just lives off of them and spends her days doing whatever she wants. (They are well off so they're fine with it). She's never lived on her own. She lived at home with mommy and daddy all throughout college, then 3 years later moved in with a boyfriend- and when that fell through 3 years later she moved back with mom and dad. I on the other hand have been on my own since I was 17 and don't have family that would support me. She constantly tries to call me and tries to keep me on the phone for 45-90 minutes (would be longer if I didn't make up an excuse) about guys she's obsessed with who are OBVIOUSLY not into her. If I happen to have 90 minutes free in a day I'd rather spend it on something more fruitful than that. I remember hinting to her once that if she has this much time to obsess over guys (especially those who aren't even interested in her) that maybe that's a sign she should consider getting a job. Well, she didn't like my making THAT suggestion at all. It was obvious she'd rather just suck my time up with whining about them then actually being an adult and doing something productive with her time. This sort of behavior was fine for me in highschool, but it just irks the hell out of me now. Then if we hang out twice in a week which for me is ALOT considering my workload, she actually states that it isn't enough and wants to hang out more! I have to keep reminding her nicely that I actually have a job and bills to pay and can't spend all my free time with her.
I just feel like I'm 20 years older than her even though in reality we're only a couple of years apart. I like her, but I also feel so drained that I sometimes avoid her calls and requests to meet. How can this be considering our great synastry? Is her SN conjunct my Moon to blame?