posted May 18, 2016 04:13 PM            

Last night, he told me how he has little to no interest in sex and romance. Pretty much, what I'd constitute as asexual.

So, my question is, how do you think a composite like ours would affect him? I'd post the actual chart, but I'm not sure how to on here. At the very least, I'm excited to have him as a good friend.

posted May 19, 2016 02:03 PM            

Can you post his chart?
http://tinypic.com/

posted May 20, 2016 04:16 AM            

Let's see if this works. This is his scope. He has Saturn in the 8th. This is exact tob.

posted May 20, 2016 07:35 AM            

In your synastry I see potential for a nice and lasting friendship if you manage to stay ok with the way he is. Your Venus squaring his Saturn-Chiron opposition seems a little worrying. I think you could trigger something painful in him, possibly the feeling of inadequacy.

I don't work with signs in composites so I don't have an opinion on your Scorpio placements. I think it's important to make sure what house Mars occupies, it's so near the cusp. Which would require investigating your Ascendants.

posted May 21, 2016 01:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Saturn rules the DSC and 8th, is in the 8th in Aqua, opposite Chiron, sextile Moon. Packed 6th house. I'm not surprised he's like this. Neptune and Uranus in the 7th could contribute to his rare attitude. With the Sun-NN there and Moon-Venus I'd expect at least a little bit of interest in partnerships.

In your synastry I see potential for a nice and lasting friendship if you manage to stay ok with the way he is. Your Venus squaring his Saturn-Chiron opposition seems a little worrying. I think you could trigger something painful in him, possibly the feeling of inadequacy.

I don't work with signs in composites so I don't have an opinion on your Scorpio placements. I think it's important to make sure what house Mars occupies, it's so near the cusp. Which would require investigating your Ascendants.

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Thank you for your input. I definitely see what you mean, as far as his chart goes.

I'm definitely accepting of it. I wouldn't try to push myself on him or anything like that. I was more concerned that maybe the composite energy would feel too intense for something that has no sexual desire, if that makes sense.

posted May 21, 2016 04:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
I wont be of much help
But I wanted to post my natal chart because I freak out more and more..
It's like a rule that people with Pluto in 5th Neptune and uranus in 7th and Saturn in 8th H
Do not want or are afraid to have sex so they are late or not at all bloomers.
Honestly whenever I read a post about someone asking if he will ever have sex or be in a relationship he /she has this combo I mentioned above.
It's scary to me
I have this myself and Ive never had sex
This may help you a little to understand him
I do not like to be generally touched (hugs are the only exceptions)
I want mental stimulation that is why I always had platonic relationships with the men Ive fallen for. When someone refers to sex it hurts me because its like I give something such precious (my feelings) but he prefers something that is easily found everywhere (sex). I give you my soul and you prefer my body. For some weird reason its either deep feelings without sex or sex without feelings. I fail to combine those 2.
I do not even feel the need for sex even though I get aroused easily.
I do not like it in general when someone comes close to me because I feel like there is not enough air for me to breathe. I need my space and my time alone. (This need maybe more intense in his case because he has too much sag in his chart.. same goes for the need of mental stimulation

I hope you understand what I am saying
(English is not my mother language)
If you have any questions or you want to discuss something more just tell me
Here is my natal chart

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Thank you for responding, and sharing those parts of yourself. It's so intriguing!

And yes! When we were discussing all of this, he even said to me as well that he prefers mental stimulation -- like good conversation means more than the physical stuff.

I wonder if physical touching does make him uncomfortable as in your case. I'm a pretty physical person, whether it be friendship or romantically speaking or whatever. So, it means nothing for me to touch someone's arm, back or whatever when having natural conversation. It doesn't SEEM to bother him. But, I do notice when we hug goodbye, there is a general tension.

And this is a little off topic, but on topic at the same time. I am a sexual person, however, this is a period in time for me when I am feeling very discouraged with our world as far as sex and relationships go. I feel like ALL people in this world are out for is sex. It makes me nauseous. So, I can imagine even more so in your case how discouraging that must feel. I don't know how this world became so lust crazy, to where they forget where else intimacy can occur. I feel like even sex these days is rarely on a truly intimate level. It's usually just chalked up to orgasm addictions. I'm in a very pessimistic state to where I feel I will be single and celibate for a long time because I refuse to be a part of that norm. My Venus in Scorpio craves more than that. This is probably part of Saturn transiting my first house (as well as opposite my Gemini Moon.)

posted May 21, 2016 06:48 PM            

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Originally posted by cosmolove89:
Thank you for responding, and sharing those parts of yourself. It's so intriguing!

And yes! When we were discussing all of this, he even said to me as well that he prefers mental stimulation -- like good conversation means more than the physical stuff.

I wonder if physical touching does make him uncomfortable as in your case. I'm a pretty physical person, whether it be friendship or romantically speaking or whatever. So, it means nothing for me to touch someone's arm, back or whatever when having natural conversation. It doesn't SEEM to bother him. But, I do notice when we hug goodbye, there is a general tension.

And this is a little off topic, but on topic at the same time. I am a sexual person, however, this is a period in time for me when I am feeling very discouraged with our world as far as sex and relationships go. I feel like ALL people in this world are out for is sex. It makes me nauseous. So, I can imagine even more so in your case how discouraging that must feel. I don't know how this world became so lust crazy, to where they forget where else intimacy can occur. I feel like even sex these days is rarely on a truly intimate level. It's usually just chalked up to orgasm addictions. I'm in a very pessimistic state to where I feel I will be single and celibate for a long time because I refuse to be a part of that norm. My Venus in Scorpio craves more than that. This is probably part of Saturn transiting my first house (as well as opposite my Gemini Moon.)

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I know right?
Everyone talks about sex daily, you see naked or semi-naked women on TV, Internet etc.. daily.
Men pretend to be in love or cheat without a second thought in order to have sex, its rediculous..
I am already sick of sex and I haven't even tried it.

Believe me I understand how you feel because I had the exact same problem for the opposite reason..
I've fallen for guys that wanted sex but I didn't
You ve fallen for someone that doesnt want sex but you do.
Consider yourself though lucky because the fact that you generally want sex with someone you've fallen for is normal and 99% of men will want sex.
It would be too hard if you didn't want sex especially when you are a girl
because as I told you above 99% of men want sex.
Unfortunately you've fallen for someone that belongs to that 1%.

I agree with him about the good conversation thing (it doesnt have to do about the topic of the conversation,
a good conversation to me means that I am not bored even if we are talking about the most boring thing in the world,
it has to do with mental chemistry if that makes sense)
Basically we need someone that will f*ck our mind not our body.

The best you have to do is making believe that you are with me because you like my personality and you enjoy our together time, then give me some time (I mean plenty of time) without trying to seduce me for sex, and Ill begin teasing you and playing with you in a more sexual way little by little.. But you have to act like you are interested in me and you like me as a woman but you do not want sex.
It happened with one of the guys Ive fallen for.
We just enjoyed each others company and he told me he liked me as a woman but never even tried to kiss me, after almost a year I started teasing him in a sexual way, in the beginning he did not do anything but then he let his passion for me take his body‘s control and boom! I got scared and I didnt want to even come close to him again after that..
I gave it a lot of thought and I understood what was happening. I need someone that will fall for me but will be sexually distant because that gave me the control, it was up to me how slowly and to what point I would get sexual/intimate with him, so if it's not him the distant one then it would be me.
If you think about it that is exactly what Saturn is..
Fear of letting go, wants to have the control, needs a long time everything Saturn does its slowly and steadily,
So yes in my opinion this is exactly whats happening to me.
In fact by telling you this I am suggesting you to do with him what I need men to do to me if they want to have sex or at least if they want to maximize the possibilities of having sex with me.

But remember I was first sexually aroused at a very young age and I am also very easily aroused
You will have to ask him if he gets turned on or not generally.

posted May 23, 2016 07:05 PM            

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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
People with water and earth elements have a high sex drive. He has no water, at all..Nothing in his water houses, apart from Saturn in 8H, which.. just makes it worse. Pluto being the only planet in water sign does not make any major aspects with other planets to bring at least some of that water in.

What stands out is loaded 6H and a lot of Sagittarius in his chart. I wonder how he realises himself in life. Charity, medicine, philanthropic causes? Red cross nurse in some 3rd world country would be a good role for him.

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Good interpretation! I love it. He's actually a medicinal marijuana grower. To him, that is the cure to a lot of things. Whether or not anyone else agrees with that, he's very passionate about it. He always says, "I want to help people."

posted May 23, 2016 07:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
I know right?
Everyone talks about sex daily, you see naked or semi-naked women on TV, Internet etc.. daily.
Men pretend to be in love or cheat without a second thought in order to have sex, its rediculous..
I am already sick of sex and I haven't even tried it.

Believe me I understand how you feel because I had the exact same problem for the opposite reason..
I've fallen for guys that wanted sex but I didn't
You ve fallen for someone that doesnt want sex but you do.
Consider yourself though lucky because the fact that you generally want sex with someone you've fallen for is normal and 99% of men will want sex.
It would be too hard if you didn't want sex especially when you are a girl
because as I told you above 99% of men want sex.
Unfortunately you've fallen for someone that belongs to that 1%.

I agree with him about the good conversation thing (it doesnt have to do about the topic of the conversation,
a good conversation to me means that I am not bored even if we are talking about the most boring thing in the world,
it has to do with mental chemistry if that makes sense)
Basically we need someone that will f*ck our mind not our body.

The best you have to do is making believe that you are with me because you like my personality and you enjoy our together time, then give me some time (I mean plenty of time) without trying to seduce me for sex, and Ill begin teasing you and playing with you in a more sexual way little by little.. But you have to act like you are interested in me and you like me as a woman but you do not want sex.
It happened with one of the guys Ive fallen for.
We just enjoyed each others company and he told me he liked me as a woman but never even tried to kiss me, after almost a year I started teasing him in a sexual way, in the beginning he did not do anything but then he let his passion for me take his body‘s control and boom! I got scared and I didnt want to even come close to him again after that..
I gave it a lot of thought and I understood what was happening. I need someone that will fall for me but will be sexually distant because that gave me the control, it was up to me how slowly and to what point I would get sexual/intimate with him, so if it's not him the distant one then it would be me.
If you think about it that is exactly what Saturn is..
Fear of letting go, wants to have the control, needs a long time everything Saturn does its slowly and steadily,
So yes in my opinion this is exactly whats happening to me.
In fact by telling you this I am suggesting you to do with him what I need men to do to me if they want to have sex or at least if they want to maximize the possibilities of having sex with me.

But remember I was first sexually aroused at a very young age and I am also very easily aroused
You will have to ask him if he gets turned on or not generally.

** even as a child I never understood why people kiss hug or touch each other because I felt nothing by it.
Until today I feel nothing when I am being kissed or hugged or touched in anyway even from people I love.
I know exactly what you mean about the goodbye hug, it reminds me..
You should ask him too if he prefers not to be hugged/touched.. I do not suggest to ask him if he has a problem when you hug him because he will answer no in order to avoid hurting you I
I guess

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Thanks for sharing all of that

That's a good tip as far as asking whether or not he likes being hugged or touched, rather than me asking if it bothers him if *I* do it. You're right, he probably would say "no" to avoid hurting my feelings.

I'm accepting of who he is, so I'll never push myself on him or even expect anything to ever conspire of it. But, I am excited to have him as a friend, even if nothing ever does. Right now, with me being so fed up with the way the world is in regards to sex, it's probably a good time for him to be walking into my life! I need people that aren't addicted to sex, porn and what have you. I feel like everyone else that is surrounding me at the moment, IS addicted to it in some fashion. I feel too raw over this matter to even welcome it into my world right now. So, he'll be a nice change of pace.