posted July 14, 2016 07:09 AM            

I think planet to angle conjunctions can create interest and a feeling that something *should* or *could* happen, but I think for the relationship to get off the ground, the planets must also interact with eachother.

posted July 14, 2016 08:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
Venus-DC
Neptune-DC
NNode-ASc.
Pluto-IC

I think planet to angle conjunctions can create interest and a feeling that something *should* or *could* happen, but I think for the relationship to get off the ground, the planets must also interact with eachother.

There is Sun Tr. Moon, and a wide Moon cj. Venus, these are nice, but there is a lack of Saturn, so definition, structure and commitment may be difficult. But not impossible if both are prepared to roll up their sleeves a bit!

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Whatever conjuncts the angles, gets enlargened and into the spotlight. Synastric aspects in which at least one planet is angular, need to be given extra-importance, they are very emphasized and probably to manifest clearly.
BUT I also agree, this is just the starting point, there have to be planetary aspects.

And yes, love goes beyond synastry.

Sometimes the progressed chart also tell the story.

posted July 14, 2016 11:30 AM            

Here's my thoughts though, astrology kind of put to the side.
First thing, be careful. If he's engaged and you have feelings, that could get ugly. Especially if he seems to go along with it. I've been there! You might think, "It's only my feelings. I got this. I can handle it."
Maybe it's possible but most often when spending time with someone, nope. You don't. They'll bite you and it's too late.
I don't know what to tell you to do. You'll have to give that some thought. Are you REALLY in control of your feelings?

Twice I've found myself in that triangle of doom. (Three times depending on your technical viewpoint) It's brutal, ugly, nasty, painful, destructive. I don't advise touching that with a 10 foot pole.
Friendship seems innocent enough, but can you?!?
Think hard on that.

posted July 14, 2016 11:49 AM            

It's natural to have feelings for people, attached or not, but they are not available to you in the way you truly need them to be if with another and you are looking for commitment.

Use good judgement please.

The only time this is OK is if his partner is in agreement, and you are happy to share.

posted July 14, 2016 12:00 PM            

An unastrological note, echoing the ones above: he's engaged AND he has a daughter? And you didn't even know he was engaged? Even if this guy is enough of an evil, cheating sleazebag to open a romantic door with you in that situation---and there's no evidence from what you've said that he is, it's very possible he's just been kind and avuncular---you aren't just hurting his fiancé if you keep pursuing him, you will be hurting his daughter and messing with her family. WALK AWAY. I'm not sure how old his daughter is, but even if she's in her twenties this still applies. He should not be encouraging you. Better not to pursue a friendship, either, since you have a big crush and it's not clear he's respecting his fiancée's boundaries. Astrology alone doesn't cover this---every single one of us has a synastry with every single other human being alive---the synastry simply doesn't matter when it comes to pursuing a man who's engaged (or him pursuing you) and risking harm to his fiancee and daughter's psychological health in the future.

Astrologically, I don't see the synastry as especially painful OR wonderful/binding other than the angle conjunctions and nodal stuff. If you're working with a correct birthtime for both people, then there are strong angular connections in both directions, which means that the relationship is showing each of you something important about what you're looking for in a relationship (Venus-DC) and in a home life (Pluto/IC, loose Jupiter/IC.). My advice would be to spend time on your own thinking about this man and why you "love" him, what it is about who he is as a person and how he operates that you wish to bring more of into your own life. Some of how you see him is just fantasy/crush stuff since he's touching your 12th house so much and his Neptune's right on your DC, but that information (who/how you think he is) is very important in showing you things you wish to bring into your life.

posted July 14, 2016 01:46 PM            

I definitely don't expect/want anything romantic at this point. I'm sure it's never even crossed his mind. I just can't decide whether or not to keep in touch.

We've talked about astrology and he told me his birthtime.

I'm moving out of town temporarily soon so I'm looking forward to being in a fresh environment.

posted July 14, 2016 03:17 PM            

I say it's good you're leaving, and best not to stay in touch at all. Good thing this is getting cut off before anyone really crossed a line. It's kind of heading in that direction. Now, it can be a pleasant memory of getting to know someone you adored.