posted February 19, 2007 04:29 PM              

His Moon square my Moon
His Moon opp. my Mercury
His Moon opp. my Mars
His Moon conjunct my Jupiter
His Moon sextile my Uranus
His Moon trine my Asc.

His Mercury trine my Sun
His Mercury conjunct my Neptune
His Mercury sextile my Neptune

His Venus square my Sun
His Venus sextile my Jupiter
His Venus sextile my Asc.

His Mars sextile my Sun

His Jupiter trine my Sun

His Uranus trine my Mercury
His Uranus trine my Asc.

HIs Neptune trine my Sun

posted February 20, 2007 12:30 PM            

However...all those squares, OUCH. I can see why you'd be attracted to him if in synastry, you have the same combination as in your natal. I've done that too. You're used to dealing with that energy.

But all the squares (especially Mars and Saturn, which is pretty well argumentative, and Mercury, which isn't great for communication either) makes things very difficult. His Saturn squaring/conjunct a lot of your chart must have made it very hard on you. Binding, but difficult. No bloody wonder you fight all the time. Moon square Moon is pretty difficult as well (I have it with my mother and emotionally, we're total opposites).

posted February 20, 2007 03:15 PM            

A Fated Contact:

This is an important interaction, but unfortunately not for the most cheerful of reasons. Whereas one of you the "lunar" person, expresses their feelings only too naturally, the other "saturine" person has a commensurately difficult time expressing their feelings. The writing on the wall with this contact is saying that both of you have an important lesson to learn from each other. The "lunar" person needs to discipline their emotions and be more mature, less childish in this area. The "Saturine" person on the other hand, could take some lessons from the "lunar" person in how to live up to their emotional potential. The trouble here is that the "lunar" person feels suppressed or chilled by what is really the "saturines" inadequacy in this respect, for in the face of the "lunar" persons emotional ease, they feel awkward and in need of changing their behavior. And so a downward spiral is only too likely if the two of you are not emotionally very objective.

For this to happen there would certainly have to be a good supply of mutually loving and caring interactions present also, because this interaction certainly doesn't fit that bill. This has been called a "fated contact" because it is quite timely in the sense of both people having to become more conscious of free-flowing feelings on the part of the "lunar" person, and in inhibitions on the part of the "Saturine" person.

Family responsibilities and domestic arrangements can very likely be an area for these lessons and difficulties to surface, as too can the "saturines" individual's professional duties getting in the way of the "lunar" persons needs, and vice versa. Having said all this, if the writing on the wall is read and obeyed, a very stable and mutually responsible, though possibly somewhat sober, relationship can be established.

posted February 20, 2007 08:14 PM              

So its useless trying to be in or keep a relationship with saturn squares, eh?

posted February 21, 2007 02:31 AM              

For moon-conj-saturn aspects in my natal chart, as Shining Ray said, I didn't have a great childhood. Cos my dad left to US since I was 5 years old and our family reunited when I was 19 years old in US. So it had been 14 years I hadn't met my dad. Needless to say, both my parents are very faithful and never heard of them having a fling or whatsoever.

posted February 21, 2007 07:02 AM            

I think you were highly intuitive picking out your natal Moon/Saturn aspect and the aspect you share with your ex boyfriend. I think the two are linked in that they are bringing up your old familiar/family patterns from childhood. You were separated from your father at such a young age, it must have caused you to feel very unhappy not being able to see your father. I think sometimes when we enter into relationships, and if we didn't have a great childhood we can re-create the childhood scene again by unconsciously choosing a partner who will bring up all those same childhood issues/feelings and emotions, that is why we are so drawn to them in the first place.

The relationship with your partner probably brings up similar themes from your childhood. With not having your father there for you as a child, you seem to be chasing after the affections of a man who is cold and is not showing you the care you need. Possibly like the distant relationship you had with your Dad.

It can be very painful going through a breakup as it can bring up a lot of painful emotions. Plus all the dreams and expectations you have of the relationship and all the plans you had made together for the future are all gone, and it can be a massive loss. Make sure you are looking after yourself, and cry as much as you need to, you need to let all of these emotions out of your system. Concentrate on your own pain, it might look like your ex is cold and doesn't care, but if he finds it hard to show his emotions he is not going to cry in front of you, he will probably cry in private but needs to put on a brave face. I think you need plenty of time to grieve for the loss of this relationship.