posted September 03, 2016 09:45 AM            

I lived with someone I was with for 8 years, my longest relationship, and I had my moon and mars in his 12th house. His moon was conjunct my DC and his mars was on my AC.

I even moved to another country to live with him.

Another boyfriend of mine that I kinda "lived with", I had my venus, merc, and pluto in his 12th house and he was also a 12th houser.

posted September 03, 2016 12:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Starry~*:

As a 12th house sun, we do need our space BUT we can definitely live with someone we completely trust. We understand privacy very well, so it's important that when we do live under the same roof with someone that we do respect their boundaries and they do the same.

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Well said.

I think you'll find 12th housers needing to withdraw more when they don't trust a situation or person, or when they're not clear about a situation. Very recently my way of working with my 12th house placements was to spend my fiery energy until I felt exhausted enough to be calm, and then withdraw into the isolation of my 12th house. But I think I feel happier with myself when I manage a balance rather than swing between extremes. This means that while I am being braver than ever, expressing my true feelings, I am also more frightened and experience more self doubt.

When a 12th houser lives a more balanced life- not always having to retreat to be themselves, a companion, the one they've chosen to trust, is a relief, and a refuge. It's the person we can keep with us safe at home (cancer sun ), and also the one we can venture into the word with, still safe. Some partners can provide their 12th houser the safety and rejuvenation of the 12th anywhere at any time.

I wouldn't worry about trampling on his or her privacy. Just don't take it personally when if they actually do need space, they take it. They're just recharging. I do feel as if an injustice is being done to me when I need time and space and people get upset with me, or want more than I can give. I don't really have the problem that I need space and I don't get it. The problem comes in when my actions are taken personally. It feels like some kind of rejection of who I am to me..

But personally, the more aligned my values and ideals are with a person, and the more expressive the love between us, the less I need to be alone in order to "exhale".