posted September 16, 2016 09:53 AM            

I'm a newbee in astrology, so my question is: is this really one-sided love? How can I interpret the synastry between us two?

posted September 16, 2016 12:04 PM            

Fascinated by his chart. He seems to be an extremely "purposeful" person. Sun/Moon/Mercury/Juno in Pisces with Venus/Mars in Aries. Jupiter/Uranus in Sag. He's brilliant and knows what he wants. His intuition is finely tuned and he feels out situations with aplomb. What he "feels" guides everything around him.

You positively aspect many things in his chart so if anyone has a chance at this guy it's definitely you..

But, sometimes not all beautiful synastry is meant to play out as perfectly as the charts promise. That being said.. I think this synastry is great. It's just very dangerous to get invested in people who do not seek to make us a priority in their lives. Wise to bear that in mind as you continue to feel out this situation..

posted September 16, 2016 12:19 PM            

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Originally posted by lshannah:
Maybe this one is clearer.. (I'm the outside one)
Could somebody please shine a light? Would be very much appreciated!!

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this is a close to perfect synastry!
no way this is one-sided!

and yes, this is definitely fated.

I think he is under some transit now which makes him fear commitment. and yes, I say commitment because you are totally marriage material to him (all you personal planets are perfectly compatible and your sun is in his 7th and your moon in his 5th! this is THE perfect thing a woman can ask for in a relationship!).

is he seeing anybody else now that you know of? I suppose not to be honest.
I think with your FWB suggestion you confused him into thinking that maybe you're not the one! but you should try to correct yourself and the situation somehow haha! maybe say that you only said it because you were afraid of losing him or something like that

posted September 16, 2016 12:30 PM            

It will be challenging his idea of women, love and what he finds pleasant. it will be also be in his 11th, breaking his previous personal borders between friends and lovers.

at the same time, this planet will be squaring your sun, and thus challenging what you want in life, encouraging you to be more free. also changing the idea of what type of men you want in life.

I think that it is better not to get involved with each other for this period, and go out and meet other people instead, because if fate brings you two together after this period, your relationship will be much more solid, as pluto will also move closer to your sun making your relationship with men deeper and stronger.

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the only thing I can fault in this synastry is your moons square (out of sign, but still a square). it can cause lots of sobbing!

also your moon being too faraway from his, will always have him thinking that you are too far away emotionally and that he cannot tell what you are thinking or how you are feeling. you'll have the best relationship with a man with virgo moon sextile your moon.

and if it will make you feel any better, with his vertex on your moon, it is a hard to keep up with, electrical aspect, which most of the time breaks away the two peole (due to the intensity, although at the beginning there was lots of attraction because of this.)

and with his chiron opposite your moon, I can only say OUCH. this aspect WILL cause lots of pain for you both.

posted September 16, 2016 12:47 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

this is a close to perfect synastry!
no way this is one-sided!

and yes, this is definitely fated.

I think he is under some transit now which makes him fear commitment. and yes, I say commitment because you are totally marriage material to him (all you personal planets are perfectly compatible and your sun is in his 7th and your moon in his 5th! this is THE perfect thing a woman can ask for in a relationship!).

is he seeing anybody else now that you know of? I suppose not to be honest.
I think with your FWB suggestion you confused him into thinking that maybe you're not the one! but you should try to correct yourself and the situation somehow haha! maybe say that you only said it because you were afraid of losing him or something like that

and if I have got it wrong and he is the one who suggested the FWB thing, then again it is his transit making him think of open relationships as a solutions for relationships he doesn't want to commit to yet, but also doesn't wanna lose the person.

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I'm not aware if he sees anybody else, but knowing his weekly schedule full of work and sports, I guess he doesn't have that much time to see other people. But you'll never know and I'm not in the position to ask such things.

He was the one who suggested the FWB-thing and I was like, well, I don't want to lose you as a person and between the sheets it's really like fireworks.. So I gave it a chance, but somehow I can't stop obsessing. Sure I know it's a recipe for disaster, but till now it's going great.

It's kind of weird, because from the beginning it feels like we've known eachother for ages and I told him that. It also feels like he can really read me, without saying anything and sometimes it feels like we've got a telepathic connection, which makes it also hard to break things off. So I decided to let things run it's course.

posted September 16, 2016 12:53 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
Well.. there's much going on here but think about the fact you guys are born five years apart yet you both have Junos in the same sign... not even that, but both of these Junos are conjunct major luminaries by the other person. That's particularly beautiful to me.

Fascinated by his chart. He seems to be an extremely "purposeful" person. Sun/Moon/Mercury/Juno in Pisces with Venus/Mars in Aries. Jupiter/Uranus in Sag. He's brilliant and knows what he wants. His intuition is finely tuned and he feels out situations with aplomb. What he "feels" guides everything around him.

You positively aspect many things in his chart so if anyone has a chance at this guy it's definitely you..

But, sometimes not all beautiful synastry is meant to play out as perfectly as the charts promise. That being said.. I think this synastry is great. It's just very dangerous to get invested in people who do not seek to make us a priority in their lives. Wise to bear that in mind as you continue to feel out this situation..

Hope other brilliant minds chime in!

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posted September 16, 2016 01:02 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
got it, it is transit uranus conjuncting his venus. it will be so for another year and a half when uranus will be going direct and retrograding closely around his venus degree.

It will be challenging his idea of women, love and what he finds pleasant. it will be also be in his 11th, breaking his previous personal borders between friends and lovers.

at the same time, this planet will be squaring your sun, and thus challenging what you want in life, encouraging you to be more free. also changing the idea of what type of men you want in life.

I think that it is better not to get involved with each other for this period, and go out and meet other people instead, because if fate brings you two together after this period, your relationship will be much more solid, as pluto will also move closer to your sun making your relationship with men deeper and stronger.

P.S
the only thing I can fault in this synastry is your moons square (out of sign, but still a square). it can cause lots of sobbing!

also your moon being too faraway from his, will always have him thinking that you are too far away emotionally and that he cannot tell what you are thinking or how you are feeling. you'll have the best relationship with a man with virgo moon sextile your moon.

and if it will make you feel any better, with his vertex on your moon, it is a hard to keep up with, electrical aspect, which most of the time breaks away the two peole (due to the intensity, although at the beginning there was lots of attraction because of this.)

and with his chiron opposite your moon, I can only say OUCH. this aspect WILL cause lots of pain for you both.

* you can post your composite chart if you want, that way I can tell you if this is worth it for you

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Haha, yikes, a year and a half will be a long long time.. wow. Is there also a possibility that there is a meaning behind why we met during this transit?

posted September 16, 2016 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by lshannah:
I don't know where to start.. I've met this person three months ago and it somehow felt like it was fated. He seemed very interested too, but suddenly when I pushed a bit for reassurance he claimed he doesn't have feelings. Yet, we still see each other almost weekly, because after a while I (and I know some people will think it's stupid from my part, but I have thought about it for a while) accepted to a FWB-arrangement, but he seems to do contradictory things, which also shined true while he stated he didn't have any feelings.

I'm a newbee in astrology, so my question is: is this really one-sided love? How can I interpret the synastry between us two?

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Ps. I'm the L in the synastry chart, he is the S

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posted September 16, 2016 03:02 PM            

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Originally posted by lshannah:
Haha, yikes, a year and a half will be a long long time.. wow. Is there also a possibility that there is a meaning behind why we met during this transit?

Here is the composite:

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seeing the composite I can see why he seems to be overlooking you: unaspected moon

also composite sun in the 6th, shows the male caught up in his own daily life.
pluto in the 3rd, shows a need for controlling each other in who the other hangs out with/who the other should be friends with

with sun square saturn, this relationship keeps chewing on the male's brain, creating problems in him achieving his goals, fundamentally the relationship is not meant to last in both their minds

AC square chiron shows a couple that rather not be seen together or acknowledged to friends and family as a couple

the sun/venus midpoint squares both saturn and chiron, and shows that their is almost no real affection or mutual compromise here

saturn and uranus in the 4th, shows a very stressful home environment if the two get married or move in together

with mars square pluto, lots of nasty fights are possible (on the good side, lots of physical attraction)

venus square neptune shows a very sacrificing female, who puts the male before herself in everything

I doubt that all above can be fixed by moon in the 5th, and venus in 7th (although it is practically in the 8th) trine saturn in the 4th

posted September 16, 2016 04:12 PM            

To have a stab, what starts off as fun, may develop into a committed relationship. It may take quite a bit of time, work and investment to become concrete.

posted September 16, 2016 05:59 PM            

@Comdoc Thanks! He actually is very occupied with his work and his sports, but what is your opinion? I don't know that much about synastry nor what the score might say tough..

@Girlwiththerainysoul Oh boy, that sounds bad.. would you think with both the synastry and composite in mind, that there ever will be any possibility for a blooming romance? (gosh, that sounds very corny..)

posted September 17, 2016 02:30 AM            

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@Girlwiththerainysoul Oh boy, that sounds bad.. would you think with both the synastry and composite in mind, that there ever will be any possibility for a blooming romance? (gosh, that sounds very corny..)

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not at all, after all it is relationships that has brought the majority of us to astrology 😊

the composite analysis can tell why a relationship may be hard despite a very good synastry

sorry if I sounded harsh, I tend to speak the worst case scenarios should a friend decides to enter a specific relationship

romance I am not sure, as the composite doesn't really show it. all I see there is a controlling male, which considers this relationship as only a part of his daily routine. but the progressed composite may have better aspects which can show the possibility of romance at certain times in the future

the synastry shows a smooth relationship and two people who are in perfect harmony, but sometimes, too much harmonious aspects makes a relationship seem like a routine which just has to be done and gotten over with (it shows in your composite sun in the 6th)

I believe the problem of this relationship is that very little learning is involved. the couple will not be going together through life events which always make the relationship stronger. they don't challenge each other. the relationship can have a sense of serving one another, rather than growing together

*that venus in the 7th though which trines saturn, imho shows that the female will always be there and will create a stable relationship should she decide to enter this one as a committed relationship. and with moon in the 5th, the relationships is always hot and fun. so I believe that if you two do get married, it will be a rather good one, but those hard aspects aren't really to be overlooked, specially AC square chiron and sun square saturn which shows fundamental blockage

posted September 17, 2016 04:16 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
not at all, after all it is relationships that has brought the majority of us to astrology 😊

the composite analysis can tell why a relationship may be hard despite a very good synastry

sorry if I sounded harsh, I tend to speak the worst case scenarios should a friend decides to enter a specific relationship

romance I am not sure, as the composite doesn't really show it. all I see there is a controlling male, which considers this relationship as only a part of his daily routine. but the progressed composite may have better aspects which can show the possibility of romance at certain times in the future

the synastry shows a smooth relationship and two people who are in perfect harmony, but sometimes, too much harmonious aspects makes a relationship seem like a routine which just has to be done and gotten over with (it shows in your composite sun in the 6th)

I believe the problem of this relationship is that very little learning is involved. the couple will not be going together through life events which always make the relationship stronger. they don't challenge each other. the relationship can have a sense of serving one another, rather than growing together

*that venus in the 7th though which trines saturn, imho shows that the female will always be there and will create a stable relationship should she decide to enter this one as a committed relationship. and with moon in the 5th, the relationships is always hot and fun. so I believe that if you two do get married, it will be a rather good one, but those hard aspects aren't really to be overlooked, specially AC square chiron and sun square saturn which shows fundamental blockage

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Perhaps I forgot to add the other things in the composite, so here's an edited one:

and here's the progressed composite:

posted September 19, 2016 01:43 AM            

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Originally posted by lshannah:
Well, I guess it isn't needed anymore.. I just asked him when I will see him again and he suddenly called its quits. He said something like, I don't know how to translate it, he noticed he seemed to care less for me and he thought that we shouldn't see each other anymore. When I wanted to ask him why, he blocked me on his phone. So I'm left with a lot of question marks.

Which comes quite sudden, because last time when I saw him, he put candles on and was trying his best for me.. I'm at work now, but I can't focus.

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I am sorry Ishannah, this is tough. you surely don't deserve to be treated like this. what can I say? he wasn't really the one for you. chances are he will soon regret this and want to get back in touch, but I suggest that you cut all ties with him and never get back in touch again.

on the bright side, you learned more about astrology out of your relations with him!

posted September 19, 2016 07:33 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
I am sorry Ishannah, this is tough. you surely don't deserve to be treated like this. what can I say? he wasn't really the one for you. chances are he will soon regret this and want to get back in touch, but I suggest that you cut all ties with him and never get back in touch again.

on the bright side, you learned more about astrology out of your relations with him!

I can tell you that you should look forward to a much more meaningful and satisfying relationship with an Aquarius man who has sun conjunct your venus and square your moon, and has moon at the end of virgo sextile yours :-)

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Thanks for replying! Eventually we've been messaging, but he was really harsh, it was kinda awkward and he has really hurt me. Would you think he might come back?