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wheresthemoon
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posted October 06, 2016 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey guys! I don't know if you remember me, it's been awhile since I logged on here. But I have a question I am really looking for some clarity on and would like your assistance with. I know we have a lot of people here who are very knowledgable and work with asteroids, which is what I'm looking for.

Let me give a little backstory. I met this guy a little over a year ago. We went on one date, which was amazing. We both really enjoyed it and within 10 minutes of meeting each other he asked me on a second one. It was just perfect and I was really looking forward to seeing him again.

He had just moved to the area for work, and apparently his job fell through and he had to move back to where he had come from. To me, that was the end of the connection, but he kept it up. He went out of the country for a few months and one of the first things he did when he got back was call me. He keeps talking about wanting to see me again.

He was supposed to come up and see me in June, but he didn't. I never asked about it until he mentioned me coming to see him (he lives 6 hours away) and I said, "You were supposed to come here, and you didn't." His reply was that he didn't think I'd wanted him to come up and it was "my turn."

So now he has convinced me to go see him instead. Every time I think about it I get extremely nervous. I had bad feeling about him there for awhile, because I thought he was married. I'm now confident he is single, but the alarm bells are still going off and it's driving me crazy.

If you were to meet him, I don't think anything would strike you as odd. In fact the only reason I'm willing to go see him is that he is perfect. PERFECT I say. He is handsome, successful, funny, smart. The total package. But I'm so worried for some reason. What if he's a charming successful Ted Bundy??

I'd like for you to look at the synastry and see what you think. His Nessus is conjunct my Prosperpin, both square my Venus, which is one of the reasons I'm scared.

If it's okay to post transit charts here, I'd also like to include my transit chart for that weekend. Mars and Pluto will be conjunct on my Uranus and transit Dejanira will be conjunct my Mars. It's just a mess, I tell you.

Now I don't have his birth time, so I made something up so I could do a synastry chart.

Please let me know what you see here, and thanks in advance.


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Faith
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posted October 06, 2016 05:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well it's your decision, but I wouldn't.

He didn't keep his word about coming to see you. Then, he didn't offer to meet you halfway.

Sounds weird. I wouldn't drive 6 hours for that.

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incognito
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posted October 06, 2016 06:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
To be honest I would take away all the asteroids and other aspects except for a few to decide whether this is worth a shot. Keep the major ones if you like e.g. nessus and dejanira, eros, juno, lilith and start from there. Too many Asteroids are making things confusing

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wheresthemoon
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posted October 06, 2016 10:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by incognito:
To be honest I would take away all the asteroids and other aspects except for a few to decide whether this is worth a shot. Keep the major ones if you like e.g. nessus and dejanira, eros, juno, lilith and start from there. Too many Asteroids are making things confusing

Less asteroids=)


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wheresthemoon
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posted October 06, 2016 10:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Faith:
Well it's your decision, but I wouldn't.

He didn't keep his word about coming to see you. Then, he didn't offer to meet you halfway.

Sounds weird. I wouldn't drive 6 hours for that.


Well, he technically didn't say he WAS going to come see me.

He tried to get me to invite him. Then when I didn't, a few weeks later he said he "might happen to be in the area" during a certain time frame, trying to play it off like he was going to be here anyway, but he wasn't. So when he wanted me to come down and I brought that up, he said, "Yeahhh, I didn't think you wanted me to."

So he was actually going to come just to see me, but that Aquarius moon has to play it cool. Ha! Then when I didn't act like I was over the moon excited I guess he didn't think he should.

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incognito
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posted October 07, 2016 01:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im a libra so I jump to please whenever I am excited about a guy but…if this was my chart, I would not see him as more than a friend. Based on several things,

1. This may be a complete time waster relationship. I find that when there are lots of aspects, there is lots to learn about the other person. So thats a plus. The more aspects, the more complex the relationship. It may take years to get to know each other. However, a lot of these aspects are harsh. My longest relationship involved a chart like this but with way more more trines and sextiles. There was a lot to learn about the other person which kept it exciting at least...

2,Moon-Uranus. I always look to the moon if you want a stability and commitment, he will NOT be able to give you that.. His uranus is conjunct your moon - you will feel frustrated with him and his instability will **** you off. He might be reliable but he won’t feel comforting to you.

3. Neptune is opposite your mars and loosely conjunct your moon. That is a huge sign that he is going to confuse the crap out of you and be completely vague as you are already experiencing. The more you try to push the more evasive he will become. Do you want to chase all the time? As an aries I can see how you find this exciting.This pattern is not going to get better, it will get worse.
My experience with neptune is exactly what you have said. The guy will say "but I thought....you didn't want to see me" or some other weird reason.


4. Your Pluto to his moon. You find it hard to leave it alone because you want to control him and he will feel manipulated by you. Neither of you will feel that nurtured by the other if it gets going. Neither of you will truly feel comfortable with the other.

5. Moon in aqua doesn’t play it cool if he likes you. The guy that I dated -sun gemini moon aqua expressed very clear interest. Its once they are in a relationship they like having a lot of of space but still they will make their commitment known.

you said : His Nessus is conjunct my Prosperpin, both square my Venus, which is one of the reasons I'm scared.

I agree..you can not predict violence 100%...but nessus is never good.

I would not go.

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Ceridwen
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posted October 07, 2016 09:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Faith:
Well it's your decision, but I wouldn't.

He didn't keep his word about coming to see you. Then, he didn't offer to meet you halfway.

Sounds weird. I wouldn't drive 6 hours for that.


My instant thoughts, too.

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wheresthemoon
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posted October 07, 2016 09:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by incognito:
Im a libra so I jump to please whenever I am excited about a guy but…if this was my chart, I would not see him as more than a friend. Based on several things,

1. This may be a complete time waster relationship. I find that when there are lots of aspects, there is lots to learn about the other person. So thats a plus. The more aspects, the more complex the relationship. It may take years to get to know each other. However, a lot of these aspects are harsh. My longest relationship involved a chart like this but with way more more trines and sextiles. There was a lot to learn about the other person which kept it exciting at least...

2,Moon-Uranus. I always look to the moon if you want a stability and commitment, he will NOT be able to give you that.. His uranus is conjunct your moon - you will feel frustrated with him and his instability will **** you off. He might be reliable but he won’t feel comforting to you.

3. Neptune is opposite your mars and loosely conjunct your moon. That is a huge sign that he is going to confuse the crap out of you and be completely vague as you are already experiencing. The more you try to push the more evasive he will become. Do you want to chase all the time? As an aries I can see how you find this exciting.This pattern is not going to get better, it will get worse.
My experience with neptune is exactly what you have said. The guy will say "but I thought....you didn't want to see me" or some other weird reason.


4. Your Pluto to his moon. You find it hard to leave it alone because you want to control him and he will feel manipulated by you. Neither of you will feel that nurtured by the other if it gets going. Neither of you will truly feel comfortable with the other.

5. Moon in aqua doesn’t play it cool if he likes you. The guy that I dated -sun gemini moon aqua expressed very clear interest. Its once they are in a relationship they like having a lot of of space but still they will make their commitment known.

you said : His Nessus is conjunct my Prosperpin, both square my Venus, which is one of the reasons I'm scared.

I agree..you can not predict violence 100%...but nessus is never good.

I would not go.


Thanks so much for putting all of that down for me! It was very well thought out and makes a lot of sense.

Yes, I've noticed the Neptune/Moon and Neptune/Mars aspects, which I've largely attributed to the way this dynamic is playing out. Also just the fact that he has so much Pisces.

The one thing I might challenge in what you said is that Aquarius moon doesn't play it cool if they like you. I definitely feel that he is interested in me, otherwise he would have dropped it a long time ago. He lives 6 hours from me, I'm sure there are plenty of cute girls where he lives. There would be no reason to drag this out for so long if he wasn't interested. I think mainly he is just acutely aware that he doesn't know me after one date. In fact, he said something on our first date that I won't soon forget, "I think you're beautiful, but I can find someone attractive and still hate them." (Of course he didn't say this in a seething way, it was more to say 'I want to actually get to know you before I make any assessments.')

All that said, it doesn't really matter so much if he likes me or not if we are going to be incompatible. I've really just idealized him so much that it's hard to let go at this point.

That's really a shame about Moon/Pluto. Every guy I find myself super attracted to has their moon square my Venus/Pluto opposition.

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wheresthemoon
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posted October 11, 2016 10:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I decided against going to see him. Thanks for the advice everyone.

I don't know what his deal is, but he's shady. I swear I wasn't imagining the whole ordeal! He acted really into me...sometimes. And then really cool and aloof.

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incognito
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posted October 11, 2016 03:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for incognito     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good luck hope you meet someone nice soon <3
If you do end up seeing him protect your heart and keep your eyes open.

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Faith
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posted October 11, 2016 05:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by incognito:
Good luck hope you meet someone nice soon <3
If you do end up seeing him protect your heart and keep your eyes open.

Well said, and ditto from me!

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