posted October 11, 2016 08:19 PM            

If you didn't act on your feelings of attraction for extended periods of time, did you argue with that person?

posted October 12, 2016 02:30 AM            

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Originally posted by llewsacm:
I have it with my partner. We can get argumentative when we are away from each other for a few days yeah. When we are together for a long weekend, all is right with the world. A few days away and then were back to getting antsy and upset with one another.

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posted October 12, 2016 03:03 AM              

I had it with the first love of my life. Trine and sextile. I didn't sleep with him during our relationship, only after. The attraction was initially SUPER strong, but the sex was awful. AWFUL. Like, the worst sex ever! (until now haha) Idk if it was because I waited so long or if maybe I'm not that great with soft aspects. I remember having a double whammy of squares with someone and it wasn't THAT bad.

posted October 12, 2016 11:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
It means your Venus aspects his Mars and his Venus aspects your Mars. That's a DW - double whammy.

I had it with the first love of my life. Trine and sextile. I didn't sleep with him during our relationship, only after. The attraction was initially SUPER strong, but the sex was awful. AWFUL. Like, the worst sex ever! (until now haha) Idk if it was because I waited so long or if maybe I'm not that great with soft aspects. I remember having a double whammy of squares with someone and it wasn't THAT bad.

Yeah, we argued like cats and dogs. And no make up sex. lmao

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posted October 12, 2016 12:49 PM            

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Originally posted by llewsacm:
I have it with my partner. We can get argumentative when we are away from each other for a few days yeah. When we are together for a long weekend, all is right with the world. A few days away and then were back to getting antsy and upset with one another.

You get that way with your SO as well?

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Yesssss!!!

Also, we were living together as "just roommates" while i figured some things out. Ugh, talk about torture. In each other's faces every day, but never even touching because we cant stop once we start lol. I become hostile first (Mars conjunct Uranus in the 5th square my Sun) and then we bicker. He just wants to dote on and take care of me, but I'm too fiesty

As long as we don't spend too much time without physical contact, everything's blissfully perfect.. 2 or 3 days of "not getting any" and I'm like a caged, unsedated tiger lol And I've never been this way with any of my other partners.

We have a square (His Virgo Venus/my Sag Mars) and conjunction (My Aries Venus/his Aries Mars).

With the conjunction in Aries I wonder if that doesn't have something to do with the urgency of the desire.

posted October 12, 2016 12:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
My significant other and I have the trine. We wouldn't argue. Being away from each other made us long for one another, but once we got together... Oh it was hot! We would argue if we were around each other too much lol we both have some Uranian influences in our chart so that's probably why.

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Hmm, maybe Uranus is sticking his nose in there. I'm very Uranian. My SO has some Uranian influences, but Ive got enough of it for both of us lol

posted October 12, 2016 01:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
It means your Venus aspects his Mars and his Venus aspects your Mars. That's a DW - double whammy.

I had it with the first love of my life. Trine and sextile. I didn't sleep with him during our relationship, only after. The attraction was initially SUPER strong, but the sex was awful. AWFUL. Like, the worst sex ever! (until now haha) Idk if it was because I waited so long or if maybe I'm not that great with soft aspects. I remember having a double whammy of squares with someone and it wasn't THAT bad.

Yeah, we argued like cats and dogs. And no make up sex. lmao

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No make up sex!?!? Nooooooo! That will not do! Lol

posted October 14, 2016 03:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
we have the conjunction ( wide) and the opposition in our synastry,
which resulted in a square in the Composite chart

we tear each other down if there is no outlet for our passion. It can get abusive very quickly - verbal and physical attacks ( mutual)

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Thank you, Orange!

My SO and I haven't been together for very long, but I can already see this as a possibilty. Our fights usually came to a point where I'm telling him I want to punch him in the face. Some sort of physical release, even if it isn't exactly a positive one.

I've never experienced this before and it was a little worrisome to me. I was wondering how someone who makes me feel so GOOD just being around him could cause such feelings of, well, hostility and aggression for what seemed like really no reason at all.

And then this struck me. If there is a fine line between love and hate, couldn't there also be a fine line between passionate lovers and hostile enemies? The only thing that really jumped out at me in our synastry that I could give as a cause was this DW.

posted October 14, 2016 03:07 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I have Mars conjunct Venus and looove it when a guy's mars and venus form soft aspects with my Venus and Mars, the sex is great.

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posted October 14, 2016 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Orange, thanks for your brave sharing. You're awesome.

Wishing everybody well. May we find a way to peace and love and balance! It isn't easy to grapple with the dynamic interchange if yin and yang!! But it's primal, visceral, and needful of attention and awareness!

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It definitely isn't the easiest to cope with! Thank you for the well wishes

Sometimes I wonder if people who write about how "blissful" this DW is have ever actually experienced it. Because while it makes for a very passionate union, passion doesn't always mean bliss. I would attribute that more toward a Moon/Venus DW.

posted October 14, 2016 07:46 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I have Mars conjunct Venus and looove it when a guy's mars and venus form soft aspects with my Venus and Mars, the sex is great.

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posted October 14, 2016 07:51 AM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:
Ooo I have to admit, that is one natal placement I envy! Do they aspect the rest of your chart well? Easy aspects from your conjunction to your Sun/Moon?

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posted September 27, 2022 01:38 PM            

Anyway,

husband: Cap Mars, Pisces Venus
me: Cancer Venus, Virgo Mars

posted October 16, 2022 04:50 AM            

All 3 had their mars trine my Venus. This completed my grand trine with Pluto. My mars sextiles their venus. My mars conjuncting my vertex and opposing my lust. Their Venus opposing my mercury/ceres.

My natal draws a bigger picture.

First guy I was in a relationship with for a year and a half. I was 18 and had split with my high school bf for a few months. When we first talked. I knew his brother through a mutual friend. He was over at that friends house when we talked on the phone. At first I was confused because I thought he was his brother as they sounded similar over the phone. When I caught on , I realized he was having some fun and so I played back. We instantly connected and had a fun conversation despite the confusion. He ended up calling me from his brothers phone later that day. We started having lengthy phone conversations that we both enjoyed. He would ask me to come hang out with him, his brother and our friend. I was very forward about not being interested in anything at that moment. He was relentless…kept asking in every which way over the course of regular phone conversations. Each one us learning more about each other. I had recently graduated hs and he was a much older man who was going through a divorce with 2 young kids. I told him I had no business dating a man in that position, that I was just starting my life and where the hell would that lead to? He laughed and was like it’s just a date or hanging out. Anyways flash forward a couple weeks and I’m hanging out with our mutual friend and voila. He’s there and it quickly turns into a date before my eyes. There was an obvious connection. It was incredibly natural and easy conversation and a ton of sexual tension. Though I specifically remember not finding him especially attractive physically. We dated for about a year and a half. We got along extremely well, hardly any disagreements. We lived together most of the time and we domestically meshed so well it was unbelievable. Intimacy was very compatible and we never really could stay off each other. We split because the inevitable..you cannot maintain a relationship,no matter how committed if one still has a life to build (marriage and kids) that they want in the future and the other already had that and wasn’t interested in starting over. Being a young woman that fact would make me incredibly insecure sometimes ,feeling possessive but he was always very sweet about it and never combative. It took time for us to part. But when it did it was sudden,dramatic and we never had contact again. That was very traumatic for me as I tend to hold onto friendships with my exs.

The second was my boss. I had entered a new field of work and I offered him an unpaid internship for a period of time. I was eager to get into a competitive field and he was growing a business. He was owner/operator and did every aspect of the business himself. He had some people that would work through his business but no one he trusted to alleviate his responsibilities to. We clicked right away and it didn’t take long to become comfortable. We had a very friendly relationship where he mentored me and coached me into the position. We spent entire days together, working side by side 7 days a week. From the get go we were intrigued by each other and that led to many deep conversations. Every day we’d go to lunch together and it was great. There was some sexual tension though we both obviously were not each other’s type but I just considered it harmless admiration for each other. Being a married woman there was always a respectful boundary set though we had very comfortable loose conversation. He was older , single and into being an entrepreneur/ inventor. He had no interest in children or marriage and was very adamant about having certain superficial relationships with women. I was a long married woman, extremely content and trying for children. After 3 months At some point this annoyed him as he would criticize my choices compared to his. He began nit picking my work. I was never bothered by his choices so I couldn’t understand his issues with mine. I was far from his type so I didn’t think anything of it. As time went on he became extremely nip picky about everything, he would hawk over my work, stopped having other workers around to where it was always just us. If there was one ,he’d never invite them to lunch with us and if I didn’t want to go to lunch that day he’d get offended. He stopped working while I took over and would just scroll through social media adding certain model types to his friends list. When I’d leave after 12 hour days he’d invite them there and would hook up with them. I’d always see evidence of it the next day but never really asked. It became strange because it became a regular thing. He’d hunt for girls on his computer in the office openly all day and not do work and have them there as soon as I left. When I’d work or be with a client he stopped being involved and after would critique me. He was watching me on the cameras. When the criticism started I was professional but upfront. At 6 months the criticism turned to gaslighting and I was stern about drawing a line there.I was professional but he would say I’m being emotional. He was playing some mind games and they just didn’t add up to what I said or did. I told him looki know you have bad days and you don’t have a partner to sort it out with but if he actually thought I wasn’t doing a good job that I could take the criticism. But he was just circumventing the situation. Soon it grew unbearable and I gave him my notice. During those weeks he was seething. The last day as I was getting ready to go,he asked me to stay. I loved my job otherwise and he promised to pay me from then on. He love bombed me and all was right. Over the next three months it all happened all over again, this time I went grey rock on him as to not feed into it. He hated me for it and tried to get at me in the most personal ways. Evidently he let me go over text when the business was closed for the holidays. He never did pay me and he lost the whole business because he stopped working. The tension never could find a release. I think he hated the tension and attraction towards me. We weren’t either s type but I think as a pretty attractive ego centric male he was offended that I, an average female did not cave into his charm. I think the surfing for model types and hooking up with them was a way for him to try and make me jealous. And me being a content married woman didn’t fulfill his need for attention. He’d always do this weird blousing thing with his shirt to show off his abs and I remember finding it obvious at some point , realizing there was something going on that I was not comfortable with. I never bothered to contact him after that. Once again, unlike me to not keep a boss a friend.

The last one is not someone I know personally. We have been in the same social circle for over 20 years. And even though we’ve never personally had a conversation we’ve brushed elbows a few times. I’ve never gone out of my way to have a conversation. He’s a bit of a public figure in that scene so I just enjoyed his artistry. I suppose for the first half of it I’d say I wasn’t aware of him at a personal capacity what so ever. I remember always having a particular fondness for his craft though that distinguished him from others. Fast forward about 10 years and I see a picture of him and he’s oddly familiar but I didn’t know how to place it. He is pretty matter of factly handsome guy as I had herd but Id never seen him personally that I’d recall so I didn’t think much about it. Some time later I had a strange dream that he made a vague appearance in. It was quite distinguished the dream itself as it was the first time I lucid dreamed. I didn’t even know that was possible. I started researching lucid dreaming and analyzing that process. That led me into the direction of astrology and snowballed into a decade long spiritual journey that I am still on. But go back. The lucidity of my dream was what originally led me there. It wasn’t until I started activity learning astrology until I went back and looked into the components of the dream. Some time into my beginning astrology I looked him up . But I still didn’t even know what I was looking at with the larger geometry and all that jazz. I was a bit all over the place in my early astrological years. Filling in pieces here and there. But I do remember going over aspect charts and reading through the typical cookie cutter aspects and feeling overwhelmed by how dramatic it all sounded. I remember walking away from astrology for 6 months after a bit. It was all aimed at sexual chemistry and I wanted to analyze my dream and explore the concepts of karma and past lives. There were a lot of other people in that dream so it rubbed me wrong to analyze sexual aspects with non sexualized people. In the mean time I was super critical of what I’d read and pushed it off. That was till 6 months later when I was set to attend an event. I went earlier in the day to go buy a ticket, do a bit of shopping and get home long before it started. So I go purchase my ticket and then go on my way shopping in the area. When all of the sudden I go into one of my favorite shops and as soon as I get through the door, I realize he and a group of his friends are at the opposite end of the store. I quickly go the opposite direction down an isle. I remember being really shocked and all the information that I had read flooding back to me.I was so embarrassed that I’d looked up his chart not having known him personally that my instinct was to avoid him. I really wanted to leave the store but did not want to draw any attention to myself. I got a grip and went on my way, focusing myself on the reason for my visit. But sure enough as soon as I relaxed who shows up right behind me. Him. He must have bee lined from the opposite side of the store to right behind me in seconds. I continue down the isle forcing myself to keep looking at the shelves and remain calm. When he got so close i thought for sure he must have known everything I ever read. God he is a Scorpio..sure enough he must have this magical sense of knowing everything In my head. I quickly turned a corner to the next isle. I remember running into the thing I came in there for and stopping. He came around the corner quick on my heels and him practically tripping over me as I was close to the end cap.I just ignored him. He literally stood behind me for the most terrifying few minutes of my life. So close that I could feel his breath on my neck and literally breathing my essence in. I just stood there looking at this box, reading as intently as I possibly could for an awkward amount of time trying to slide to the side as if I was in his way. But he just moved with me. It was as if he was trying to force an introduction and after an exceedingly long time he just brushed his finger down the back of my arm and went on his way. I was dumbfounded.It was electrifying and the sensation lasted for a long time after. He moved on but was watching me very intently. Then a clerk approached me and asked me if I needed help. I remember being bothered by her insistence to help me because I did not want to draw attention to myself but then being thankful that if I carried on the conversation with her that he most likely would not approach. She must have observed the whole incident and truly was trying to help thinking he might be a creep. So her and I ended up having what must have been a 10 minute conversation. She kept asking me my interests and what I was into and I remember telling her my specific hobby interests pertaining to the store. After awhile I think he knew he couldn’t justify lurking there and his friends were heading out the door. I remember him making very strong eye contact and slipping out after them. I just about passed out from embarrassment. I waited a bit longer, paid for my item and planned to go straight home as to not run into him again. I went to the event dressed completely different and tried to blend in. He kept looking in my direction the whole evening and I just ignored him and repeated to myself the whole night, that I made a bigger deal of it in my head than it was . The very next event I did the same but after, I was with my friends and suddenly he is there introducing himself to them. So I just walked away. The one after that he tried to get my attention by publicly referring to me in a way that drew me out in a specific manner and I just ignored it as if I herd nothing. Each and every time Id see him , he would try to subtly get my attention but I’d convince myself it was not happening. I knew that it was not appropriate to acknowledge it after a point. Between the secret knowledge I had of the synastry and the intense and awkward interaction I just couldn’t ever explain without sounding like a complete loon. Over the years I’d learned enough astrology to distinguish some pretty intense configurations, very specific ones the other two guys didn’t have. So it just made things weird for me. I actually feel guilt for looking at his chart without consent. I stopped attending events but still followed up on current events in the community. Occasionally, enjoying pod casts and the such he’d partake in. I remember he once verbatim recited my very odd ,very specific interests I had told the clerk about that one day. He recited them just as I had said them and At that moment I knew it was not in fact all in my head. At some point all I can do is acknowledge there is some heavy karma there and try and grow. I try not to think about it as god has his plan and if things are to play out, I know that it would need happen with integrity and honesty. But that one is distinguished and odd. I still don’t know what to make of it.

So yeah from my experience Venus/mars dw is pretty intense. It needs an outlet or it comes out wrong. Maybe that’s because we all have natal squares between our Venus and mars. And I have Pluto involved , even in a flowing pattern it still shows strong. Mind you all three guys have Nessus conjunct their mars! That’s probably a big reason for the intense reactions on their end. All three acting especially strong in their own ways. All over different periods of time and at different capacities ending in different outcomes.