posted November 02, 2016 06:17 AM            

What is Uranus doing in your own chart?
What sign/ house, and what aspects is it making?

It would be best if you post your chart, but if you don't feel comfortable doing that, then it's ok if you just describe your Uranus placement/s.

posted November 03, 2016 03:50 AM            

There's something that jumps out at me, I don't know whether others would agree.

You have a *tight* Mars-Venus-Pluto conjunction. This is INTENSE. Venus-Pluto is intense, Mars-Pluto is intense, Mars-Venus is intense - and with you, all three are together. Your "relationship" planets (Venus and Mars) are coloured by Pluto's death-rebirth-transformation, all-or-nothing energy. And they're in Libra, the sign of relationships. So, I would guess that in relationships you are *very* Plutonic - you're intense, you want full dedication, you want full intimacy (i.e. you're not happy with superficial relationships, you want to know your partner deeply). And this is all in the 4th House too (which carries "Cancerian" energy), so the arena you're playing this energy out in is the one of family and home. This part of your chart is strongly pulling you towards a monogamous, dedicated, committed relationship, and *might* lead to feelings of possessiveness and obsessiveness.

The sign of Scorpio (ruled by Pluto) is intercepted in your 5H, so the Scorpio energy is struggling to find an outlet. I.e. it's likely that you are projecting it onto partners, wanting to "live out" this part of yourself through other people - which only increases the intensity of your Venus-Mars-Pluto conjunction.

So yes, Uranus right there smack in the middle of Scorpio, and ruling your 8H (naturally associated with Scorpio and Pluto) is what is preventing you from losing yourself in an intense, obsessive relationship. I.e. it's not allowing you to project the Plutonic energy, because that would be dooming for you. Uranus is all about independence and individuality, so it will never allow this type of relationship. I.e. when your Plutonic energy tries to grasp at something/ someone, and hold them tightly, wanting to merge, Uranus goes "No." and makes sure the relationship feels "unstable" and "unavailable", kind of "out of reach", in order to persevere your individuality and self. You mention that in synastry you normally attract Sun-Uranus and Venus-Uranus - I assume this is your Uranus and other people's Suns and Venuses? If so, your Uranus is definitely being very stubborn and won't back off until you get the message.