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TensionEmpire
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posted November 26, 2016 11:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have an issue with girls and I can not understand it, all my past contacts with them have been beautifull, but also strange and in the end sad.
I attract them, they attract me, strongly.
But in the other hand maybe because the energy is big, i tend to repress it also.
Told I was celibate in the age of 19 and was proud of it.
yeah ok I will resume it.
I don`t understand how i goes..

is it me that am a perverted one, that seems to be romantic

or do i have to let this romantic think asside and get perverted?

I have been told I scare them off
I have been told I have to be the star to the girl that would be with me
I have been told I am scared of relationships so I unconsiously choose women that would be a failure anyway

I have Sun opp Uranus and Neptune, so I know nothing...

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted November 26, 2016 11:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
looool no please don't become an a hole

you seem like a super romantic and nice guy (cancer sun, libra AC, pisces moon, what a dreamy combination!)

then you've got venus conjunct mars and also with jupiter in leo in the 11th. you love big and strong and without romance you actually feel ill. I'm sure you're very popular! so please don't sell yourself short or try to let go of your faith/beliefs for the sake of a superficial relationship.

the right person will always show up at the times you need something specific to be provoked in your psyche :-) (for your further personal development of course and not to simply have a girlfriend to show off with )

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TensionEmpire
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posted November 26, 2016 12:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
looool no please don't become an a hole

you seem like a super romantic and nice guy (cancer sun, libra AC, pisces moon, what a dreamy combination!)

then you've got venus conjunct mars and also with jupiter in leo in the 11th. you love big and strong and without romance you actually feel ill. I'm sure you're very popular! so please don't sell yourself short or try to let go of your faith/beliefs for the sake of a superficial relationship.

the right person will always show up at the times you need something specific to be provoked in your psyche :-) (for your further personal development of course and not to simply have a girlfriend to show off with )


Hey, nice of you, saying that I am a nice guy haha
And yeah, I think I feel ill if I`m not romantic.
I know, I thought about editing it afterwards, the a hole think.

But I mean it also in a way, like sometimes I think romantisism is only me dreaming and imagining, the real world is more animal like, like that I miss opportunities by beeing like that.

But what makes me sad is that, girls tend not to explain to you what happened, they don`t speack clear text.

You seem a nice girl also, your last phrase, made sence for me.

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TensionEmpire
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posted November 26, 2016 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
Hey, nice of you, saying that I am a nice guy haha
And yeah, I think I feel ill if I`m not romantic.
I know, I thought about editing it afterwards, the a hole think.

But I mean it also in a way, like sometimes I think romantisism is only me dreaming and imagining, the real world is more animal like, like that I miss opportunities by beeing like that.

But what makes me sad is that, girls tend not to explain to you what happened, they don`t speack clear text.

You seem a nice girl also, your last phrase, made sence for me, provoke is a good word for it.


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posted November 27, 2016 09:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Is it Uranus transiting my 7th house?

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted November 27, 2016 11:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it could be. usually you'll sense the effect of a transit or progression the strongest when the planet is about to leave that house. might be the case with you, uranus causing some turbulence in your relationships.

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posted November 27, 2016 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunarRose     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
But what makes me sad is that, girls tend not to explain to you what happened, they don`t speack clear text.


Have you tried telling THEM this? I've seen guys say things of this nature without ever actually discussing it with the woman involved. I think girls don't say what went wrong b/c they think you don't want or care to know why. What's the worst that can happen if you explicitly ask them what they are thinking, feeling, and what went wrong in the relationship? As a last resort have a mutual pal ask her what went wrong.

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posted November 27, 2016 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunarRose     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
PS whoever is talking to the girl, whether it be you or a mutual friend, should make it clear that you are not angry about the break-up. You are simply confused as to why things happened the way they did and are wondering why the relationship fell apart.

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TensionEmpire
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posted November 27, 2016 01:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LunarRose:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
[b] But what makes me sad is that, girls tend not to explain to you what happened, they don`t speack clear text.

Have you tried telling THEM this? I've seen guys say things of this nature without ever actually discussing it with the woman involved. I think girls don't say what went wrong b/c they think you don't want or care to know why. What's the worst that can happen if you explicitly ask them what they are thinking, feeling, and what went wrong in the relationship? As a last resort have a mutual pal ask her what went wrong.[/B][/QUOTE]

yup, this is what couses my pain, not the first time that out of the nothing a girl starts acting different with me.
it almost seems that it happens on the moment where you think you are in the skys.'
And than I want to figure out what happens but it seems like i lost the moment, and that is it.

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posted November 27, 2016 01:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And yeah, I actually got whatsapp, and said to her with my voice, that i really wanted to talk to her.
I can`t judge nothing, since I do not know the truth

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posted November 28, 2016 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AwakenSky16     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have a lot of plutonic aspects and a scorp pluto... It's generaly about intensity in relationships... I observe venus square pluto, sun and moon trine pluto, mars square pluto, Jupiter, uranus and neptune

I have got to know this ... a lot also and I try to learn about this (venus, mars, sun, jupiter and neptune).
This may be impressive, too heavy for someother .... Maybe this is it ... Intensity is not bearable for everyone and venus square pluto have to work on how it gets on others and these insecurities in love.
Are you quick to engage in a body and soul relationship and say a lot on you (mercure trine moon)?
Does that speak to you a little?

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posted November 29, 2016 05:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by AwakenSky16:
You have a lot of plutonic aspects and a scorp pluto... It's generaly about intensity in relationships... I observe venus square pluto, sun and moon trine pluto, mars square pluto, Jupiter, uranus and neptune

I have got to know this ... a lot also and I try to learn about this (venus, mars, sun, jupiter and neptune).
This may be impressive, too heavy for someother .... Maybe this is it ... Intensity is not bearable for everyone and venus square pluto have to work on how it gets on others and these insecurities in love.
Are you quick to engage in a body and soul relationship and say a lot on you (mercure trine moon)?
Does that speak to you a little?


yeah I am quick I believe, sometimes in under 2 weeks I am thinking too much about a girl alredy, and I have no problems in saying things about me

yeah, eaven if it seems egocentric, I have had the thought if I am not too much for them to face , or too eccentric

but eaven if this would be the case, this woul be only one part of the problem

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colorful butterfly
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posted November 29, 2016 08:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Cancer sun, virgo ascendant, libra moon, mars and venus in gemini. My jupiter conjunct mercury is in my 11th house.... Men seem to be funny to me too. Seems like every time I open up the other person does something to stick thier foot in my chest, it takes me tome to actually warm up to someone to begin with. I've just decided to be about myself and love myself and if someone wants to stick around and be in my life thats great , if not see ya. Plus I got standards and not afraid to say what I think or ask for what I want. You'd think guys would like a girl who trys not to make things complicated and knows what she wants. Nope, they play games and get mad when you call them out on it while trying to make me feel stupid for saying anything about it. I get it two plus two equals five, you've got to carry the one. Right!

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TensionEmpire
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posted November 30, 2016 03:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
yeah I need a time also, but it goes quicklly with me like in the 2 week can alredy be glancing at theyr hand, where 4 days ago it was just a normal hand.
I open my self entirelly, maybe I could fall in love with anyone in the right circumstances
I never tried not to do that..

I dunno, but it is like you said, i don`t get it, something like having to have the overhand

I think it is this uranus sun opp also
maybe I am too misterious and difficult to understand

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AwakenSky16
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posted November 30, 2016 03:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AwakenSky16     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@colorful butterfly : I don't know about cancer guy, but your answer in the post of Liz45750 is interesting...

@TensionEmpire

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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:

I have Sun opp Uranus and Neptune, so I know nothing...

I knew someone with sun square uranus / neptune. He painfully experienced great paradoxes in his affective relationships. Very independent, he wanted never to be a burden on others or depend on him and at the same time he did not want to be alone but chose him by keeping at a distance those who clung to him ... He was a great solitary thinker , Painful with his emotions and thoughts. He could often feel inadequate and full of flaws, while he was just very smart, sensitive (so). I think his fantasy life was very rich and he was deeply romantic. But confrontation with external reality made him too perfectionist, he certainly expected too much of himself and others. He could too quickly and too strongly feel hurt. He often said "it is useless to hope if this is doomed not to succeed" (it was his predictive thinking and therefore he withdrew even though he had great feelings and his affective relationships were deteriorating) . He had a movement in two stages, first he went very quickly on his emotions and then quickly retired externally, in one way or another. The other person then felt lonely and incomprehensible and it broke the relationship that he wanted to maintain. Sigh
A great work on the self-knowledge (and thus the ego), the paradoxical attitudes around the fear of the "dependence", the "commitment" to the other, what one can authorize To show, to reveal then that freedom is necessary, vital, more pleasant without pre-established structure can be a challenge. Find a partner who can adjust to this too ...
(I have sun trine uranus, sextile neptune: I understand and see with empathy what it can give, but my nature aqua sun knows well to negotiate with uranus and the aspect to neptune helps to cushion the hard realities if not without being too blinding.)
Does this example speak more to you a little?


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posted December 02, 2016 03:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
yeah, Awaken, thank you, I resonate with it.
Not that easy I guess

I don`t know how to search for a partner :P

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posted December 02, 2016 06:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had a story with a girl, we met in the bus, and in the same day she gave her number, so i could call her, we wer kind of travelling to the same city, and she had a place to sleep.
I called her, but there she was alredy not that sure, with such a strange situation.
But we tayed the night.
The next day, was all good for me, but i guess since the beginning it wasn`t for her.
and in the end she started to say I was somehow different.
So I started to paranoia about myself also, talked nonesense, thinks i should not say, I am good in doing that.
and in the end i was crying saying that girls aren`t story for me, at this time she felt pitty for me, but she was alredy angry at me.
we had a windy cold night each on his bench and in the morning she did not want to know much about me and I was just on the beginning of my trip, so it was fine for me also.

But I guess this sttroy matches your description

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posted December 03, 2016 04:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AwakenSky16     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just another idea with your reading and looking at your chart ... If you have not yet looked at this ones, see more deeply the aspects of chiron in your natal chart.
Little cook book here but unfortunately , I don't know how to do better for this moment. Take here what is good for you, but I think it will talk to you for a part.
It's the repetition of the same things in our stories that forces us to make a work where we have to go to and as Rainysoul said it's our relationshis with others that make us / obliges us to work on ourself with our strengths and our points Weakness / pain.

Read here :
- Mercury/Chiron Aspects (http://astrofix.net/2011/06/22/mercurychiron-aspects/)
- Aspects Saturne / Chiron : "So I started to paranoia about myself also, talked nonesense, thinks i should not say, I am good in doing that." :
" http://astrofix.net/2011/10/22/saturnchiron-aspects/
- https://cafeastrology.com/articles/chironaspects.html
- http://www.aquarianage.org/west/planets/ch-nat02.html
and there : http://www.azastrologers.org/Articles/ReyerChiron.pdf

I hope that you will take the best for you in these readings

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posted December 10, 2016 06:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks AwakenSky, this aspects i have forgotten, and they make sence.
The think also i have SN in cancer,
I have difficulty to get loose.

I really apreciate your help

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Ami Anne
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posted December 10, 2016 08:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When I read the question, I thought of Chiron and there it is conjunct mercury. Chiron is a weird planet. It acts in strange ways,especially in synastry. People seem to get super, super close fast and then break apart for some small kind of reason. I have many articles on it, if you are interested.

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posted December 10, 2016 08:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Merc/Chiron opposes Saturn which adds a lot of self doubt.

I can see how self doubt can be our biggest enemy.

We kind of define ourselves. We should try to, but it is hard.

In other peoples, if people don't like me, I should not care.

I am me!

When people are like that, they find good relationships cuz their true self is drawn to the true self in another.

I hope what I said makes sense, TE. Tell me what you think

PS This is a work in progress cuz I don't think any person "arrives" while they are on earth!

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posted December 10, 2016 02:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Merc/Chiron opposes Saturn which adds a lot of self doubt.

I can see how self doubt can be our biggest enemy.

We kind of define ourselves. We should try to, but it is hard.

In other peoples, if people don't like me, I should not care.

I am me!

When people are like that, they find good relationships cuz their true self is drawn to the true self in another.

I hope what I said makes sense, TE. Tell me what you think

PS This is a work in progress cuz I don't think any person "arrives" while they are on earth!


yes Ami Anne, it makes sence what you say, what could be better than being yourself

Oh yeah, I can tell a story that matches where I totally changed my actions when the girl said she had not much time for me anymore, It was almost reliefing haha,

at the moment I am over with synastris for a while i guess haha, but thanks Ami

I will concentrade in work! (I wish haha)

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posted December 10, 2016 02:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
and is funny because, I believe peaople that see me would never think i have self doubt with girls, but I actually cannot talk to them when it comes to that haha

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posted December 10, 2016 06:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Ami, I actually had this fast relationship with a girl that is driving me mad.
her kyron trines my jupiter
and my opposes her lilith. eros is cnj, her lilith

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posted December 11, 2016 04:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TensionEmpire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wonder what would happen if i sniffed coke

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