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colorful butterfly
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posted February 01, 2017 10:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've tried to post charts on here but I can not get them to load. If anyone is willing please look at ours and let me know what you think?

I am July 2 1979 at 1235 pm greensboro nc
He is September 21, 1973 at 958 am chapel hill nc

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted February 02, 2017 05:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi there!

these are your charts


off the top of my head I see his mars exactly trine your saturn. very close mars/saturn aspects are very commonplace, and there's an unbreakable attraction between the two, but you as saturn should be careful not to appear critical to him, as he's looking for someone who can encourage him in his endeavours. his mercury conjunct your moon too shows a great telepathic/empathic relationship.

in the composite, there's a beautiful mercury/venus/moon conjunction. beautiful emotional closeness and loving talks between you.

the biggest challenge might be his job, and your financial situation together as a couple.

I hope others chime in as well

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Faith
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posted February 02, 2017 09:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for posting the charts, girlwiththerainysoul.

Hi colorful butterfly,

I'm fascinated by the exact Vertex-node conjunction in composite, with Jupiter-Uranus on the NN in Scorpio. Looks very deep, meaningful, transformative. And this is NN is conjunct his Venus, more or less.

It seems that node conjunctions either repel or attract, so I'm curious how this will play out.

You two have a Jupiter-Jupiter opposition squaring the composite nodes. Since this is all in fixed signs, it makes me wonder whether you will each be too independent or stuck in your ways to forge a cooperative relationship, or if you will be attracted to each other because of that very thing: you each know who you are and bring your own psychological assets.

His sun on your ASC is a major attraction, and I love your moon on his Mercury. His Mars sextile your sun, that's sweet, but his Mars square your Mercury presents a challenge. He might seem overly critical. Also his Saturn is on your Mercury-Mars midpoint...another potential blockage. His Saturn in proximity to your sun could make you feel that he is doing it for your own improvement. And since he has Saturn on the SN, and you have Saturn on the NN, maybe something about his corrections or instructions (if it comes to that) would feel right and helpful.

Waiting for more details before I pick this apart more extensively. The synastry doesn't snap together in a very strong way so it's hard to get a sense of how you two will come together and what themes will start to emerge.

Please don't quote

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colorful butterfly
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posted February 02, 2017 11:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you girl with a rainy soul and Thank you Faith!!! I will keep you both posted as to how things play out. I'm hoping we work well together being he is very attractive to me. He seems very understanding and compassionate. I am just terrified he will change and become something different. Fingers crossed and thank you again you guys!!!!

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colorful butterfly
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posted February 05, 2017 10:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
hi there!


off the top of my head I see his mars exactly trine your saturn. very close mars/saturn aspects are very commonplace, and there's an unbreakable attraction between the two, but you as saturn should be careful not to appear critical to him, as he's looking for someone who can encourage him in his endeavours. his mercury conjunct your moon too shows a great telepathic/empathic relationship.

in the composite, there's a beautiful mercury/venus/moon conjunction. beautiful emotional closeness and loving talks between you.

the biggest challenge might be his job, and your financial situation together as a couple.

I hope others chime in as well


I think I may have his birth time wrong, I think he was born 19:37 hours. On our first date I had put this but thought I had heard him wrong. IDK, only guy I lose myself in. I get so caught up in him because he interest me so much. Very amazing how he just knows things and tapps into me on a deep level. I'm thinking thats the pluto\mercury thing. Mercury trine neptune thing???

Here is how things have went so far: He isn't really interested in having someone serious at the moment because of his lifestyle being really busy and not having the time to put into someone like he would want to. I actually have the same issues myself because of my job and arrangements in my life, I can't be boggled down with someone who needs constant attention because my job is the way it is and then kids etc. I have time but it's like I have time on my time type thing. etc. Although I do have time and want to speak to the other daily, if only briefly etc. Except, I know without seriousness , I am going to get hurt. I've seen it time and time again, so I just decided to get to know him, spend time with him etc. Plus, give me time to tell if he is feeding me a line of crap.

His solar arc chart, his sun is exact on his venus. The day mine hit , I was married on that exact day. I'm sure it's me because of all the recent things in my life but I keep thinking, too good to be true. Where is the catch , he even said the same thing. Funny guy, he keeps me laughing. It's just what if he has a girlfriend somewhere else, what if he is with several girls etc. I actually expect this from men. Anyway, I just think it's best I become a friend first then if things develop go from there, we'll see. What I don't get is like ok, you don't have room for it now but what about in a few years etc? Plus I have seen guys do this to girls and then, boom they are in a relationship right after they broke that poor girls heart!!! Why, all because she let him! I refuse anymore for this to happen to me!!! LIKE NO!!!!!! Problem is guys lie, say whatever I wanna hear then do the total opposite??????? Atleast he is honest to me. Ughhhh , help please!

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted February 05, 2017 12:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by colorful butterfly:

I keep thinking, too good to be true. Where is the catch , he even said the same thing....what if he has a girlfriend somewhere else, what if he is with several girls etc.... I just think it's best I become a friend first then if things develop go from there, we'll see...What I don't get is like ok, you don't have room for it now but what about in a few years etc?...Problem is guys lie, say whatever I wanna hear then do the total opposite??????? Atleast he is honest to me. Ughhhh , help please!

dear colorful butterfly,

your situation with this man is certainly very neptunian. you can see different neptune aspects in both the synastry and composite. neptune isn't always bad but there is definitely some fogginess, and paralysis of action and making decisions because of uncertainty which it causes. like you ask yourself, this is too good to be true, we see the composite sun trine neptune, yet square venus which at the same time makes the two of you wonder if this is all real. your saturn is square his neptune too and to you he feels like this dream which shatters the foundations of your normal life, you (your saturn) refuse to lose your normal life/kids etc for the sake of this dream which may or may not be fulfilled.

all you feel is valid and you shouldn't beat yourself up about why you're questioning this thing, after all this is how this synastry and composite are making you feel.

being friends first with him is definitely a great idea. but if you're deciding on whether or not you should let your heart go, go with your gut. life is too short no to not show love and support to the people who make us feel this way.

have you talked to him about your feelings? I mean if you feel like you have fallen for him, it would be hard to stay in the friend zone.

the composite saturn square jupiter, that is a tough one...different ideals, beliefs and lifestyles.

the composite mercury square saturn, makes it too hard to keep an honest conversation...you may keep secrets from him and he may do the same.

but like I said, even if you don't feel like it's going to last romantically, you can have him as a friend, and who knows maybe this guy was supposed to show up in your life and shatter your feelings a bit!

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colorful butterfly
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posted February 05, 2017 11:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
dear colorful butterfly,

your situation with this man is certainly very neptunian. you can see different neptune aspects in both the synastry and composite. neptune isn't always bad but there is definitely some fogginess, and paralysis of action and making decisions because of uncertainty which it causes. like you ask yourself, this is too good to be true, we see the composite sun trine neptune, yet square venus which at the same time makes the two of you wonder if this is all real. your saturn is square his neptune too and to you he feels like this dream which shatters the foundations of your normal life, you (your saturn) refuse to lose your normal life/kids etc for the sake of this dream which may or may not be fulfilled.

all you feel is valid and you shouldn't beat yourself up about why you're questioning this thing, after all this is how this synastry and composite are making you feel.

being friends first with him is definitely a great idea. but if you're deciding on whether or not you should let your heart go, go with your gut. life is too short no to not show love and support to the people who make us feel this way.

have you talked to him about your feelings? I mean if you feel like you have fallen for him, it would be hard to stay in the friend zone.

the composite saturn square jupiter, that is a tough one...different ideals, beliefs and lifestyles.

the composite mercury square saturn, makes it too hard to keep an honest conversation...you may keep secrets from him and he may do the same.

but like I said, even if you don't feel like it's going to last romantically, you can have him as a friend, and who knows maybe this guy was supposed to show up in your life and shatter your feelings a bit!


I am going to talk to him, I think tonight he should have somewhat of a clue of how passionate I am. I just told him I don't want to be second to anyone else and he said we would talk.

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colorful butterfly
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posted February 05, 2017 11:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If it's neptune then I will watch his actions, those always tell the truth no matter what. Like today he had a Super Bowl party and I am guessing it's too soon to invite me to things like that although I was going to invite him out with some of my friends, they just had canceled plans. Although I understand logically , I still am not buying it. No call, no text for a day or so then get a text, I don't really hear from him at night. Although he did say he was busy with his kids and I would not take from that. I just don't know how to feel on it and too soon I guess, I just let him know I don't care to stand in line, either I am everything or nothing. Fine by me, it's better to be wanted than had, then had and not wanted. I want him to be something serious and get to know him more but he said we would talk about it.

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colorful butterfly
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posted February 09, 2017 12:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for colorful butterfly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
dear colorful butterfly,

your situation with this man is certainly very neptunian. you can see different neptune aspects in both the synastry and composite. neptune isn't always bad but there is definitely some fogginess, and paralysis of action and making decisions because of uncertainty which it causes. like you ask yourself, this is too good to be true, we see the composite sun trine neptune, yet square venus which at the same time makes the two of you wonder if this is all real. your saturn is square his neptune too and to you he feels like this dream which shatters the foundations of your normal life, you (your saturn) refuse to lose your normal life/kids etc for the sake of this dream which may or may not be fulfilled.

all you feel is valid and you shouldn't beat yourself up about why you're questioning this thing, after all this is how this synastry and composite are making you feel.

being friends first with him is definitely a great idea. but if you're deciding on whether or not you should let your heart go, go with your gut. life is too short no to not show love and support to the people who make us feel this way.

have you talked to him about your feelings? I mean if you feel like you have fallen for him, it would be hard to stay in the friend zone.

the composite saturn square jupiter, that is a tough one...different ideals, beliefs and lifestyles.

the composite mercury square saturn, makes it too hard to keep an honest conversation...you may keep secrets from him and he may do the same.

but like I said, even if you don't feel like it's going to last romantically, you can have him as a friend, and who knows maybe this guy was supposed to show up in your life and shatter your feelings a bit!


So how about this for neptune, I never got his last name nor did he ever ask me for mine. I thought ok, we are just meeting so in time type thing. I did however get his middle name. So I googled what I had. Turns out he maybe married! He never mentioned it, he just said he had his kids every other week. So I wondered why he only seems to talk up to certain hours and he has no time for a relationship etc. I just have no idea what to think but it looks very clear he has a wife. Just things add up that this explains everything and defiantly makes more sense to things to some degree. I hopefully will talk to him, if he does ,he does, I won't be a threat but I defiantly see myself not getting involved with him. He said there was no one else but why not tell me? I had told him I had been married and divorced before. Hopefully there is something that I am not aware of and I am going to be really embarrassed by. It's just I have been told so many lies by men.

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