posted February 25, 2017 01:44 PM
Saturn-Venus aspects can be tough- as there is one way Venus sees as expressing affection and Saturn is not always on the same page.Venus may be more exhibitionist for shy Saturn. And Saturn may be too restrained for "please touch me/compliment me" Venus.
I have Saturn-Venus conjunct nataly and from my own experience I can say that I can be very hard on myself.
The reason may be that people have often withheld affection from me? That perhaps I have always felt that minimalism is best when it comes to expressing love/affection? Or I feel that affection has to be earned by being perfect/flawless?
Whatever the cause,it has made me seem very independent from needing love/romance.So I am not seen as someone "lonely" or "romantic" etc. Like love is only an afterthought and nothing more.
What I have also noticed is that this view tends to extend towards those whom I have Saturn-Venus aspects with i.e.
If I am the Saturn person, I am the one who withholds affection or just doesn't show "I care" enough. And the Moon/Sun or Venus person complains.
If I am Venus/Moon/Sun, I feel like it is the other person i.e Saturn who doesn't show me enough affection or is indifferent to me
But as I get older, I have learned to distinguish between movie love and real life love. Saturn is real life and Venus is movie.
So many times aspects between partners involving these two planets suggest to me that there is a fundamental cross-wire as to what the other would like to get and what the partner ends up giving.
Saturn doesn't use up its emotional reserves, unless it is absolutely necessary. Much like the government would not legislate martial law-unless there was a state of emergency(hopefully).
But Venus often wants that "all consuming" affection and love. When especially in more bodacious signs like fire or emotional signs like water.
So its really a case of Venus trying all sorts of things to get Saturn to "feel". And Saturn reserving the depth of their feelings only when in crises mode i.e when the partner asserts that they are leaving or a breakup seems imminent etc.
Often it does happen that despite Saturn's austere nature and "coldness", these people end up attracting mates in as frequently as Jupiter does.But for very differing reasons.
Naturally as people,we are up-lifters and we hate to see another sad/suffering or in pain.
But one thing that we should perhaps ask when we do feel the need to "help" another is; did the individual ask for assistance? Or is it us who assume that assistance is needed?
Also,how much of our own happiness will we have to "give up" in order to help another find theirs?
My advice,Saturn is heavy and depressive. You can't hope to sympathize/empathize enough with someone to get him to love himself and you in a way that makes you feel good.
The best way to move forward is to be yourself and be as happy as you can be.
What will happen is that if he wants to be with you(which you have no say or control in by the way),he will try and gravitate to your level.
He will want you to rendezvous with the best part of him. And because you are not sad, depressed and beating up on yourself, he will find it hard to think of you in times that he wants to be sad/depressed.
As cliche as it sounds, it is true that we teach people how to treat us really. For they cannot consistently show their "spiteful" side if we are not in some type of emotional reverence with their negative emotional state :It just does not happen as happy,loving people don't attract emotional vampires.
But it is possible for happy people to feel guilt that they have been having an "easy" life and then take "pity" on those that are having a hard time etc.
But contrary to popular belief , "pity" does not help but hinder another really. Because you affirm the legitimate nature of where they are. You affirm the "what is". And if you do that, you tell them that this is the best possible existence they can hope for.
But if you live your own life for yourself and be happy. That message hits home. Because it is really through the example of living your life as a fulfilled happy person that they may be inspired to emulate.
Good luck!