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Topic: I'm falling for my boss!
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moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 01, 2017 05:32 PM
*Edited*Hi guys, I'm feeling quite overwhelmed by intense feelings and would really like some of your opinions I am beginning to develop strong feelings for my boss and I am almost so sure it is mutual because I feel it so strongly and there have been moments where I'm sure she has too but nothing had been said. Would love some of your ideas! Thanks xx
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moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 01, 2017 05:53 PM
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colorful butterfly Knowflake Posts: 1222 From: Durham north carolina usa Registered: May 2015
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posted April 01, 2017 06:35 PM
I do not want to put a damper on you and please follow your heart but as a side bench obeserver who doesn't know either of you or situation. My advice is objective but this is a bad idea in my mind, it's nice when things are all lovey dovey but when they are not, it is baddddd and then you carry that to work enviroment. Her being your boss too has a certain power over you and if things don't go well, she could use that for your detriment. Again she may be mother Theresa and all that but I don't know her so this is strictly just saying from a logical standpoint and personal experience of dating a coworker. IP: Logged |
Lerena Knowflake Posts: 668 From: Registered: May 2015
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posted April 01, 2017 08:43 PM
I generally don't comment on synastry charts, because I lack the experience when interpreting them, but that composite Chiron in 7th house is a bad sign.This is just based on rectification of my parents' charts, but If my rectifications are anywhere near accurate, my parents have composite Chiron in 7th house and they are both divorced and no longer romantically involved with each other. Even if something does happen, it's not likely to be good long-term. IP: Logged |
moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 02, 2017 05:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by colorful butterfly: I do not want to put a damper on you and please follow your heart but as a side bench obeserver who doesn't know either of you or situation. My advice is objective but this is a bad idea in my mind, it's nice when things are all lovey dovey but when they are not, it is baddddd and then you carry that to work enviroment. Her being your boss too has a certain power over you and if things don't go well, she could use that for your detriment. Again she may be mother Theresa and all that but I don't know her so this is strictly just saying from a logical standpoint and personal experience of dating a coworker.
Thank you for your caring reply, I am one who tends to just follow my heart and not really think about the consequences! I do rose tint things and it must be my venus in Scorpio but when I fall I fall so hard! I would never make a move - unless she did first ha :P but for now maybe I should try and step out of the situation and use my head for once and think about it! Thank you! x IP: Logged |
moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 02, 2017 05:34 AM
quote: Originally posted by Lerena: I generally don't comment on synastry charts, because I lack the experience when interpreting them, but that composite Chiron in 7th house is a bad sign.This is just based on rectification of my parents' charts, but If my rectifications are anywhere near accurate, my parents have composite Chiron in 7th house and they are both divorced and no longer romantically involved with each other. Even if something does happen, it's not likely to be good long-term.
Thanks for your reply!I myself usually focus more on synastry than composite - but having our chiron in 7th house would likely mean painful wounds but also great healing?
You see the thing is I think we are past the painful stage of chiron - or does chiron repeat itself? This has been a friendship that we've both learned about ourselves through. Quite healing I think.
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meyray Knowflake Posts: 770 From: Registered: Oct 2012
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posted April 02, 2017 07:08 AM
You might want to look for answers about this situation not in your synastry but in your own chart.I've seen this kind of thing manifest in people with the same chart patterns (and even with one person who has the same chart as you) You have Capricorn Moon and 9H Venus/Jupiter close to the MC - these are placements that cannot resist the allure of maturity and wisdom. It's not uncommon for a person like this to fall for teachers, bosses and authority figures. I first thought you might have Venus/Saturn too but they don't look like they're in orb for an aspect. That also adds to the mix and often means people are attracted to age-gap romances. Try asking yourself what made you develop feeling for your boss. Look for where your feelings are coming from - is it from her, herself or from what she represents to you and how you see her?
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 3983 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 02, 2017 09:21 AM
I agree with what has been said.You have your Jupiter opposing her Sun Your Nep trine her Sun This may be where some of the idealization is borne from. Her Uranus conjuncts your Sun This aspect almost certainly guarantees a discontinuance between she and you. The Uranus person extends further on and outward from the Sun person. Your Mars opposes her Moon Your Jupiter/Venus opposes her Sun Her Venus/Mars opposes your Moon. Her Mercury opposes your Sun. There is a strong attraction with Ven,Mars,Jupiter and Moon involved here. No doubt. Both Taurus/Libra are strongly Venus unfluenced and respond most favourably to niceties. Not to mention that Libra can be extra idealistic- a crush can easy develop. With all that being said,I would apply caution. There is that Pluto(hers)/Moon (yours)square to contend with- and this may further emphasize the disproportionate nature of the relationship Moon-Pluto associations seem to consistently bring up strong emotions from both. But the Moon person is vulnerable to Pluto's whims. And Pluto can be unkind Good luck IP: Logged |
moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 02, 2017 10:04 AM
quote: Originally posted by meyray: You might want to look for answers about this situation not in your synastry but in your own chart.I've seen this kind of thing manifest in people with the same chart patterns (and even with one person who has the same chart as you) You have Capricorn Moon and 9H Venus/Jupiter close to the MC - these are placements that cannot resist the allure of maturity and wisdom. It's not uncommon for a person like this to fall for teachers, bosses and authority figures. I first thought you might have Venus/Saturn too but they don't look like they're in orb for an aspect. That also adds to the mix and often means people are attracted to age-gap romances. Try asking yourself what made you develop feeling for your boss. Look for where your feelings are coming from - is it from her, herself or from what she represents to you and how you see her?
Oh wow, all that you have written is very true, I do fall for mature and intellectual women. IP: Logged |
moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 02, 2017 10:08 AM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: I agree with what has been said.You have your Jupiter opposing her Sun Your Nep trine her Sun This may be where some of the idealization is borne from. Her Uranus conjuncts your Sun This aspect almost certainly guarantees a discontinuance between she and you. The Uranus person extends further on and outward from the Sun person. Your Mars opposes her Moon Your Jupiter/Venus opposes her Sun Her Venus/Mars opposes your Moon. Her Mercury opposes your Sun. There is a strong attraction with Ven,Mars,Jupiter and Moon involved here. No doubt. Both Taurus/Libra are strongly Venus unfluenced and respond most favourably to niceties. Not to mention that Libra can be extra idealistic- a crush can easy develop. With all that being said,I would apply caution. There is that Pluto(hers)/Moon (yours)square to contend with- and this may further emphasize the disproportionate nature of the relationship Moon-Pluto associations seem to consistently bring up strong emotions from both. But the Moon person is vulnerable to Pluto's whims. And Pluto can be unkind Good luck
Thanks for the reply and best wishes. Maybe I should try learn to be happy with what we have. It's just so difficult to stop the longing for more. Especially when time seems to stand still when we're together sometimes.. oh I really am a love sick fool! IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 3983 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 02, 2017 11:41 AM
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 78265 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 06, 2017 11:18 AM
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todd Knowflake Posts: 1355 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted April 07, 2017 06:56 PM
girl you done fell for your boss. Venus square the Uranus/Jupiter midpoint is electric, intense and usually immediate. this is a very emotionally obsessive aspect as the relationship takes over all your thoughts and feelings.but there are two obvious red flags.....this is an office relationship which is usually not a good idea because if.when you fall out of love then you still have to re around each other, secondly she is your boss and there can be a fine line between attraction and coercions . I bring this point up because pluto is square the vertex which shows a very strong selfish streak in the relationship.so if things go south ,there will be no compassion afterwards in spite of the amazing sensitivity that you feel now. with Sappho square to mars opposed to Saturn and square to the moon, the feminine love between you is obvious but Saturn's influence can be very dominating and it's effect is opposite to Uranus's affect, hence the relationship will not be smooth but will be prone to ups and downs. with a strong Uranus in the same composite, the relationship can become bipolar. heaven alternating with hell. it just seems you are putting yourself or rather your job jeopardy . todd IP: Logged |
moonlight swan Knowflake Posts: 74 From: On top of the world Registered: Jun 2015
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posted April 17, 2017 06:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Any updates?
Update! The intensity of my feelings have relaxed somewhat or I've learned to control them more. There definitely is a spark though that I can't be imagining. I'm not going to act on it now but once I'm finished my job I might! I feel too strongly to let it go
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