posted January 10, 2014 06:41 AM            

Do you see mars aspects as a constructive war, that leads to agreement? Or do you see it as something violent, destructive and impossible to have in a good synastry?

I've experienced the sun-square mars with a lot of people, not lovers. There always seem to be a harsh tone between us, and it's like we are just out of sync. We just doesn't wan't to do the same things at the same time.

With the moon opposition mars I've experienced that arguments can blow up so fast that no one is able to stop it no matter what. And afterwards there is only a little chance that the relationship can be healed, cause of the harsh words that was said.

With mars square uranus and pluto I've experienced some of the worst things with people. It seems like these people just want's to completely destroy me if we have an argument.

posted January 11, 2014 11:27 PM            

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Originally posted by birdy:
It really depends on what your individual chart needs. Everyone handles the energies differently.

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I agree with this, particularly because I have experienced mars squares in synastry that proved to be beneficial, but it all depends on the individuals in context.
For example, I have mars square mercury DW with a gemini, while with some people the harsh combativeness puts them on edge, I found that he rather enjoys the verbal sparring that comes about between us. We find it to be exciting as we challenge eachother's ideas with war-like ardor which takes our productivity to greater heights.

posted January 11, 2014 11:49 PM            

To say that this got 'bad' would be a huge understatement.

But his Mars is also square Saturn in natal (which is on my own Mars)... and both of our generational Neptunes in Cap are thrown into the mix.

I took the first exit and I really think I averted a huge drama.

:edit: I also had Sun square Mars and Mars/Pluto aspects in other synastries - but nothing came close to how aggressive Mars square Mars was ... Just *yikes*.
In a sense we both also had the best intentions and we still couldn't stand each other ultimately.. which is even weirder.

posted January 13, 2014 07:03 PM            

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Originally posted by arcturiann:
I agree with this, particularly because I have experienced mars squares in synastry that proved to be beneficial, but it all depends on the individuals in context.
For example, I have mars square mercury DW with a gemini, while with some people the harsh combativeness puts them on edge, I found that he rather enjoys the verbal sparring that comes about between us. We find it to be exciting as we challenge eachother's ideas with war-like ardor which takes our productivity to greater heights.

Of course there are other harmonious aspects to which this square adds kind of a spice to rather than ruining the whole dish, I can imagine if there were too many dissonant aspects with not enough harmonious ones to lessen the blow it can become very difficult. The context of the natal charts should also be taken into account, as for example I have mars making quintiles to mercury, moon, and the north node in my natal chart, which contributes to my enjoying competitive exchange with others, so long as it is a fun playful competitiveness rather than one where someone is clearly trying to damage the other person in an attempt to be the victor.

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posted January 13, 2014 07:58 PM            

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Originally posted by crabbypatty:
Mercury conjunct mars. My mother has this in her natal. She is literally the most argumentative person I have ever met in 44 years on this planet (this go-around). She MUST disagree with everyone and make it a huge point to do so and challenge the person. But she also has sun conjunct mercury, so I don't know, maybe that amps it up.

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posted April 05, 2017 08:49 PM            

We also have mars-saturn DW (square and opposition)

mars-pluto DW (conjunction and square.)

Mars-jupiter DW. (sextiles)

My mars conjuncts his ASC.

His mars is in my 4th.

Sun-mars quincunx at 1 degree. (I am mars)

Moon-mars square. (I am mars)

In our composite we have mars-uranus, mars-neptune squares. mars-jupiter conjunction. Mars and Jupiter in the 8th, Uranus/ Neptune in the 11th. Mars trine ASC.

We argue, but I believe our Sun-Venus DW and mars-Jupiter DW really helps smooth things over. Our fights get pretty intense, but nowhere near as bad as the exact mercury-mars conjunction I had in my first serious relationship. I will say we do tend to provoke each other or say things just to get a reaction, but to doesn't get outrageous.

It depends on an individual's tolerance level.

All of my horribly destructive relationships involved Pluto and Saturn to Sun. Rarely mars is the culprit unless it's my own.

Mars-mars is definitely frustrating. We grind each other's gears sometimes, but make up just as quickly.

He's a Cancer Sun, Virgo Moon.
I am a Scorpio Sun, Libra Moon.

posted April 11, 2017 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Mars also equals passion.

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posted April 11, 2017 11:59 PM            

There is no 'war' between us. We have a happy, enjoyable relationship characterized by lots of laughs, daily humor. There is give-and-take, sometimes of the edgy type, but it is never mean-spirited.

Mature, spiritually developed people can handle hard Mars aspects in synastry,even with Pluto IF the overall synastry is mostly positive, as Linda Goodman indicated is necessary in her book Relationship Signs, especially when reinforced by Moon-Venus or Moon-Jupiter aspects or the like (one of which we have).

Most of the time younger people cannot handle the hard Mars and Mars-Pluto aspects, and egoists never can. Linda Goodman wrote that it takes a saint -- sorta, but not necessarily. You just need to be fully committed, not a fair weather partner, and live by the Golden Rule.

posted April 13, 2017 07:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
My wife's Mars 20° Pisces is opposite both my Asc 17° Virgo and my Pluto 25° Virgo. There is no violence or unfair fighting -- no pattern of fighting at all, actually. We occasionally have disagreements which we resolve well, because we are reasonably mature people in our 40s who waited a long time for this marriage.

There is no 'war' between us. We have a happy, enjoyable relationship characterized by lots of laughs, daily humor. There is give-and-take, sometimes of the edgy type, but it is never mean-spirited.

Mature, spiritually developed people can handle hard Mars aspects in synastry,even with Pluto [b]IF the overall synastry is mostly positive, as Linda Goodman indicated is necessary in her book Relationship Signs, especially when reinforced by Moon-Venus or Moon-Jupiter aspects or the like (one of which we have).

Most of the time younger people cannot handle the hard Mars and Mars-Pluto aspects, and egoists never can. Linda Goodman wrote that it takes a saint -- sorta, but not necessarily. You just need to be fully committed, not a fair weather partner, and live by the Golden Rule.

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posted April 18, 2017 03:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
My wife's Mars 20° Pisces is opposite both my Asc 17° Virgo and my Pluto 25° Virgo. There is no violence or unfair fighting -- no pattern of fighting at all, actually. We occasionally have disagreements which we resolve well, because we are reasonably mature people in our 40s who waited a long time for this marriage.

There is no 'war' between us. We have a happy, enjoyable relationship characterized by lots of laughs, daily humor. There is give-and-take, sometimes of the edgy type, but it is never mean-spirited.

Mature, spiritually developed people can handle hard Mars aspects in synastry,even with Pluto [b]IF the overall synastry is mostly positive, as Linda Goodman indicated is necessary in her book Relationship Signs, especially when reinforced by Moon-Venus or Moon-Jupiter aspects or the like (one of which we have).

Most of the time younger people cannot handle the hard Mars and Mars-Pluto aspects, and egoists never can. Linda Goodman wrote that it takes a saint -- sorta, but not necessarily. You just need to be fully committed, not a fair weather partner, and live by the Golden Rule.

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posted April 18, 2017 06:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
My wife's Mars 20° Pisces is opposite both my Asc 17° Virgo and my Pluto 25° Virgo. There is no violence or unfair fighting -- no pattern of fighting at all, actually. We occasionally have disagreements which we resolve well, because we are reasonably mature people in our 40s who waited a long time for this marriage.

There is no 'war' between us. We have a happy, enjoyable relationship characterized by lots of laughs, daily humor. There is give-and-take, sometimes of the edgy type, but it is never mean-spirited.

Mature, spiritually developed people can handle hard Mars aspects in synastry,even with Pluto [b]IF the overall synastry is mostly positive, as Linda Goodman indicated is necessary in her book Relationship Signs, especially when reinforced by Moon-Venus or Moon-Jupiter aspects or the like (one of which we have).

Most of the time younger people cannot handle the hard Mars and Mars-Pluto aspects, and egoists never can. Linda Goodman wrote that it takes a saint -- sorta, but not necessarily. You just need to be fully committed, not a fair weather partner, and live by the Golden Rule.

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