posted April 09, 2017 03:41 AM            

I recently met a man and we get on quite well (he works with my bf), we were talking about his relationship (I inquired as to where his wife was...he said she was away on the weekend...and that their wedding was in July). I asked him how did he know she was "the one?" His reply was that "the one doesn't exist." I then asked why were you getting married? He replied that they had been together long enough (7 years), and get along."

posted April 09, 2017 06:40 AM            

I actually have felt this way with an ex in my past, we were together 5 years and I loved him, but I wasn't "in love." I also would have married him because we were together so long and he fed my need for security (Cap Moon). I don't know if I believe in "the one" (I at least like the idea of it) but I also know in my heart of hearts that getting along and being with someone long enough doesn't create a situation in which you're happy (which is prob why both my ex and I cheated on each other...he had a Cap Venus).

posted April 09, 2017 08:49 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl200:
What dominant (sign) or Moon sign (I assume Moon sign as we are talking emotions and not relationship style) would be the most likely to say the is the one doesn't exist?

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there may be more than a few elements in a chart which makes people realistic and practical

plus, it's my personal opinion and experience, but most men think so

women tend to be much more into the idea of "love" and "the one", although definitely not all women

often it's a sense of fear of losing security and the need to find that man who takes care of you which disguises itself in the form of the idea of "the one" or "soulmate"

especially the sign of cancer may be more prone to illusions of soulmates or the one, because it's the moon which seeks security... I find that overall scorpio and pisces are more careful in love

I have yet to meet a man who openly states he wants to find or has found "the one"

actually I know one man, who got treated awfully by this woman but after nearly 10 years refuses to let go..he's actually a narcissistic person himself with a huge need to control

his moon is heavily afflicted, it's in leo, square scorpio mars, pluto, inconjunt cap saturn, neptune and uranus, and opposite aquarius venus

earth moons are quite practical and realistic

fire moons may find the idea of the one interesting, but sag and aries are often quick to change partners, leo moon might be more loyal

air moons, overall detached from emotions..between them only libra may find a need to have a partner to please...but again it doesn't guarantee their loyalty

posted April 09, 2017 10:45 AM            

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Originally posted by colorful butterfly:
I have sun in Cancer and a Libra moon. Although I have emotions and able to love someone, I don't believe in being in love or the one. I believe there is the one you marry and that you decided to spend the rest of your life with at least that is the plan to. I think that real love goes like this: You get 2 years of the OMG I can't live without this person ( infatuation stage) Then you get years of love\hate for that person, where 5 years later your between picking their underwear off the floor or wrapping them around their head because your tired of saying don't leave your underwear on the FLOOR!!!! Yet, they continue to do so. Then After many years together , you just look at their underwear pick them up and love them anyway because it is just who they are.

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posted April 09, 2017 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

there may be more than a few elements in a chart which makes people realistic and practical

plus, it's my personal opinion and experience, but most men think so

women tend to be much more into the idea of "love" and "the one", although definitely not all women

often it's a sense of fear of losing security and the need to find that man who takes care of you which disguises itself in the form of the idea of "the one" or "soulmate"

especially the sign of cancer may be more prone to illusions of soulmates or the one, because it's the moon which seeks security... I find that overall scorpio and pisces are more careful in love

I have yet to meet a man who openly states he wants to find or has found "the one"

actually I know one man, who got treated awfully by this woman but after nearly 10 years refuses to let go..he's actually a narcissistic person himself with a huge need to control

his moon is heavily afflicted, it's in leo, square scorpio mars, pluto, inconjunt cap saturn, neptune and uranus, and opposite aquarius venus

earth moons are quite practical and realistic

fire moons may find the idea of the one interesting, but sag and aries are often quick to change partners, leo moon might be more loyal

air moons, overall detached from emotions..between them only libra may find a need to have a partner to please...but again it doesn't guarantee their loyalty

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posted April 10, 2017 03:06 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

there may be more than a few elements in a chart which makes people realistic and practical

plus, it's my personal opinion and experience, but most men think so

women tend to be much more into the idea of "love" and "the one", although definitely not all women

often it's a sense of fear of losing security and the need to find that man who takes care of you which disguises itself in the form of the idea of "the one" or "soulmate"

especially the sign of cancer may be more prone to illusions of soulmates or the one, because it's the moon which seeks security... I find that overall scorpio and pisces are more careful in love

I have yet to meet a man who openly states he wants to find or has found "the one"

actually I know one man, who got treated awfully by this woman but after nearly 10 years refuses to let go..he's actually a narcissistic person himself with a huge need to control

his moon is heavily afflicted, it's in leo, square scorpio mars, pluto, inconjunt cap saturn, neptune and uranus, and opposite aquarius venus

earth moons are quite practical and realistic

fire moons may find the idea of the one interesting, but sag and aries are often quick to change partners, leo moon might be more loyal

air moons, overall detached from emotions..between them only libra may find a need to have a partner to please...but again it doesn't guarantee their loyalty

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I wish a man would comment on this topic. I actually question how happy someone like this is (they may not be unhappy per se). It's not to say that you need to have this grand love story that is full of passion and drama, but if I knew that my future husband was telling a single woman the reason he was getting married was because they had been together long enough (and get along) I would be quite hurt if not a tad bit offended. And I'd be willing all of you wouldn't want your husband or SO to say that to another woman as well. Websites such as Ashley Madison exist for a reason (men tend to cheat more than women) so perhaps the idea of marrying someone that you get along with is a great one, but how is that emotionally fulfilling in the long turn.

posted April 10, 2017 03:15 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

...especially the sign of cancer may be more prone to illusions of soulmates or the one, because it's the moon which seeks security... I find that overall scorpio and pisces are more careful in love

...earth moons are quite practical and realistic

fire moons may find the idea of the one interesting, but sag and aries are often quick to change partners, leo moon might be more loyal

air moons, overall detached from emotions..between them only libra may find a need to have a partner to please...but again it doesn't guarantee their loyalty

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I gotta disagree with you on the statement that Scorpio and Pisces don't do soul mates and that it is Cancer who is prone to disillusions.

Scorpio is driven by emotions and passion (for better or worse), not practicality or even balance. My Scorpio Moon bf (who is an Aquarius Sun/Mer/Mars) thought the response was messed up because it implies that the person is basically surrendering to commitment as opposed to feeling/desiring it mind, body, and soul. So they are careful but will consider the person that they do mesh with body, mind, and soul a soul mate. As far as Pisces (and the Neptune influenced)...the planet Neptune is notorious for seeing and believing in a fairy tale...of all people they would be the most to believe in "the one." In fact think about Liz Taylor, and the many marriages she had...that right there is a typical Pisces archetype. In fact think about Neptune in synastry. Ever had Moon or Venus Conjunct Neptune in synastry? Trust me you end up thinking the person is the one and/or perfect...and it feels good. Now take that Venus or Moon Neptune synastry aspect and make it a Square...well you could end up with a whole lot of disillusionment.

Also just because a person is an Aries or Sag Moon doesn't mean they are more quick to change partners than others.

posted April 10, 2017 03:35 AM            

so if he was not meant to marry someone, he would get stopped

posted April 27, 2017 06:42 AM            

The most surprising part is he is (drum roll lol) a Cancer Moon! This surprised me to no end!!!!

Here are his placements:
Asc Unknown
Sun Libra Conjunct Saturn in Libra
Moon in Cancer Square Pluto
Mercury in Scorpio
Venus in Leo Square Uranus
Mars in Scorpio Conjunct Uranus
Jupiter in Libra
Saturn in Libra
Uranus in Sag
Neptune in Sag
Pluto in Libra

***As you can see there is zero Earth to the point where one would proclaim that "the one" doesn't exist or that the reason they are getting married is because they get along with the person (the Sun Conjunction to Saturn isn't enough for that). Esp when that person is Cancer/water influenced.

I actually think he is an Earth rising (I'm leaning towards Cap...he is close to his father and is very very hard working...and does the typical Cap male influenced thing of talking about their work goals etc. I also initially thought he was a Cap Moon). He is far too emotionally practical to not have an Earth Rising with his Cancer Moon.

Plus Earth Rising makes sense for a lot of reasons. If it is Cap Rising the ruling planet would be Saturn in Libra.

Whatever his Rising I know that he and I have a lot of affinities.

- My Sun in the 1st is Conjunct his Moon
- My Moon in Cap is Trine Venus in the 7th, with his Sun in Libra Conjunct Saturn
- His Mercury in Scorpio is Square my Mercury in Leo (My natal Mercury Squares Pluto)
- His Venus in Leo Square Uranus is Square my Venus in Taurus in the 11th
- His Mars in Scorpio Conjunct Uranus is Trine my Mars in Cancer. My Cancer Mars is Inconjunct Jupiter and Uranus and in the 1st.
- Both of our Moons are Square Pluto