posted April 09, 2017 07:20 PM            

I am about to break down because of all the stress. I just don't know how to tell him. I don't know how other girls could just easily ask for something from their men without feeling like they're asking for too much.

I have also been sexually frustrated as he rarely initiates sex or seems to want to have sex anymore. I thought it was all a myth about Mars in Cancer, but I am seeing that side of him now. He used to be so aggressive and wanted to do it a lot when we first started, but not so much now.

Is there anything in our charts that show why it's so difficult for me to tell him things? I feel that I'm also being unfair to him when I don't tell him things because I expect him to tell me things openly.

posted April 09, 2017 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by DreamCatcher:
Hi,
I'm no astrology expert, but I feel that this is likely more of a natal issue- do you find it difficult to talk to most people about your truest feelings? What makes you comfortable/uncomfortable etc? Maybe post your natal chart?

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Well yes and no. I do find that it's hard to start confrontation with others as to how I truly feel about a particular situation, but I do get it done usually. My best friend told me I'm really straightforward and that makes me pretty good at keeping things from escalating.

Here's my chart:

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So far, I've only truly found it hard to express how I feel with him and with my mom. My mom has her Saturn conjunct my Moon. It was really difficult when she asked me why I came home crying the one time after my very first heartbeeak. That was the only time I've ever told her how I felt.

posted April 10, 2017 12:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
from a first glance, it is his Saturn in square to your Moon...the demands coming from him will actually increase with time while the emotional reward to you will decrease...such is the dynamic of Saturn Moon square in synastry. The good side of it is that Saturn usually denotes longevity and the Saturn person ( him) stays loyal and steady...just colder over time. His natal Moon in Capricorn is just the same : loyal and steady but emotionally not very warm...his Moon is in direct opposition to your sensible Cancer Moon, so this will take a toll on you

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He's not really cold towards me, only at times when it makes sense to truly not give a f**k. Today, he kept asking me if I was okay although I didn't say anything that would make him think so. He has this thing where he can easily tell something's wrong. His demands are just quite inconsiderate. I don't know if that would fall into the category of "cold". I'm honestly just scared to tell him because he might judge me. He and I literally grew up with opposite childhood experiences. He experienced death of loved ones, his own biological mother hating him, having an irresponsible father, and his family was really poor back then. I, on the other hand, grew up like a princess (literally). I had a good family with my parents able to provide more than just my basic needs, I had never had a loved one pass away, and I had maids that did everything for me. He always jokes around about how I grew up in a "p u s s y" family because of how much easier it was for me back then.

It is also true that the demands are increasing and I'm not really emotionally satisfied. Before, I used to do things for him because I want to. I treat him like a king. I make him food, get the house cleaned, do his laundry along with mine, even buy him things every now and then. Now, I feel like I'm doing it all just to please him. I don't like the feeling of it. He's been pretty loyal so far, despite the fact that he was polyamorous when we met the first time.

posted April 10, 2017 01:03 PM            

I also agree with Sat/Moon square between you and he being difficult.

You two have Mars/Moon conjunct in Cancer. This means that you are able to up each others moods.

This could be good. But on the other hand, it could also result in you two irritating each other(especially for the Moon person)

Mars in Libra wants the other person to pull their weight. And with the ruler(Venus) being in Virgo, u want to feel appreciated for what u give.

He has Mars in Cancer with the ruler(Moon) conjunct Jupiter in Cap.

He has an appetite for sex. But his drive is controlled and restrained(Saturn) i.e He feels sexier when he is initiating(Aries) or leading. But it does have its depressive cycle of abstinence before it comes back again.

Saturn like Moon is very moody in essence. So try other forms of intimacy like cuddling etc. until it comes back.

posted April 12, 2017 01:44 AM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
I think that his almost unaspected mars might be the reason for your sexual incompatibility. If I'm reading the charts correctly, his mars only makes a sextile to your mercury. You might find it difficult to feel connected to his masculine side sometimes.

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posted April 12, 2017 01:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
He has Saturn/Mars square. That can affect his sex drive.

I also agree with Sat/Moon square between you and he being difficult.

You two have Mars/Moon conjunct in Cancer. This means that you are able to up each others moods.

This could be good. But on the other hand, it could also result in you two irritating each other(especially for the Moon person)

Mars in Libra wants the other person to pull their weight. And with the ruler(Venus) being in Virgo, u want to feel appreciated for what u give.

He has Mars in Cancer with the ruler(Moon) conjunct Jupiter in Cap.

He has an appetite for sex. But his drive is controlled and restrained(Saturn) i.e He feels sexier when he is initiating(Aries) or leading. But it does have its depressive cycle of abstinence before it comes back again.

Saturn like Moon is very moody in essence. So try other forms of intimacy like cuddling etc. until it comes back.

For now try and voice your concerns. You have a Moon/Ven trine aspect in synastry that can alleviate much of this oppression you feel.

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You are right Aries23. I like to feel appreciated for what I do, but these days it doesn't seem like he does. I think that's mainly why I've been feeling like this lately.

Imo, his "depressive cycle" has gone on for a long time now. It has been months and nothing has improved. I did kind of tell him about it but it's the same thing.

I'm really terrible at confrontations, so I wrote him a letter instead expressing how I feel. Now I just have to wait and see what he says.

posted April 12, 2017 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
He has Saturn/Mars square. That can affect his sex drive.

I also agree with Sat/Moon square between you and he being difficult.

You two have Mars/Moon conjunct in Cancer. This means that you are able to up each others moods.

This could be good. But on the other hand, it could also result in you two irritating each other(especially for the Moon person)

Mars in Libra wants the other person to pull their weight. And with the ruler(Venus) being in Virgo, u want to feel appreciated for what u give.

He has Mars in Cancer with the ruler(Moon) conjunct Jupiter in Cap.

He has an appetite for sex. But his drive is controlled and restrained(Saturn) i.e He feels sexier when he is initiating(Aries) or leading. But it does have its depressive cycle of abstinence before it comes back again.

Saturn like Moon is very moody in essence. So try other forms of intimacy like cuddling etc. until it comes back.

For now try and voice your concerns. You have a Moon/Ven trine aspect in synastry that can alleviate much of this oppression you feel.

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You are right Aries23. I like to feel appreciated for what I do, but these days it doesn't seem like he does. I think that's mainly why I've been feeling like this lately.

Imo, his "depressive cycle" has gone on for a long time now. It has been months and nothing has improved. I did kind of tell him about it but it's the same thing.

I'm really terrible at confrontations, so I wrote him a letter instead expressing how I feel. Now I just have to wait and see what he says.

posted April 13, 2017 01:34 PM            

I noticed you have Saturn in Aries opposing your Mars. So there is fear(Saturn) of anger(Aries).

If his interest in sex has waned for too long, highlighting its absence will not bring it back.

You two may have to find other forms of intimacy because if you force the issue, he may feel embarrassed and build defenses.

There is kissing, oral sex, sex toys, role playing, going out together as if on a date etc.

To have you favourably predisposed to him, he will have to lend a helping hand. And to help him feel better about himself, you will have to congratulate and highlight the efforts he makes.

posted April 14, 2017 02:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Hmmmm....wrote a letter? That sounds Libra Mars to the "t" lol.

I noticed you have Saturn in Aries opposing your Mars. So there is fear(Saturn) of anger(Aries).

If his interest in sex has waned for too long, highlighting its absence will not bring it back.

You two may have to find other forms of intimacy because if you force the issue, he may feel embarrassed and build defenses.

There is kissing, oral sex, sex toys, role playing, going out together as if on a date etc.

To have you favourably predisposed to him, he will have to lend a helping hand. And to help him feel better about himself, you will have to congratulate and highlight the efforts he makes.

It may not happen overnight but you two may gradually start connecting again.

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LOL yes, I find that my Mars has been quite prominent in the past couple of years. I actually used to not be like this. Idk what happened...

He told me he was sorry for how he's been making me feel but for some reason, I don't feel the sincerity in it and I still feel distant. I honestly don't know what it is that makes me feel like so.

It's true I feel scared of anger. I've been taught all my life it was wrong to feel angry.